I think I saw a (very) unscientific experiment once where women were asked to gauge the attractiveness of a man based solely on an inch of skin to the side of their nose and about 3 inches of forearm. (the blokes were behind a black screen so that was all the women could see).
Almost every woman chose the same three men, and they were your typical 'alpha' types, you know about 6ft, slightly tanned, slightly furred, rough skin (but not scarred), medium muscles. This was despite the stated preferences of the women involved.
It was interesting but was just by a bunch of university students so not peer reviewed or anything, but the forearm thing here reminded me. Forearms not really my thing, I like broad heavily muscled backs and big round biceps. And nice heavy thighs. Luckily DH also not opposed to heavy thighs. [
DH also a front, ears OKish, but the nose alas is not what it used to be. 
Shodan you may have rugby players confused with soccer players, DH couldn't give a fuck about his hair as long as it isn't in the way.
Brigit you need to decide whether you are willing to accept that, don't settle, you deserve to be with someone who fancies you. It doesn't have to be all animal passion all the time, but life is too short to spend it with someone who isn't that into you.