Call of Duty computer game...not happy...

[becaroo]

...went to see my dsis this morning.

Her 2 dc aged 7 and 5 were playing this game.

As I understand its a cert 18 game.

Am pretty appalled at her letting them play it tbh but hey, her house, her rules.

HOWEVER, she has asked ds1 to come for tea after school on monday and I absolutely do not want him playing this game (he is 7)

How do I broach the subject?

I think IABU to object to her kids playing on it tbh but feel its my right to say I dont want my ds1 playing it.

WWYD?

pml - slightly off topic but it's had me giggling reminiscing at our past wardrobes! Happy Days indeed :o :o

the outfit I described above was a black and white polka dot affair...very chic.

the 80s really were the decade fashion fogot, werent they?

Haven't read all posts, so apolpgise if I am repeatiing stuff. DS (15)wanted this for Christmas so I checked the BBFC website (that is the body that awards the certificates). The website tells you why a particular film/game received a certain classification so you can then make an informed decision, eg one episode of Dr Who was a 12 because it showed a scene of torture albeit of a dalek. Anyway the website explained the game was an 18 because of the lingering shots of actions such as slitting a person's throat. DS is already worried about knife crime so i crossed that off his list.

thats a really good idea namechange I didnt know there was a website that you could check these things out on....might mention it to my dsis!

My son is nearly 12 and wants the game Call of Duty. The main topic of conversation at school amongst boys seems to be football (he is not interested)and C.O.D. He has recently started a new school where he knew no one and has found it hard to make new friends. C.O.D on the DS is rated 16, I asked why in the shop and was told it has this rating for violence and language. He says he will leave the sound down and not let his 2 younger brothers play or watch him play. We have no games like this in our house but I know he plays it when he is round at friends houses.
Any advice???

My DH plays all these types of games and he would never let our DC's play them / or play them around them.

It infuriates him how other parents are so relaxed about it, then the gaming industry gets a bad name because of it.

OP - I would say you are happy for DS to play on the computer but only with age appropriate games.

have never seen the game, but, my brother got a wii and COD black ops at xmas as he fancied a game other than the sports etc.

he played a couple of times and will not be playing again. in the game there was a scene where they were to torture a prisoner. to do this they broke a glass window and put the glass in the prisoners mouth and then punched him in the face.

if it makes a 48 year old this uncomfortable I cannot believe anyone can give it to their underage kids!

This game is not just a shooting game.

The throat slitting scenes/torture scenes are all removed if you use the parental controls. Then its just more of a shoot em up game IYSWIM. Having said that still think its way too much for a kid under 12/13.

Thanks all for the advice. C.O.D will not be making an apperance in our house.

The bit above where someone said it's not gory, I'm afraid I don't agree with that. DP has this game and when I last watched him play you where physically seeing the blood as the other 'character' was dieing. It wasn't/isn't very pleasant to be honest. In my own personal experience younger children retain a lot more information from these games than we may realize.

YANBU. Hope the convocation when ok with her.

My ds1 is 12 and he bought himself a Toy Story Three game for his wii yesterday

I stopped him from visiting a friend's house when he was about 8 because the parents let them play Grand Theft Auto.

COD isn't suitable for a child. No way. You need to speak up. Playing on games like that can have a lasting effect upon young minds. It's an 18 cert for a good reason.

Hi all.

Saw my sister in the school playground this morning. Made sure the children had all gone in and then said;

"Thanks for having ds1 for tea tonight - not sure who will be piscking him up but will let you know. By they way, I would rather ds1 didnt play COD whilst he's at your house."

She gave me a bit of a blank look and I said;

"dnephews were playing it last time I came round"

She then said;
"Were they?"

Me: "Yes. You asked them to turn it off when we arrived"

Sis: "That wasnt COD"

Me; "oh sorry I have got the wrong end of the stick then. Computer games are a bit of mystery to me. Thought I heard Dnephew call it that. (It was COD)

Sis; "They do play it, but I dont think they were playing it then."

