To not help a 'friend' out for her wedding.

[MerryGhostMas]

Okay, i am SURe I am NBU- it is a WWYD really. (I have namechanged.... )

Been with Dh 7 years, He is alot older than me, and met and married me within a year of divorcing his former wife. Alot of 'our' friends were their friends, and many of the women have been a bit funny about me - me being so much younger etc. (25 years, give or take.) I was not the 'other woman'.... the ex actually had an affair. Anyway, that is by the by....

One particular friend has always been funny. Refuses to acknowledge me. Sends Xmas cards to Dh only, that sort of thing. She is getting married this year- second marriage. She sent an invitation to DH only. That annoyed us, as you can imagine! But, a few days later she rang Dh and asked if i would be willing to be a waitress on the night, as they were a bit stretched finances wise, and if they got 'friends' to volunteer, then the costs of the buffet were reduced. Dh stammered and said that he would ask me.

Um, NO. NO NO NO. Obviously not. we have a baby, and it would cost me money to go and 'work' as a volunteer, and get a sitter if DH was going to the wedding. Dh says it might be a goodwill gesture (he is not saying it seriously actually... ) but really. WIBU to say fuck you and the horse you rode in on? Should I just decline? Should i throw an almighty strop?

I am fucked off, actually.

Actually, no, this is more a rant. I think I SHALL say fuck you.......

[WordOfTheDay]

Hear, hear - Bogeyface, well said.

[OTheHugeManatee]

Aaah. The end of this thread has given me a lovely warm fuzzy feeling.

[FindingStuffToChuckOut]

Mirro her behaviour & send a Christmas card to her DP telling him to tell her FU!!!

[Numberfour]

Brilliant thread.


Have fun in Paris, OP.

[Needanewname]

I couldn't actually read the whole thread, I'm so outraged on your behalf.

WTF was your DH thinking even passing the message along and contemplating going to the wedding?

In fact why is he even friends with this woman when he can see she's not excepted you?

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ajandjjmum]

What's quite interesting is that the problem seems to have arisen due to your DH's second marriage, and yet she's now entering her second marriage - doesn't that make her pretty two faced?

Glad it's sorted and in such a positive way.

[NorwegianMoon]

id just turn up as a your dps date without telling her dressed in the most beautiful white wedding dress and then slap her.

or do the waitress thing and put laxatives in her drink. ha ha ha

im evil, i know.

[olderandwider]

In case there is any chance the old bag missed the OP's phone message, may I suggest the following message is sent on crisp Basildon Bond written with a classy fountain pen:


Mr and Mrs MerryGhostmas regret that they will be unable to attend the wedding of Mr (groom's name) and Miss (old bag's name)owing to a prior engagement.


That's it. Nothing more needed.

Wedding present - WH Smith gift tokens are about as dull as it gets.

[thereistheball]

OP - how was the pub with DH? Would love to know how he feels about it all having digested it a bit. Would he be interested in reading this thread?

Have a wonderful time in Paris. Well done.