to be fing fed off at ss.....

[nilbymaaf]

I mean really....I feel like a criminal now. Why are they assessing me as a parent? All I did was try to protect my babies. My 5 year old autistic son had a medical examination at school, without my consent and without me there... He has been unable to sleep since and is still traumatised. The only reason I know is that he repeats things using echolalia all the time and has been saying ' what a healthy boy' 'open up say aaaah' I thought it was a bit strange and then the penny dropped. How dare they do that to him, I don't even know what they did. Why didn't they tell me, I wouldn't have refused permission.
Yes I know they have a job to do, but why act like this?

What a sad thread. Before I'd had my own very similar personal experiences, I'd have assumed that everyone here was unreasonably maligning poor SS. No longer.

But OP, remember that you are able to complain to the LA and then Ombudsman about the medical examination happening without your knowledge. If SS cannot prove that it was necessary to do it without telling you, then they will have to apologise. Ultimately, they still get very frightened by parents who complain.

But did SS carry out the medical exam, or was it just the standard check up that happens in school in Y1 and, I think Y5?
Was the letter telling the op what was happening at the bottom of a book bag?

But why is the error automatically assumed to be the 'service user's'?

OP you say "I feel like a criminal...why are they assessing me"? Any mum would feel the same in your position, maybe it would help to examine your assumptions there. An assessment is a tool to give a worker facts and a clearer understanding of the situation, it is not an accusation of anything and certainly not a criminal accusation.
What assessment are they doing? Was it school who did the medical exam?
Sorry to hear of your son's upset about it, it sounds as if it would have been FAR better done with you there.

You are stereotyping an entire profession. That is disgraceful. Comparing them to nazis? Come on! Unacceptable on any level. And to repeat that view? Wow. I know social workers and I know how wonderful they are. The good ones are treated badly by people who either see what happens with the bad ones, or who listen to people like you who don't care to see past their own situations.

I did not dismiss all the bad things that happen and I'm sorry you went through something horrible. In fact, if you actually read my post, you will see I said there were bad eggs everywhere, and social services are no different. But just because you were treated badly by some of them, doesn't mean that all of them are terrible people.

If you genuinely don't see anything wrong with what you have posted, I feel very badly for you indeed.

Well, I suppose that there is stereotyping of both sides in the press, and the people that sw work with are going to see services cut by this government in the future, with the thinking being why throw money into a bottomless pit? It's happening in education, so pretty soon there might well be one duty sw per area whose job it is to enter data and see which areas are failing most. Not to do anything about it, because of course the situation is hopeless.

Nazis?
Euthanasia for the mentally and physically handicapped, forced sterilisation of those deemed unsuitable breeding stock, camps for those not wanted in a pure society...
Are you sure that's what you meant gingerjam?

"forced sterilisation of those deemed unsuitable breeding stock"

Gently encouraged, perhaps

Started in Scandinavia before the nazis jumped on the bandwagon. I can really see it appealing to far-right tax payers in this country.
The same ones that begrudge Operation Trident running, because
"It's only black teenagers killing each other and we should just let them get on with it"
Opinion of a colleague's partner at a staff do.
So social workers. Bottom of the pile and covered in shit.

I hate them too, I have had them involved over ds and I think on the whole they are a bunch of idiots.

Several times they have read my notes wrong, misinterpreted stuff, spouted a load of bollocks, examined my son without my presence(after he accused my dp of hitting him which was not true and ds later admitted he made it up).

They refused me any help or support with my ds and our family when I needed it most, yet were on my back when things with him went pear shaped.

I am sure there are some wonderful social workers out there but I haven't come across any

Oh wow. You now owe me an apology as well. But judging by your attitude, I don't expect one. I'm neither condescending nor a twit, but if that helps you deal with what I'm telling you, feel free to keep wrongly thinking that. :)

I reported your last post with the disgusting language and it has been deleted. I will report this most recent one as well.

Like I said before, I am sorry you had a bad time, but that does not justify you insulting me or using clearly offensive terms.

comparing a whole cohort of people to Nazis is dreadful

taintedsnow is a social worker. there you go.

You can't use terms like that gingerjam, you just can't. No one is dismissing what happened to you, it was clearly horrible and still has effects on you and your family now.

But you simply can't go around calling people nazis. It's destroying any credibility you have on this thread, surely you can see that.

I owe you no apology tainted snow.

No, I am not a social worker, far from it.

There's no reasoning with you, is there?

urgh

all sympathy one might have had for you gingerjam has evaporated with your insistence

I did and I can.

You did, but you can't, hence why your posts are being deleted.

I didn't ask for sympathy. You feel sorry for those ss though and we know why the world is a lovely place.

I don't think you are being reasonable.

I'm not the OP - but I do know her story - although given the way the thread has gone I'm not sure this is going to be the best thread for advise to her now (I had been chatting to the OP on FB but crashed off to sleep ).