To NOT want my teenage DS to see a "lady of the night"

[JessShouldntSing]

Okay, my DH thinks this is a good idea, to give our son a "head start" in front of his peers. He thinks that it'll stop our DS being one of those moody, repressed teenagers you see on the news shooting people in back alleys and the like, but I'm not so sure it's a good idea.

In DH's defense, his parents did this for him and he (as far as I know) has never shot anyone. but I still don't really like the thought of it. AIBU?

If he is under 16 it would be statutory rape, assuming the prostitute was an adult.

Colleen Nolan... wow.. I never knew that. Is that her that does the Loose Women show?

Jeez, hope you aint got a DD, wouldnt like to think what DH would suggest to prevent her from shooting people very ODD

According to wikipedia she did. Defending it using that good old justification of - "In an ideal world I'd never condone my son sleeping with hookers, but it's a fact of life that boys of his age have casual sex. So if I'm pushed, I'd rather he does it somewhere well-policed and where the girls have health checks than behind the wall of a club in Ibiza with absolutely no safeguards."

A nice new twist on the old "teenagers have sex regardless" chestnut.

I see what everyone is saying, and I don't really think it's a good idea either, but I can see some plus points. I remember my first time was very VERY awkward because neither of us knew "what to do" and it would be good to spare my DS this sort of embarassment!

DH has said that he has someone in mind - he sees her now and then himself so DS would be in safe hands I'm sure. I know it sounds like I'm warming to the idea but I'm not, I'm just trying to point out that DH isn't some sort of out-of-touch monster. :(

DS is nearly 17 btw, I would not consider this if he was younger than 16!!!

DH - see"s person himself? like sleeps with? you think your DS would want to sleep with someone his dad has, this post is making me feel ill now

SICK

I once had a penpal who experienced this.
He got it as a 16th birthday present from his father. In preparation of me coming down to Egypt to marry him, once I had completed secondary school, my parents agreeing of course.

Do jog on, you shit stirring immature juvenile teenage boy troll.

at thought of father and son shagging same woman. Eeeuk.

were is that vomit emoticon when you need it?

Isn't that what Russell Brand's father did as well?

Um, maybe the reason your son seems a bit, how to put this nicely, screwed up, is because his father regularly sees a prostitute with his mother's knowledge and she doesn't seem bothered?

This must be a wind up. Or one very dysfunctional family!

That's disgusting of Coleen Nolan too- she can't be bothered to educate her son about safe sex so she'd rather he slept with a prostitute, it beggars belief!

ermm isn't it meant to be awkward thats how you learn? sorry but first times should hopefully be either special or a learning curve.
Let your son make his own mistakes , if he wants to see a prostitute he will what gives you the right to make that decision?
He could also meet a lovely young girl whose first time it is also .... whats the rush?

Eww again. Even more eww. A World of eww.

This must be a wind-up, surely?

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erm.

In case this is a genuine op. She might NOT be ok with her husband buying sex from whores, and she may NOT be ok with her husband taking her son to see one.

JESS, if you are really in this situation, you should try to speak to somebody you know, or ring Samaritans. Or Womans Aid or something. I dont have numbers handy.

I suppose you are right Jess and especially her son needs help. If this is not a wind up.

Jeez, hope you aint got a DD, wouldnt like to think what DH would suggest to prevent her from shooting people very ODD

Yes. All men who see prostitutes are just super in bed. Fact.

I think that you may be setting your son up for a fall if you do this.

I would never knowingly enter a realtionship knowing a man had used a prostitue and many of my friends feel the same so your son may find women will be put off by his 'head start'

Also i think he wont want to sleep with a woman his Dad has already been with.

OP, are you really saying that your DH sees (as in shagging) a prostitute with your knowledge???

Vom!

Either - TROLLLLLLLLL

or - Sad, fucked up situation with an oppressed woman who seems to think that it is normal for men to have sex with sex workers whilst married and is raising a son who will grow up with the same beliefs. God I hope it's a troll.

And suppose your son would actually like to experience sex within a meaningful relationship, rather than be press-ganged* into what could be quite a humiliating experience?

• I can't help but think that your husband could make your son feel too awkward to refuse such an offer.

It's not as bad as it sounds, don't worry! DH just gets his "needs" attended to elsewhere as I lost the use of my bits and pieces in an unfortunate cycling accident some time ago. We're not that abnormal!