Me; "OK, my mistake"

Sis: " Your Ds1 has never played that at my house"

Me: "Thats good. Thanks"

And then we left.

So, anything there she can get upset about?

Still very that she thinks its ok for a 5 year old to play! My eldest nephew is being assessed for aspergers...surely games like this wont help him????

tbh, I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving either of my dcs in the care of someone who lets their five year old play something like that. Do you have to let your ds be there without you? Does she babysit him or something? Sorry, I haven't read the entire thread.

Why don't you just invite her kids over for tea at your house? You obviously supervise your dcs better than she does. You could just make an excuse or something. Either that or you'll have to be upfront about it. Why are you worried about upsetting her? If one of her dcs has aspergers she should make far more effort to be a decent parent.

ILOVE She is in complete denial about dnephew. She thinks his behaviour is normal. sigh. The school raised the issues he has last year and he has been seeing various people since...paed, OT, SALT etc.

My youngest nephew is much quieter/gentle. Their dad works away all week (he is a self employed computer programmer and earns a a LOT of money) and comes home at weekends when he goes out on a friday night, spends til lunch on saturday in bed, takes them to toys r us and spends money on them or takes them to his mums who has them overnight and then on sunday plays golf. Then Monday back to work.

He spends NO time with them at all. I used to feel sorry for my sis but no longer. She enables his behaviour and it is very upsetting to see. I actually get quite angry about it now. He left her 18 months ago (for a day!) and told her he wouldnt see the boys again. He is a useless waste of space. It is him that plays the Games I am referring to. He probably has loads more too. Its not him playing them I find unacceptable. Its that he cant wait til they are in bed to play them.

Told my mum about it - that dnephews were playing a cert 18 game - and she just laughed. I could weep at times.

Ds1 enjoys going there. Its a big house and they have got lots of toys. I do invite them here occasionally but tbh its more trouble than its worth...they dont eat their tea, and every time they come eldest nephew ends up breaking something of my dc's. Not on purpose. Its just how he is....very, very clumsy.

Was going to mention the BBFC website that someone mentioned and that BBC programme to her so she can see what these games actually do to young minds but dont want to end up with a full on feud on my hands

I am glad I said something, but sad for my dnephews. I would NEVER let my ds1 sleepover there (with my BIL present) luckily he has never asked.

you are not being judgey for having an opinion! you can just say - honestly - that it is not something you agree with and you are well within your rights to have an opinion on it if your boy spends time there

people should not be afraid to have an opinion - if she does not like it, that is her right, but you are within your rights to not want your son near this game

I would definately NOT let a seven year old play this. disgusting

I won't let my 14 year old play it. He does play it at a similar age friends house and I don't feel I can tell his parents they shouldn't let them play it. Your sister sounds a bit mental to let early primary school age kids play it though and I'd be wondering if her parenting is crap in other aspects too and wouldn't be keen on my kids going there, and would definitely say no age inappropriate games.

Well, I've gone and done it now!

I feel so strongly about this and - from your comments 99% of you feel the same - so I have e mailed her and basically said that I respect her as a parent but I am shocked that her dc play these games with her knowledge. I have also mentioned the BBFC website and the recent panorama programme.

sigh. I am going to regret that.

No you won't regret it. Have the courage of your convictions and be confident that your opinions are more than valid. If more people held these convictions about these violent games and did restrict their children's use of them then things would be better for all of us.

I can't understand what's going on in people's minds for them to allow their dcs on these games. They must be either crazy, or simply don't give a damn.

Good for you becaroo

Thanks!

Have had a rather terse reply to my e mail;

"When (BIL) plays is up to him. They (nephews) arent playing it anymore. Wont be an issue when (my ds1) comes round".

sigh. Hope she speaks to me tomorrow, but you know what? Even if she doesnt I am glad I have made my views clear. If it means my dnephews wont be playing this awful game anymore then it was worth it.