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Original poster

I think I have been, re DH and DS1's birthday party

175 replies

Ormirian · 07/01/2011 13:41

DS1 was 14 on Tuesday. We are taking some friends to play laser tag on Sunday and the home for food and cake. Didn't want to do it on Saturday as DD has a riding lesson and it would mean rushing around like a mad thing to fit it all in. Could have done it Sunday afternoon but then it would run into Sunday evening chores (baths, packed lunches, inevitable last minute hw Hmm). So I booked it on Sunday morning and told DH today.

Problem is DH plays footie on Sunday am and there has only been one match for about a month. But there has hardly been a day over Christmas when Dh hasn't been out in the evenings for an hour or so, and has watched matches in the pub or at a friends' house. He managed to avoid a few family visits that way. All of which is fine in moderation but I think he took the piss personally this time.

I could change it to Sunday afternoon but as it would just increase the stress factor for me I don't want to. And I suspect I am trying to give him a subtle slap on the wrist - which isn't really like me.

DH didn't complain but looked a bit sorry for himself. So AIBU and selfish?

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Greenshadow · 07/01/2011 15:53

You ABU but you also have a lovely DH.

Make sure DC are bathed on Saturday night.

Spend Sunday morning getting sorted - homework done, lunches as organised as you can while DH is at football.

Then have the party on Sunday afternoon.

Easy!

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 15:57

Truck is on a wind-up. Can't you go and play with your willy whilst looking at sex pictures on the interwebs, like most normal men?

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:00

Hmmm... I think Greenshadow is too.

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Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:03

Nah, I'm off out to football training tonight.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:03

I was wondering if Greenshadow was your DH, disguised badly in a wig and lipstick, Ormirian? Grin

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Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:05

Worrying Hmm Actually he is picking up DS2 from school so probably be not. Anyway his main communication with any keyboard is via the medium of muttered curses and exclamations of irritation followed by him shouting 'Orm... the stupid bloody thing is stuck!'

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bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:07

It's a ruse. I bet he's a regular MNer. Look out for lipstick on his teeth when he gets in. They always forget to wipe it from there.

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:08

The minute he gets home just punch all his teeth in. In case.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:10

Men love pretending they are under the thumb. Makes them into real men or something

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:12

Weird. Men that do it are children, blaming their mummies.

cat64 · 07/01/2011 16:13

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JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:15

cat - she's making life awkward for her DH, just as he made life awkward for her over Christmas. Married life (IMO) consists of transactions. This is her payback

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:15

I am afraid you are too late. We have already pronounced.

Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:18

Cat- don't break ranks!

Repeat 10 times 'Men, pah'

seeker · 07/01/2011 16:20

Oh come on! You don't want the party on Sunday afternoon because of making the packed lunches???????

It's fine to sock it to your dh, but be honest with yourself about it! This sort of passive aggressive behaviour never ends well!

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:20

Tea spat out at Hully's "punch all his teeth in." Grin

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:22

Grin Truck. Nooooo "Men who use the excuse of football to override other family-related activities and responsibilities, pah"

not as pithy, admittedly

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:24

I must admit that I'm very lucky to have a DH who is not dominated by the sporting fixtures. That is because he is a proper grown-up.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:24

seeker, fair point about the PA, but if the packed lunches thing is a reason for Orm, then it's a reason

Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:26

I enjoyed 'this is her payback'

Reminds me of an Arnie type film.

'he thought he was going football Sunday morning,
He was wrong...this time it's payback'

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:26

Packed sodding lunches are a common type of shorthand for all the thousands of tasks necessary on a Sunday evening.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:26

I'm nails, me

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:28

packed lunches are a metaphor

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:28

Plus, a whole bunch of 14 yr olds back for cake food etc on Sunday late afternoon necessitates an awful lot of clearing up.

Don't worry Orm, I've got this for you.

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:28

Me AND James.