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Do you still fancy your dp?Honestly.

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flakeofsnow · 17/12/2010 19:33

I love my dp but I dont really fancy him,he lets off wind all the time,never makes a effort with his apperance,works all the time ,and when he is home he moans.

I do love him though but just wandered is the norm after 18 years?.

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Shodan · 18/12/2010 13:17

Dunno about footballers- I think they spend too long fannying about with their hairdos to be truly sexy, so that would kind of outweigh the thighs for me... Xmas Grin

Occasionally I ask DH to flex his biceps so I can have a furtive squeeze of them too. There's another sexy thing (despite said biceps not having been used for the last decade. I wonder if I can get him down the gym...)

Librashavinganotherbiscuit · 18/12/2010 13:19

"I simply do not see how it is possible to go weak at the knees if you are living with someone 24/7."

Of course there are times when I am staring at skid marks in the toilet bowl thinking "god I am married to the grossest man on earth" and I am sure (I know) there are things I do which makes him blanche (is that the right word?) but I am not sure why you think this negates the fact that I fancy the pants off him.

Malificence · 18/12/2010 13:32

How sad for someone to think that people who are being genuine and honest are actually deluding themselves, Marantha - what has happened to make you so bitter and cynical?
If I had to "lie there and think of someone else", I wouldn't be with him - sex should get better and better the longer you've been together.

I agree about forearms and broad chest/shoulders being sexy, DD goes for extremely tall and skinny young men, her BF is very beautiful but very scrawny, mind you, DH had a 26 inch waist at 18 but has always had a swimmer's body.

There are two things in life I have to have, good whisky and good sex, thankfully I had them both last night. Wink

YuleTideD0G · 18/12/2010 13:36

Yes, very much so.

Although it's only been 8 years but we do have 4 dcs, and if anything I fancy him more now than ever

mrsmillsfanclub · 18/12/2010 14:23

13yrs together, and yes I do, but more in winter than summer. His beach attire does very little for me, but wrapped up in his winter coat and beanie hat he looks lush.

HalfTermHero · 18/12/2010 14:26

I fancy the pants off my dh!

Alouiseg · 18/12/2010 17:35

Yup! It's about the wrists here too! Strong slightly hairy wrist in a double cuffed shirt. Swoon!

Not when he wakes up with a fart and sits on the loo for 20 minutes though!

mountainmonkey · 18/12/2010 17:38

Am I the only one with a nose fetish?

PuzzleRockinAroundTheXmasTree · 18/12/2010 17:38

Hell yes. Seriously sexy shoulders.
And he has curly hair. And big fat luscious lips. And perfect cheekbones.

TheGrumpalo · 18/12/2010 17:41

Yes Xmas Grin Though we have only been together for two years!

Don't get me wrong, there are times when he's disgusting as are all men but I'm very lucky to have him and still fancy him like mad.

PosieParkhersleigh · 18/12/2010 17:41

DH and I have been together 12 years, I can't stand him most of the time...but I fancy him.

pink4ever · 18/12/2010 19:15

Nope not really(but he makes it very obvious that he doesnt fancy me eitherSad. We have both let ourselves go a bit but mainly I think it is the massive resentment between us that is main prob.Needless too say our sex life leads alot to be desiredSad/ Am v jealous of friends who are still lovey dovey with their dhs.

mrsbacchus · 18/12/2010 21:20

Been married for mrbacchus for 23 years in january and he is still the man to make me go weak at the knees, sure in that time we have had some serious ups and downs, but if you survive them they only make you stronger. He still manages to surprise me now and again with his moments of thoughtfulness in the mundane of everyday life as I hope I do for him.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 18/12/2010 21:22

DH and I been together 10 years, married for 6 in February.

Some days he irritates the hell out of me but I still fancy the pants off him.

marantha · 18/12/2010 21:58

flakeofsnow Seems you have your answer and the answer is this: everybody's different, some maintain spark others do not.
Cliched but true I guess.

FakePlasticTrees · 18/12/2010 22:10

And yet another ex-rugby player here (just starting taking bikes a bit more serious so the thighs are staying - yay!).

and yes, I fancy him. Lots.

dementedma · 18/12/2010 22:11

not in the slightest. after 25 years, we are dead in the water

ihatethesnow · 18/12/2010 22:12

Yes he still gives me butterlies...we have only been together 5yrs though

flinginghasflung · 18/12/2010 23:05

Dementedma Sad

Longstocking2 · 18/12/2010 23:08

yes, after 18 years, feel very lucky,he's lovely.

Lonnie · 18/12/2010 23:22

Truthfully dh is better looking now than he was when we met slightly receeding hairline and grey REALLY suits him..

so YES

Lonnie · 18/12/2010 23:28

forgot to say I have know him 17 years now

Dropdeadfred · 18/12/2010 23:28

Yes. After 14 years together he still sooooooo does it for me...Wink

FrustratedHippy · 18/12/2010 23:30

wouldn't be here if i didn't 20+ years!

mumblecrumble · 18/12/2010 23:30

Yes, very much so after 8 years together. If I wasn;t so ill with flu and fever I;d jump him right now...

What concern me is wen reading about al these husbands farting etc.... is thats prob what my DH puts up with with me...

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