mum not going to my brothers wedding

[scruffybird]

Is my mum being unresonable to not go to my brothers wedding?
Ok background info, my brother has a 9 year old son from a previous relationship who since he was very young has spent most weekends at my parents house with my brother seeing him for a few hours over the weekend.
My brothers current partner wants nothing to do with my nephew and tries to make it as difficult as possible for my brother to see his son. They have two boys together both under 2 and are hoping to get married next year. My mum asked if his older son would be invited and my brother went quiet, to which my mum replied "If he isn't invited then I will not be there".
Also I am then torn because do not want my brother to have no close family there but also don't think its right to not invite his son.

[expatinscotland]

Screw him, scruffy. If it were my sister, she wouldn't be my sister anymore. Your mother is NBU.

And like fuck I'd get them a gift! A curse more like it.

[TubbyDuffs]

Well, I've never seen a AIBU thread where everybody totally agreed.

Can you email him a link to this thread, and let him see for himself what a total twunt he is being?

[melezka]

Or get prospective SIL to join MN and post "I don't want BF's DS at my wedding" on AIBU

[LittleMissHootsMon]

oh melezka, i like your style....

[LittleMissHootsMon]

Scruffy: if you are on FB.... press the F button on the RHS of the comment...

go on....

Someone HAS to tell him...

[melezka]

"No, go on, it will be ok, everyone posts on AIBU on their first time on MN"

heeeeeeeeeeeee

[LittleMissHootsMon]

[TottWriter]

Disguise the link - it'll be like RickRolling her, only you'll be pissing off her misplaced morals.

Your mum is an absolute hero, by the way. I hope you tell her that we're all behind her 100%. She deserves a hug, too!

[TyraG]

Your mom is DNBU, I wouldn't go either.

Your brother and his DF are AIDS infested cum bubbles on the ass of a syphilitic donkey. Your DN is better off without a douche noodle of a father around. Thank goodness he has you and your mom.

[CheerfulYank]

Wow, tyra.

He sounds like a horrible man and a horrible father. Your mum INBU, and I wouldn't go if I were you.

[wannaBe]

I would go.

And when it came to the bit where "if anyone knows of any reason why these two should not be wed" I would stand up and say "yes, because this woman is stopping him from seeing his son, who by the way has not been invited at her demand, and he is being a spineless twat and is denying his son because of this bitch." and then i would leave.

Actually, I don't think I'd have the nerve to do it but I would be sorely tempted.

[mamas12]

wow agree with everything that has been said so far.

What would happen scruff if you, your mym and nephew turned up at the wedding??

[mummy1992]

Im with your mum, the bride to be sounds like a bit of a nutcase.

[dinkystinky]

OP -your mum is 100% in the right here - and your brother needs to short himself out and realise he is a man, not a boy...

[MumNWLondon]

OP - you mum is being totally reasonable, and you already know this by your brother and his girlfriends are behaving in a shocking way. Poor nephew at 9 he'd know he was being excluded. I hope you don't go either.

[RudeEnglishLady]

Your Mum is exactly right - what a hero.

DB and his GF are appalling - I hope a moth eats her dress.

[maktaitai]

Your mum is right to take a stand.

But right now, i do feel a bit for your brother. He should have sorted this years ago and now he's stuck. He has three children. He's engaged to a woman who is not exactly rational on certain subjects; he must be worried he's going to end up not seeing his younger two children.

Your delightful sister-in-law to be is the one who deserves the grief. Do you know anyone in her family who might be able to talk to her?

[amaterasu]

OP has anyone ever confronted your brother or his absolute delightful catch of a girlfriend about the damage they are doing to his child?

I personally would have hit the roof by now and wiped the floor with the callous bitch and belittled your spineless twat of a brother til he cried like a silly little girl ....but then I DO have incredible PMT right now

I do feel that this needs to be addressed though, rather than merely boycotting the wedding (which goes without saying - I would not attend even if they paid me)

Your mother is doing the right thing by refusing to attend this farce of a wedding and I hope she will do everything in her power to raise the boys self esteem - the damage that his father is doing by denying him a part in his celebrations will be long remembered and possibly irreparable

Sorry for the rant ...I feel very strongly about this sort of shite

[melezka]

maktaitai think you are right

[GotArt]

My goodness! I sincerely hope that by the time the invites go out, that twat of a fiance will have realized that she is a twat about not wanting SDS at the wedding. If not, you should be clear as to why you and your mother will not be attending. Stand up for the little one.

[pigletmania]

YANBU and nor is your mum. Why the hell is your borther marrying someone that does not accept his son . You and your mum should have words with him.

[pigletmania]

Boycott the wedding. Agree with others that your brother sounds like a spinless twat.

[christmaswishes]

I agree with others. His son should be at the wedding. Your mum is right to stand up for his son. If he wont she should. I dont think I would want to go to a wedding where he is marrying a witch! I wouldnt be happy with it. Dont go either, have some backbone and stand up for the son.

[melezka]

moth eats her dress

[izzywizzywoowooo]

And he is marrying this nutter because...?

Your mum is DNBU, in fact she sounds like a star, sticking up for an innocent 9 year old!

How old is brothers partner? She sounds fucking immature, and to think she has children herself..

I really hope your brother decides what to say in yrs time when nephew asks why he let some bitch stop him from having a dad.