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on how to deal with dh,

184 replies

furiouswife · 03/01/2011 10:29

My H went out last night with a friend, and ended up being stuck in a car for 3 hours, as H fell asleep in the car, and instead of his mate bringing him home, his mate continued to party and left dh stuck in a car park, locked in a car Angry.

firstly my H doesn't drink, its his first drink in over 5 years, so this is completely out of character, and just not him at all.

Im furious because I "think" his mate was drink driving, and dh even tho intoxicated got into a car with a wasted person, and ended up being stranded in a car in a car park in the middle of nowhere. Im furious as he was only going to our local for the last bell.

We finally got him out the car at 5.30 this morning, after other wife eventually got through to her H, who said my H was fine, he wasn't, H was crying, frightened and confused as by this point he was stuck in the car for 4 hours, and he couldn't break any of the windows, or get out etc...

I cant believe him and his mate potentially endangered others lives.

Mates wife has phoned the police, (alot of reasons, but think this incident in the last straw for their relationship) however Im not sure how to deal with my wankard off a husband.

Im furious and cant think straight!

OP posts:
pink4ever · 03/01/2011 13:37

OMG this has to be one of the best threads I have ever read on mn. For the dh panicking about being locked in a car(rofl)and also for the op and had sanctimonious(up her own arse tone). Really have been laughing out loud reading all the responses.Keep em coming please!

thenightsky · 03/01/2011 14:02

I've owned a Rover. They are so shoddily built that you could probably write one off from kicking it to death from the inside Grin

SantasENormaSnob · 03/01/2011 14:05

I don't beleive any of this.

If this is what story your dh is telling you then I would suggest he is lying.

IAmReallyFabNow · 03/01/2011 14:29

Why is his mates marriage over and what did your dh do to save his child and risk his own life?

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 03/01/2011 14:35

Well I highly doubt he rescued his DC from a burning car, for starters Xmas Grin

thebrownstuff · 03/01/2011 14:47
Xmas Grin
mommmmyof2 · 03/01/2011 14:56

I would have made dh sleep on the sofa too if he was a drunken mess, afterall it definatly better than the car he got trapped in!
And as for the comments 'what would you rather him do' nothing!! I think the most annoying thing about the whole thing would be the fact he got himself in the mess in the first place.I would have been angry if he was in the car or walking the streets drunk, how old is he 16!
I think he proberly has learnt his lesson but i don't think she is nasty what so ever for acting the way she did, human nature if you ask me Hmm

ilythia · 03/01/2011 15:16

This is so weird. Have we all slipped into the MN time/space continuum gap?

How can you be blaming your DH for someone else's behaviour?
this could explain why he coulnd't get out though

ilythia · 03/01/2011 15:18
verytellytubby · 03/01/2011 15:24

Hilarious.

verytellytubby · 03/01/2011 15:25

Never let him go to Las Vegas with his mate Grin

susiedaisy · 03/01/2011 16:22

i would say he was crying because he knew you would go bonkers with him, did he not have a phone, could he not of just kept his hand on the horn for ages, someone would of got well pissed off with that noise and prob called police, thus releasing poor trapped hubby from his metal prison, think hes pulled the wool over your eyes here!!!

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 03/01/2011 16:27

Oh Jesus, don't encourage her. She'll have his bollocks on a platter. Poor fucker.

susiedaisy · 03/01/2011 16:30

i think shes ducked out of this one, got more than she bargined for.

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 03/01/2011 16:33

Xmas Grin Oh the Might of Mumsnet. Wonder if he will be allowed to sleep in his bed tonight. Or if he's in for a night in the dog kennel/shed/on the sofa.

thenightsky · 03/01/2011 16:39

susiedaisy Yes apparently he did have a phone because it was the OP that woke him up by ringing him.

And yes, the car horn did go off because he has having a hissy tantrum in the car that caused the alarms to go off.

This is going to be one of those threads that keeps going around in circles. People will join, ask about the phone and the alarm, people will answer. Then more riducule of OP's DH. Then someone will ask about the phone.

Rinse and repeat.

hatesponge · 03/01/2011 16:43

Have just read whole thread. I have no idea what actually happened because there are so many contradictions and the timeline makes no sense.

The only thing that does seem clear is that the OP's H is shit scared of his wife...and not unreasonably so!

Does anyone else think it will be a lot longer than 5 years before he's allowed out for a drink again? Grin

Original poster
furiouswife · 03/01/2011 16:45

No I haven't had more than I bargained, Hmm.

There is nothing more to discuss, and as thenightsky said, its only going round in circles and is pointless in doing so.

Going to bath my children, dh has had a earful from the majority of his family, for being so stupid, which he has accepted as he knows he was reckless.

Family time however.

OP posts:
SarahStrattonsBaubles · 03/01/2011 16:47

She is one scary mofo.

I think he will be tippy toeing out of the shed/dog kennel in the middle of the night, and running down that road as fast as his skinny little superhero legs will carry him.

If he has the bottle that is Xmas Hmm

Bathsheba · 03/01/2011 16:51

Why on earth would someone who doesn't drink at all go to the pub "for the last bell"....IME people who don't drink at all don't have the "pub mind" to do that - I can safely say that none of my non-drinking friends would even know when last orders WERE....In fact with all the canges in licensing laws over the last few years, I have no idea when it is myself.

So the whole story sounds a tad flawed from the start...

Thistledew · 03/01/2011 16:53

Oh God. Poor guy. Not only does he get a dressing down from his wife but gets put on the naughty step by the whole family! I can imagine aunty Edna and uncle Eric being told to call him up and give him a good telling off!

This superhero/ naughty boy thing seems to be ringing bells - "He's not the Messiah. He's a very naughty boy!"

crunchbag · 03/01/2011 16:55

Hope he had a bottle in the car :o
Otherwise there will be a cleaning bill too...

OP, yanbu for being angry with him regarding his irresponsible behaviour. But I think being stuck in a car is serving him right and he had a good few hours of sleep. I just don't understand why nobody phoned the police to get him out if he got so distressed Hmm

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 03/01/2011 16:55

His family or her family though? Xmas Hmm

hottiemamma · 03/01/2011 16:58

Wind up for sure!

Shimmerysilverglitterybaubles · 03/01/2011 16:58

Your dh has been bollocked by most of his family? And he accepted this? How do the majority of his family know about this one off, first drink in five years incident? Suppose YOU made sure they all knew did you? Fucking hell his life sounds MISERABLE! Poor bloke Sad.