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Original poster

I think I have been, re DH and DS1's birthday party

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Ormirian · 07/01/2011 13:41

DS1 was 14 on Tuesday. We are taking some friends to play laser tag on Sunday and the home for food and cake. Didn't want to do it on Saturday as DD has a riding lesson and it would mean rushing around like a mad thing to fit it all in. Could have done it Sunday afternoon but then it would run into Sunday evening chores (baths, packed lunches, inevitable last minute hw Hmm). So I booked it on Sunday morning and told DH today.

Problem is DH plays footie on Sunday am and there has only been one match for about a month. But there has hardly been a day over Christmas when Dh hasn't been out in the evenings for an hour or so, and has watched matches in the pub or at a friends' house. He managed to avoid a few family visits that way. All of which is fine in moderation but I think he took the piss personally this time.

I could change it to Sunday afternoon but as it would just increase the stress factor for me I don't want to. And I suspect I am trying to give him a subtle slap on the wrist - which isn't really like me.

DH didn't complain but looked a bit sorry for himself. So AIBU and selfish?

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JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:28

Grr

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:30

hully, I've rarely seen you so persuasive. You are like a dog with a bone (in a metaphorical sense)

Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:30

I'm running out of time.

I'll respond with: I suppose he could be spending ALL his time on Mumsnet.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:31

OOOOH that's fighting talk

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:31

If she does all of her last minute housework in the morning, had the parpy in the afternoon then had all the teens back for cake, she would have to re-do all of her housework and also some children would be unable to get to Orm's home. All because DH wants to hoof a bag of air round a piece of grass with a gang of middle-aged men who should be at Ikea with their wives, fgs.

It simply won't do.

Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:32

Is 'parpy' a metaphor?

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:33

Can't bear let the little mensies be kiddy stuff.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:33

yeah!!

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:33

Am loving parpy

Deffo a metaphor

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:34
JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:34

I noticed parpy. I should imagine with a bunch of teenage boys there would be nothing metaphorical about it

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:38

Oops.

Parpy is what DS calls a party, it's caught on in our house now. Caught on so much I write it on MN Blush

PS - Hully linked arms with me! Blush Grin In your faces, motherfuckers!

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:40

can you feel love and glitter surrounding you bupcakes?

Yeah - in your faces douchebags!

Truckerulent · 07/01/2011 16:41

Got to go and play football,drink beer and hunt woolly mammoths.

Mr Orm. Fight the power.

seeker · 07/01/2011 16:41

I just think this sort of sneaky stuff does nobody any good. Be upfront - say why you think he's been an arse over Christmas and that you want him to take responsibility for ds's party.

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Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:41
Grin

This if fun. I shall tell DH he is a MN bone of contention.

seeker - yes but 'packed lunch etc' is indeed a metaphor for 'being responsible for getting 3 DC and 2 adults ready for the next day at school and work and making sure that the house isn't a complete tip so that it's not horrible to live in when we get home on Monday evening.'. And there isn't plenty of time to do things. Saturday morning will be cleaning and general maintenance crap that doesn't get done when we are work all week. Sat afternoon is riding. Sunday afternoon is party and 'packed lunches etc'. There is a limited amount of free time in our weekends and I am not entirely sure why the little we have should be DH's to dispose of as he sees fit.

Not to mention that I have accepted that with things the way they are this weekend I won't be able to go running.

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Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:42

ROFL at parpy. I am serving them chilli so that should sort out the parpy pretty well Grin

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Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:42

Yeah.

Ner, Seeker.

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:42

Don't forget be sick over yourself and trip over thin air and wake up DCs on your return, Truck.

My face is plastered in glitter as it goes. I removed all of my decorations on tuesday and the cheap crap deposited the glitter all over my fisog and it will not come off :(

Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:43

Show dh thread after you've punched his teeth in. If he is puzzled as to the assault.

Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:43

truck - I am ignoring you as you are clearly very silly

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Original poster
Ormirian · 07/01/2011 16:44

OK hully. I shall tell him you told me to.

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Hullygully · 07/01/2011 16:45

We want photos.

JamieLeeCurtis · 07/01/2011 16:46

seeker, I am sure you are right, but ner anyway

bupcakes - DH says fisog - I feel we must be bonded in some metaphorical way (you and me, not me and him - we are bonded in a literal way Hmm)

bupcakesandcunting · 07/01/2011 16:49

Heh heh, Jamie. Fisog is a good word. I learned it from my dad who only ever used it to enquire as to the reason for my mother giving him a frosty reception his on return from the workplace i.e "wot's up with your fisog?" Grin

Seeker is WRONG. Petty point-scoring and game-playing is the cornerstone of any good marriage, and I should know.