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Call of Duty computer game...not happy...

96 replies

becaroo · 05/01/2011 17:09

...went to see my dsis this morning.

Her 2 dc aged 7 and 5 were playing this game.

As I understand its a cert 18 game.

Am pretty appalled at her letting them play it tbh but hey, her house, her rules.

HOWEVER, she has asked ds1 to come for tea after school on monday and I absolutely do not want him playing this game (he is 7)

How do I broach the subject?

I think IABU to object to her kids playing on it tbh but feel its my right to say I dont want my ds1 playing it.

WWYD?

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compo · 05/01/2011 17:10
Shock I'd tell her I didn't want my child playng it
SandStorm · 05/01/2011 17:12

Just tell her. I wouldn't want mine to play it either and they're older than that.

HaveAHappyNewJung · 05/01/2011 17:12

Just be upfront. Tell her you don't want him playing it!

Katey1010 · 05/01/2011 17:13

This is my personal bugbear. Tell her but also have a conversation with your DS about it, about being appropriate and about not keeping secrets from you.

scurryfunge · 05/01/2011 17:13

I relaxed the rules about over 18 games when DS was 14 but 7 and 5!!

I am sure you can tell her that you do not want your child having access to it. You'll have to be frank with her and she would be unreasonable to have it on when your child is there for a couple of hours.

minxthemanx · 05/01/2011 17:17

Big bone of contention in this house. DS aged 9 desperately wanted Call of Duty for Christmas "as all his friends have it" (they DO!!) I absolutley refuse to let him have it, and am not happy he plays it at other people's houses. Really feel for you - dig your heels in.

Tiggamog · 05/01/2011 17:21

Totally agree, it's an 18 cert for a reason. Have a friend with a 4 yr old that plays! I would let her know how you feel, she's your dsis, so hopefully should respect your point of view.

mayorquimby · 05/01/2011 17:22

tell her you don't want your kid playing it....then happy

NotShortImFunSized · 05/01/2011 17:23

I'd just tell her straight so there is no confusion, "Thank you for having DS over for tea but could you just make sure he doesn't play Call of Duty as I don't think he is old enough."

NotShortImFunSized · 05/01/2011 17:24

Oh and YANBU Grin

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becaroo · 05/01/2011 17:27

hmmm...we dont have the easiest of relationships tbh!! and I dont want to come across all judgy...although of course I am judging my pants off! Grin

My youngest nephew has had a ds since he was 3 Sad my BIL is a big gamer and has ALL the consoles, ps1,2 and 3, x box, wii, kinect etc....I just dont understand why he cant wait til they are in bed to play, you know?

My ds1 is 7.5 had he has just had a wii and a ds for xmas as I felt I had held out long enough Smile

The bit I saw of it was very horrid..lots of guns, shooting etc Sad

sigh...how I long again for the days of pac man Smile

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Lonnie · 05/01/2011 17:27

Be upright about it I had a go at dh for playing it around ds whom was 9 and he is now a lot more careful.

you dont need to getinto anything big and heavy simply say to her that you feel this way and also tell your ds he may not play it. Explain why (it is a 18 you dont feel it is suitable) and he will likely accept it no issue.

gorionine · 05/01/2011 17:31

Just tell her. It is not as if your child was 17 1/2 and you insisted on him waiting 6 month! The game is an 18 game and your son is 7 it is not being judgy, it is being reasonable.

NigellaPleaseComeDineWithMe · 05/01/2011 17:38

It's all just guns and shooting - DS2 has asked for it for his b'day (14) - he won't be getting it....

lazarusinNazareth · 05/01/2011 17:52

Ds has a friend (7) who has this and when he goes for tea there I told his mum that I didn't want him to play it. If she'd got annoyed by that request I wouldn't have let him go.

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becaroo · 06/01/2011 10:37

thanks for the advice...will have a word with her tomorrow...or should I text???

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JamieLeeCurtis · 06/01/2011 10:38

Don't text. I think that if a hard conversation has to happen then it has to happen face-to-face

Chil1234 · 06/01/2011 10:40

Be assertive. Who's supposed to stick up for your child if you don't? Texting far too cowardly....

FabbyChic · 06/01/2011 10:41

It's a shooting game, it won't kill him or cause him unnecessary harm.

It is only a game, not real life.

My son plays it it is not gory, no horror just a shooting game.

JamieLeeCurtis · 06/01/2011 10:42

Can't agree Fabby. I've seen how worked up my DS2 (7) gets playing non-violent but exciting games like Mario Bros or Lego Harry Potter. NO-WAY would I let him take part in a game where he's basically killing people. No way

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becaroo · 06/01/2011 10:49

Would you let your son watch a cert 18 film then fabby???

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becaroo · 06/01/2011 10:50

Texting is cowardly isnt it? Just dont want it to turn into a "thing" you know?

Will speak to her tomorrow.

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MooMooFarm · 06/01/2011 10:58

Definitely don't text - I admit I would find it 'awkward' to approach the subject with someone I didn't know very well, but with your sister you should be able to talk about it really, IMO.

Just out of interest, does she realise just how awful this game is? I know it's easy sometimes to let children do something they say all their friends are doing, without having checked it out first.

I have an older child than yours (young teenager) and I won't let him play this game, although I do let him play a couple of other 16 and 18 rated games. I think it's more about the specific content of a game rather than the age rating. What makes Call of Duty so nasty is that it reflects battles which have really happened, and 'prides' itself on how realistic and true to actual events the battles and 'killings' are. Fine if as an adult that interests you (though I don't understand why it would!), but there's no way I want my children seeing that kind of thing.

FabbyChic · 06/01/2011 11:00

Becaroo, that would depend on the nature of the film wouldn't it! YOu have to base your decision on the type of film/game it is.

Call of Duty does have a lot of swearing other than that cannot see why it has an 18 cert.