to expect a 5 yr old not to fart in front of me

[moogster1a]

my 5 year old mindee has taken to doing truly revolting farts. I keep telling him to leave the room if he needs to do one and keep reminding him that someone who smells of poo won't be popular.
Accordng to him and his sister their dad does it all the time at home and they seem nonplussed that I don't want to sit in a shitty smelling fug in my own home.
Should a 5 year old be able to restrain himself ( bearing in mind he seems to have been able to for the last 4 and a half years ).
There's been no change of diet by the way, i think he's just changing into a mini version of farting dad.

But he's five - if he's farting on purpose for the laugh he wouldn't be let away with it at school so why should a CM ignore it?

But again, you can't tell him it's disgusting or he's disgusting or expect him not to find it funny when he's with his mates. Just teach him to cop on to when to hold it in

That's ok. I was overdue a trim anyway...

My DS1 has a friend (9) who is bullied at school because he is always farting and thus a bit smelly.

I never said no one will like him. I said words along the lines of "you won't be the most popular boy in the world if you keep trumping in front of people"When he asked why I told him that people don't like the smell of poo. Which they don't.
I was hardly screaming at him to go and stand in the corner for farting; or telling him everyone hates him.

Again I say unwanted behaviour should be ignored

Basic stuff, really

what's wrong with farting?

You shouldn't ignore it.

you should teach them that it is not socially acceptable.

But you should understand how small children think!

They love farts, bums, willies, poo, wee...

That's not disgusting! It's being a child!

Yes, you deal with the behaviour, but you don't feel disgusted with the child. Not if you understand anything about children.

I think I'm going to cry!

understand children
farting is disgusting
yes, but understand how children see things
farting is revolting, do you all fart
no, but you have to understand children in order to work with them
farting is not acceptable
no, and you teach them, but you have to understand
it's revolting to fart, hold it in
that's not the point, it's about understanding children in order to teach them
you can't allow children to fart....

Honestly, I've got tears in my eyes and it's not because of SerendipitousHarlot

at venting Hec

The farting/burping on purpose, I meant, Hec

I don't really have tears in my eyes btw. I'm exaggerating for dramatic effect.

Doggie- unwanted behaviour should be ignored but there is nothing wrong with also giving an explanation and asking the child to say excuse me and leave the room

NOW LEAVE MOOGIE ALONE, YOU ARE NOT BEINGVERY NICE AND IF YOU DON'T STEP I'LL TELL MUMSNET

I suppose because she said it had only recently become a problem, I took it that he was doing it intentionally. OK the phrasing she used isn't the best but if he has been asked lots of times and still persists in doing it intentionally she was perhaps trying to find a way to explain that he might listen to. Like I said, I'd phrase it in a similar way to what I said above. I did also assume she hasn't always said that, but did try other ways to explain first, that failed. Well you know what they say about assuming!
I don't know how long she's been a childminder, but I assumed some time as she has known the child for years. I'd be surprised if she really had no understanding of children or how on earth would she last that long in the job! I can't imagine working with children if you didn't like and understand them.

oh no, BALD - x-post. That bit was to sue.

That's nothin, my friend was once sat having a cup of tea when her son walked in saying he had an itchy bum and parted his bumcheeks in her face.

Lets just say the course of the itching had her screaming of to the chemist

apologies for spelling areas but I feeling quite irrate as you can imagine

OP: you did ask, didn't you, if a 5 year old was old enough to restrain himself? So why are you not accepting the answer that lots of people are giving you?

You are silly. You sound a bit defensive now though and I'm starting to feel sorry for you

I'll leave her alone when she steps away from the Phantom Trumper, young lady

I think 5 is too young to be teaching children not to fart in public, I don't imagine many children of that age have the ability to fart on demand so it's probably not something he has a lot of control over. I think the more sensible approach would be to start teaching him to say 'excuse me' afterwards.

I don't know about other posters but I for one can be a bit windy and although I can hold them in when needed, it normally results in agonising stomach pains for hours afterwards. For this reason farting in our house has always been accepted (amongst family of course) and is always followed by an 'excuse me'.

Loonies - your post of 19:21 has left me a bit and asking as another poster has asked - you have been here right, like, actually read threads? My goodness, if this innocent little farting thread has you tutting you might want to avoid Friday nights here, what with all the bumsex threads

Can't believe that no one has come out with the correct response yet......

'he probably doesn't realise it's you're turn!' Classic joke!

Seriously though if he's farting that much something isn't right (food intolerance maybe)but it's not his manners. They learn to hold them in and do them quietly as they get older as they do find it embarrasing as they get older.

I'm a children's entertainer and without toilet humour I'd have nothing left to make the children laugh! And the growns up laugh too!

Dippy- I don't think that you are in any position to 'young lady' me young lady, and I don't appreciate the use of the T word

Nammy- I have not been on here for long, I thought that it was a nice middle class website

Loonies

A fart is but a simple thing.
It sets the stomach at ease.
It warms the bed on cold winter nights
and suffocates all the fleas..

Ferrety- You should ashamed of yourself