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How old was your baby when you first left them over night??

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ElleAndBump · 13/12/2010 21:03

just wondering what age you left your baby for first time over night? ive left my 4.5mth dd with my parents or his during the day before when working, but never over night and on the 29th my oh sisters party is a hours drive away and we would have to stay over night and leave my dd with my mum, i think we going to go but still feel little bad about leaving her all day and night, going to miss her laods and its not like im that near, so was just interested to see when evryone else left their babies over night for first time?

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Santaclaustrophobia · 14/12/2010 00:14

13 months

duchesse · 14/12/2010 00:24

13 months. She was virtually EBF until over 10 months so would have been tricky any sooner. Went for a weekend (two nights) and had to leave best part of a litre of expressed milk in the freezer as it was.

IWantToBeAFairyWhenIGrowUp · 14/12/2010 00:28

First time was my birthday this year and DD was 2.8 years. Hmm

Yep she's my PFB (and only 1) Grin

expatinscotland · 14/12/2010 00:34

DD1 - the eve of her second birthday. I was pregnant with DD2 and got a D&V bug that made me so ill I had to spend the night in hospital.

DD2 - she was 2.10 months and I had to go far away to hospital to have DS.

DS- 2 years old when I went overnight to do some work.

All times they were with their father.

I'd happily leave them with the GPs or my sister, though.

mumdrivenmad · 14/12/2010 00:38

my newborn twins spent their first week away from me but that was because they were 6 weeks prem and were in hospital. They were 7 months old before I left them with my SIL for the night when we went to a Twins Club do.

FunkySnowSkeleton · 14/12/2010 01:21

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Athrawes · 14/12/2010 02:55

Ten weeks. Another reflux baby who may not have lived through ten weeks and one day longer unless someone, anyone, please God, gave me a break. He went to an emergency foster carer and was fine and back the very next day.

Stangirl · 14/12/2010 04:52

7 mths. DP and I went to a dance festival and stayed over at a friend's my Mum took care of DD and all was well. I'd do it every week but my Mum lives 120 miles away.

Livinginoz · 14/12/2010 05:41

11 weeks, it was my 30th birthday and we had a night out with all my friends. I left DS with MIL and a freezer full of EBM, panicked all night in case he wouldn't take a bottle from her and he ended up only waking up once through the night for a feed after 3 times a night for me! Xmas Hmm
Felt worse on our anniversary a week later when DH convinced me we should leave him again and I didn't have enough EBM for the time we were away, and he had his first FF feed! Looking back it was ridiculous, but I was devastated!Xmas Blush

eidsvold · 14/12/2010 05:46

My daughter was parted from me overnight for the first 3 weeks of her life and then again from 8 - 11 weeks. After that not until she was 6 and sister was 4 and baby was 18 months old. So that was the first for dd2 and dd3

floozietoozie · 14/12/2010 06:21

Ds was prem so separated from me for five weeks at birth. As a result probably, didn't leave him (with dp) until he was 3.5 for three nights on trip to see friends in Ireland. Tbh dp wouldn't have bn up for doing it much earlier than that. However I was pg with dd and I knew it would be my last chance for years and also felt better because I still had a baby with me iyswim!

SuchProspects · 14/12/2010 06:25

4 months. DH and I went to a hotel a few streets away for DH's birthday. It was blissful. We're lucky that they tend to sleep well and be fairly easily comforted so it hasn't been traumatic for anyone.

diddl · 14/12/2010 07:43

PFB was almost 2-I was in hospital having second.

Then not until I had to go back to UK for a family funeral when they were 8&10.

OP-do you have to stay over if you really don´t want to?

nickytwotimes · 14/12/2010 07:50

ds1 was 3yrs
ds2 haven't yet

no reason - just haven't had the need/desire.

nothing wrong with doing/not doing it imo

verytellytubby · 14/12/2010 09:00

DD was about 8 months (PFB)

Twins were 3 months as I was broken. Didn't even go out. Slept!

Species8472 · 14/12/2010 09:27

Never. No-one's ever offered. Parents are unwilling, in-laws too far away, too old and unable. DD's only 17m so hopefully it'll happen at some point.

allnightlong · 14/12/2010 09:31

DD is 4 and we still haven't left her yet.

kenobi · 14/12/2010 09:32

Seems like the average is 9-15 months?

DD was 6 months, we got married and had a mini-honeymoon (3 days, 2 nights) in a hotel in Cornwall. DD had just weaned and was with my MiL in their house in the same village as the hotel. It was BLISS, particularly as she was 2 mins walk away and I could have gone to see her at any time.

Species - Sad

MorganaLeFay · 14/12/2010 09:39

I agree with tyv, no need for all the blushy faces. If you don't want to leave them, don't leave them.

My dd is 3.7 and my parents have very kindly booked for us to go away overnight in January for my 30th birthday (seeing a show I really want to see). My parents will be looking after dd. I am equal parts excited and nervous.

Species8472 · 14/12/2010 10:06

Thanks kenobi! It's not like we want to get away from her and plenty of people never have overnight babysitting or want to leave their DCs overnight, but it might be nice to have just one night at some point. My lovely in-laws would jump at the chance but my MIL isn't physically able for toddler-wrangling and wouldn't be able to cope. Neither my parents nor in-laws are local anyway.

We're going to DH's work Xmas do this week (using Sitters for the first time, eek!), wish we had overnight grandparent sitting though like some, so we didn't have to get up the next morning....Smile

dribbleface · 14/12/2010 10:07

2yrs 4 mths - but with Dh for a work thing. I spent 1 hour feelign awful then really enjoyed having a lovely long sleep Blush

Leaving him with nanny this weekend overnight for the first time. They adore each other but still feel sick at the thought. I'm off for a work night out and DH arranged for nanny to have him so that i could have a lay in the next day. bless.

wigglesrock · 14/12/2010 10:10

I left dd1 at 6 months with her dad, for 2 nights. We both then left dd1 at 16 months overnight for first time. When dd2 was 3 months we left both of them for 3 nights.

Litchick · 14/12/2010 10:19

At around six months, DH and I stayed overnight at a wedding.
At twelve months we went to Paris for three days.

SIL told me in a lovely passive aggressive way, that she really 'admired' me for doing it. But she couldn't be in a differnt country to her child.

She and BIL are now divorced.

AliBellandthe40jingles · 14/12/2010 10:25

DS was 2.5 - it was night before last!

DH and I went to the cinema which was lovely, but we hated being at home without DS here, felt really odd and it was horrid him not being here yesterday morning.

The next time he stays with my parents, we will go away somewhere rather than be at home without him!

Luce2006 · 14/12/2010 10:27

DS was 10 months and I was forced to leave him to attend a wedding I didn't want to go to Angry