To get annoyed when mnetters put "of" instead of "have"

[Doobies]

I see it more and more often in aibu.

"to of eaten this"

"to of gone out today"

To give a couple of examples.

Well, I have just clicked on the topics list, and unless you happen to click on the 'Other' topic subheading, you will not find Pedants' Corner. When I joined mumsnet, I certainly didn't read through and memorise each and every possible location for threads - I looked at threads from the last hour, as a good starting point.

But OP is asking if SIBU, so it belongs here?

Usualsuspect, yes it would be a shame if people were put of mn because of it. What I'm asking, though, is why people are upset by it? If my grammar was corrected I would be grateful, why do some people take it so badly? Is it down to how the advice is given? So is it ok if it is said politely but not ok if done in a rude way? Or is it just unacceptable full stop to correct someones grammar? Why, if so? What is so bad about learning and getting it right as an adult, if we are always trying to show children the importance of learning and school?

Oh bugger now I'm doing it! Off, clearly, not of! Typo, honest!

nightmare - as I pointed out, I wasn't slagging anyone off. But I was - along with others - slagging off poor grammar.

And the OP posed a question, therefore being in AIBU is entirely reasonable.

Because I don't personally use correct grammar, punctuation etc on MN I'm far too lazy and see no need for perfectly typed posts on a forum ..I find it petty and patronising if mistakes are pointed out

However in pedants corner you can pat yourselves on the back all you like

Oh and while I'm here... using 'his' instead of 'he's' is an odd one I've come across too. As in 'his lovely isn't he?'

Usualsuspect, I completely agree, it is all about writing in the appropriate style for the audience, so different styles for an essay compared to an internet forum. However, do you see that the problem some people posting here have is where, in some cases, people are not aware that 'should of' and the other errors mentioned are incorrect. There is a difference between being less careful with typos/punctuation and just not knowing what you have written is wrong. If it is wrong, why is it a problem if someone points it out? As I asked above, why do people feel threatened by it? I genuinely don't mind, in fact would prefer people did point it out if I consistently made an error.

I think that some people would feel embarrassed and made to feel stupid judging by some of the remarks on this thread ..also what sounds wrong to you might be how they talk iyswim..I tend to write as I talk on the internet

I suppose it's just different people are irritated by different things. With some, they read something that just looks 'wrong' and it grates on them. Other people would be much more irritated by someone mentioning it, so fair enough.

I just figure that if you are used to reading something correctly written, you are more likely to notice errors and more likely to pick up on your own when they matter (i.e. not on a forum).

I'm coming at it from a different angle to you I think, you seem happier to switch from correct to incorrect. I think that would confuse me and I would be less likely to be able to proof read effectively.

There are certain words I have a block about and always stop to think carefully when I type them. I think seeing them written wrong doesn't help me at all as my brain begins to accept the incorrect spelling as correct! I had that issue with 'definitely' for a while, I saw it spelt incorrectly so often I had to force myself to think each time I wrote it! I never used to have that problem years ago, as the writtn words I saw were mostly in books and mostly correct.

I'm genuinely puzzled by the "too lazy" POV. If you know what the correct grammar is, how is it more onerous to type something correctly as opposed to incorrectly?

Point taken with dyslexia and processing issues altinkum, but I really don't see it as something that holds water for most people. If you know how to spell, punctuate and use grammar, in most cases I would think it's simply second nature to write correctly.

Doobies...

If you are going to use points of ellipsis, be mindful that you should only use three...

A bit of a bugbear of mine...

People use far to many...

The correct number is three...

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PMSL, MsKlo!

I'm lazy and a crap typist and I use the internet for fun

when typing on mn i am normlly just relaxing at home and want a bit of advice or conversation,i am not at work or taking an exam so not really that bothered about grammar or typos made by me or others.
If it bothers you that much you should get out more.

Yes, but how does being lazy or a crap typist cause someone to make grammatical errors if they know the correct grammar in the first place? Typos with letters missing or transposed I can understand, but I don't see how poor grammar results from laziness or being casual in typing. Either you know the correct grammar or you don't, and if you do, surely you'd use it naturally?

What does PMSL mean?

Please explain...

Ta

because correct grammar is not important on a forum to me ...I already said I write as I speak and I don't suppose I speak correctly either but who cares

I probably dont either but hold down a good job and enjoy good conversation,it just isnt important to me,far worse things you could do.Very important if you are an english teacher or suchlike but i am not.Have got thru 43 yrs speaking and writing like this so no issue to me whatsoever.

Good grief it doesn't matter.Only matters to pedants, and no one cares what they think anyway.

YABU
For Gods sake this is an internet forum!
Good grammar is not essential on the internet and honestly people who point it out on threads where the OP is clearly upset/angry irritate me far more than the original grammar mistake.

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