Do you still fancy your dp?Honestly.

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I love my dp but I dont really fancy him,he lets off wind all the time,never makes a effort with his apperance,works all the time ,and when he is home he moans.

I do love him though but just wandered is the norm after 18 years?.

Been together nearly 25 years, and still fancy the pants off him

Been together 20! years. Yep, still fancy the pants off him. Heart still flutters when he walks in the door.

I don't think you're going to get complete honesty here- in spite of anonymity of posters- because people will lie to themselves.
I simply do not see how it is possible to go weak at the knees if you are living with someone 24/7.
Let's face it; relationships get boring and you wish you were with someone else after a few years- at least sexually.
People only stay together in the long-term if they've got a good friendship, shared goals and quite like each other. All this makes up for the fact that you're bored s* and lie there thinking of someone else.
If you haven't got these 'compensations', I say get out now.

Yes, marantha because your experiences and view of relationships is the only true one and anyone who has a different experience must be lying.

So to all those women who are treated poorly by their husbands, I am sorry but MY husband is kind and gentle so your's must be as well, stop lying.

Is it really so hard to believe that some people can actually be happy with who they are with? Even in the long term?

It doesn't get talked about much on here for the same reason you don't get posts saying things like 'we have stacks of cash do I go business or first on our next luxury holiday?' or 'my children are all healthy and pretty well behaved, what shall I do?

Not everyone is struggling and wishing they were with someone else, even after a long time.

Agree with Morloth. My dh is also kind and gentle and treats me with reapect. Every single day I am thankful that he is my husband.

Yep also agreeing with Morloth.

Plus has lovely ex-rugby player's thighs.

Ooh. Today's definitely one of the 'Hell yes ' days. Early night I reckon

I'm not lying or fooling myself when I say I still fancy my dh after 13 years of being together.

I'm not "weak in the knees" 24/7...that would get very uncomfortable after a while I imagine . But, sometimes, the pressure of life and children eases up for just a nano-second, and I catch dh's eyes, and he looks....perfect. And yes I do go weak in the knees then.

Thing is, most women might find dh ordinary at best. But he ticks all the boxes of what I want in a man...he has the kindest, most gorgeous hazel-brown eyes, and wide shoulders and strong arms. I'm completely prepared to accept his wobbly tummy with all the other pluses

I truly honestly don't imagine anyone else when I'm with him.

I am starting to wonder now, DH is also a rugby player. Do they get special lessons on woman pleasing at training? I thought they just ran into each other a pot then went drinking...

A LOT not a pot, am on phone.

Been together 6 years, married 5 but yes I most certainly do. rawr!!

Been together 20yrs and he still gives me butterflies when i see him. He cycles and keeps fit...He has a gorgeous face and is kind, considerate and intelligent. I always feel very safe in his arms.(vomit bowls are available!)

Yes I still fancy dh, been together 14 years.

yes

Yes. He is lovely. I wish I wasn't always so tired from kids/work./study, because I don't get to show him how much I fancy him on a regular enough basis.

But yes, 10 years and the odd fart later , i still really fancy him.

Also agree with Morloth, btw.

I'm incredibly happy with my husband and our marriage. I don't bang on about it because I am not Mrs Smuggity Smuggins. But he is kind, loving, warm, upbeat and lovely to me and our kids. He is a Good Man. I thank my lucky stars I have got him.

I do actually. I think he's gorgeous. When he kisses my neck I get actual prickly goosebumps

We've been married 13 years.

It has not been a 13yr bed of roses I'll admit but if after 13 years I still get goosebumps when he kisses me, then something's going right

Been together 5 years. I would say I fancy him most of the time.

When he makes an effort he is gorgeous and he has a perfect bum (I never appreciated the beauty of bums until I met him).

The main thing that makes me go weak is the way he touches me and holds me. He is so gentle. During my labour with last DS I am sure he was the reason I managed so long without any pain relief.

The only time I don't fancy him is when he is being really loud and noisy (which he tends to be at times).

After 13 years, yes, in fact fancy him and love him more than at the start.

oooh, yes. Gorgeous.

Ahh, "ex-rugby player's thighs" - nothing sexier!

Like, fancy and love the DH to bits - he's the sexiest, loveliest, warmest, kindest person I've ever met... Morloth starting to wonder if you might have a point about those rugby boys!

Just wondered if footballers are the same...the papers would suggest the opposite!! Happy to stand corrected...

Yes but not today. He's lying on the living room floor on a duvet snoring and stinking of beer (Christmas do last night). I even got a whiff of kebab when I went too close.

Oooh, yes! Its only been 5 years though so ask me again in 15.

He has amazing arms and a gorgeous nose!
He's rarely farts in front of me- he thinks its "uncivilised".
He doesn't make much effort with his appearance but I like the scruffy look (old jeans and two days worth of stubble = mmmmmmm!)and he's always clean.

Ex rugby player Dh here too, he's the kindest man I've ever met, gentle, considerate, just utterly lovely. And of course there are those thighs...