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To NOT want my teenage DS to see a "lady of the night"

131 replies

JessShouldntSing · 16/12/2010 12:33

Okay, my DH thinks this is a good idea, to give our son a "head start" in front of his peers. He thinks that it'll stop our DS being one of those moody, repressed teenagers you see on the news shooting people in back alleys and the like, but I'm not so sure it's a good idea.

In DH's defense, his parents did this for him and he (as far as I know) has never shot anyone. but I still don't really like the thought of it. AIBU?

OP posts:
findingthepath · 16/12/2010 17:13

Sorry but how come you no longer have bits and pieces, did the hole close up or is it not there anymore?

storminabuttercup · 16/12/2010 17:23

Unless i'm missing something here, we now know that OP is no longer sexually active, yet she still hasn't told us how old the DS is.

I'm going to give my first Biscuit

[is really pouring wine, sitting back and watching this all unfold]

welshbyrd · 16/12/2010 17:25

DS is 17 I beleieve stormina

jonesybells · 16/12/2010 17:26

she has , he's nearly 17,

not that makes any difference to my opinion btw

thenightsky · 16/12/2010 17:26

Back to the orginal post of 12.33.53.

Absolutely YANBU to not want your son to go with a 'lady of the night'. But somehow you seem to have convinced yourself that it's ok as the thread has gone along. Strange.

If we had all posted... 'yeah Jess, YABU, let the lad get it on with lady of night', do you think you might have gone the other way?

Saltatrix · 16/12/2010 17:27

Doesn't matter it is illegal to pay a prostitute to have sex with a 16/17 year old. Despite the fact that it would be legal if no money was invovled.

storminabuttercup · 16/12/2010 17:29

ah! whoops!

booyhohoho · 16/12/2010 17:33

come on OP, own up, who are ya?

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 16/12/2010 17:42

Re: 'cycling accident'

If you'd have taken the bus you wouldn't have this issue. Bloody Boris and his bikes.

SkyBluePearl · 16/12/2010 17:56

Is this a joke? Bonkers idea! Why would parents want to take something special/personal away from a young adulthood experince and replace it with something so sleezy and cheap? Why pay for action with some unknown lady (addict, sexual health infections etc.. maybe) when he can enjoy the romance and sexual excitement of getting to know a girl he actually finds attractive. OK it does take a while to get up to speed skill wise but thats all part of the fun isn't it?

sarah293 · 16/12/2010 18:09

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KalokiMallow · 16/12/2010 18:18

Um... Hmm

Popcorn and pick'n'mix anyone?

ratspeaker · 16/12/2010 18:28

Aw c'mon the dad just wants to share something with his son
Crabs, chlamydia, syphillis, gonorrhea, record for kerb crawling...

pastyeaterneedsaSilentNight · 16/12/2010 19:01

Call me a prude but Shock at providing your kids with a prostitute.

ratspeaker · 16/12/2010 21:19

It doesn't sound much like you've discussed sex and sexuality with your so how can you be sure it's a lady of the night he should visit would your DH be as happy to take him along to a rent boy?

And what about your needs? You seem to accept tat DH can go elsewhere but he doesnt seem to take your feeling into account, what about your need for love, affection, respect?

Giggle78 · 16/12/2010 21:52

My dh's friend (yes friend) had this exact present for his sixteenth birthday from his dad. It has mucked him up royally. He suffers from huge insecurities regarding women and I think part of it was not allowing him to develop in his own time but having to live up to some sort of (weird/f-cked up) standard that his dad had for him regarding women.

It also promotes the idea that it is okay to buy women if they are selling themselves.

What a strange idea/value that a dad would want to pass on to his son.

lazymumofteenagesons · 16/12/2010 22:10

Don't know whether this is a troll or not but if it is a real post - this was not unsusual behaviour in other european countries and by members of the aristocracy here. Not that I think it is a good practice, but it was quite common. DH who comes from a mediterranean country has told me he has friends whose mothers organised this for them and not as a one off, but on a regular basis.

chrispt · 16/12/2010 22:20

I reckon he should ask all his family members to chip in. That way it'll give him a gauge of how 'normal' it is.

He might even get quite a bit of cash and decide to hire a lawyer to divorce his parents....or get loads of women/men to spend the night with.

If this is real then he's prob a little odd with these morals in his family. No wonder he can't find anyone to sleep with legitimately (meaningful or otherwise)

ratspeaker · 16/12/2010 22:31

lazy yeah and the arstocracy here have such good relationships in their marriage

giggle get it spot on
The OPs own DH had this experience and now, from the info we've been drip fed, he feels it's Ok to go out and get his needs "satisfied elsewhere" when the OP doesnt have "the bits due to a cycling accident"
So he goes out to have penatrative sex with someone other than his wife rather than explore other mutually beneficial sexual techniques. His first sexual encounter has not taught him to love and respect woman has it? More that its only HIS pleasure and needs are important

So OP is your DH out shagging one of the taciturn William Capra clan?

comedycentral · 17/12/2010 00:18

Don't feed the troll.

Morloth · 17/12/2010 00:31

I hope I never see my son as such a loser that I would even contemplate paying someone to have sex with him.

IMO you and your husband are complete fucking morons. Is that clear? I wouldn't want there to be any sort of misunderstanding as to what I am thinking right now.

Valpollicella · 17/12/2010 00:40

So what happens when his pocket money doesn't stretch to buying another woman?

Are you ready for him to be all repressed and moody? Or will you be upping his allowance to accomodate for bus fares, apps and prostitutes?

"There you go son, there's your £100...make sure you spend the hooker portion of it wisely"

jasper · 17/12/2010 01:57

I am a keen cyclist.
Please tell me more about your accident so I can take precautions

Heroine · 17/12/2010 02:07

silly! where's the fantasy fulfillment in someone doing what you want because they are paid to - I am sure it is much sexier to go to bed with a girl who wants to shag the pants off you.. because she wants to. My advice? Buy him a nice watch and some nice clothes and dye bits of his hair grey - then at least some golddigger will get horny for him.. :)

Seriously this is such a bad idea - unless you want a total idiot for a son who goofs off and boasts whilst all the time knowing he has lost something fundamental about life.

jasper · 17/12/2010 02:16

Heroine, I agree about the watch Smile

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