to expect a 5 yr old not to fart in front of me

[moogster1a]

my 5 year old mindee has taken to doing truly revolting farts. I keep telling him to leave the room if he needs to do one and keep reminding him that someone who smells of poo won't be popular.
Accordng to him and his sister their dad does it all the time at home and they seem nonplussed that I don't want to sit in a shitty smelling fug in my own home.
Should a 5 year old be able to restrain himself ( bearing in mind he seems to have been able to for the last 4 and a half years ).
There's been no change of diet by the way, i think he's just changing into a mini version of farting dad.

Farting is completely normal and necessary. Are you sure he is doing it deliberately? Neither my 7 yr old nor my 4 year old can control their farting entirely. They are both quite good at silent but deadly but they cant stop them enough to move into another room in time. Neither should they have to. Everyone has to expel the air in the guts. It's not optional. I can't pretend I like to smell other people's farts though.

I had a medical issue for about three years which lead to uncontrollable farting and sometimes burping as well. If people couldn't handle it, even knowing what was going on, it was clear to me that they had more of a problem than me.

yabu and VERY mean to a Very small child

People punish children for farting?

Farts normally smell of farts, don't they? Poo smells different normally. Maybe he has something funny in his diet if the farts smell of poo, I'd be a bit worried TBH.

And of course YABU, open a window. Well I suppose you could encourage him to leave the room, but telling him he stinks of poo and won't have any friends is out of order.

Breastmilks - I want to respond to your post of 18.36 but tbh I'm struggling. Are you for real? The passing of wind by a small child is disrespectful? You are unhinged.

YABU. Talk about mountains and molehills. Yours smell of roses do they? What a cruel thing to say to a child. They take things very literally at that age.

PS I would also not employ a childminder who had this approach

Pppprrrffftttt Ooops i seem to have farted in front of you! Hope it does doesn't smell.

@ Gruesome

Ever thought that you are probably in the wrong job?

YABU. Nobody ever died from inhaling farts.

Laughing at the thought of telling my 5 year old twins not to fart in front of me.

were ever you may be ,let your wind go free,in church or chappell let it rattle oops thers a eggy smell on this thread tonight

I think you are looking at this a bit oddly tbh

If he can't help it he may have gut problems or poor diet or something. At 5 he may have little ability developmentally to anticipate.
I would be concerned about his diet, food issues etc if it is constant and would focus on that. Ds2 was pretty stinky until we realised he had a problem with milk.

If on the other hand he is doing it on purpose then you should be ignoring it shouldn't you -making a song and dance will rather encourage the behaviour. Won't it?

So not sure about your stategy really

i'm obviously the odd one! I came from a house where we didn't like the smell of shit and so no one farted in front of other people. Yes, it's natural, so are a variety of other bodily functions that I wouldn't dream of performing in the living room with other people present.

ilovesprouts The smell is from all those sprouts!

Telling a child no one will like them is emotional abuse. You are right, you are an odd one.

Nobody likes the smell of shit.

Nobody in their right mind tells a five year old that he stinks of shit and has no friends.

Mooogster - you are talking about a child whose safety and happiness you are responsible for - have you told this child's parents you think he's disgusting? I'm betting not.

YANBU to try and encourage a five year old to comply with social conventions. As to what you should do if he does fart, I think it depends on whether it's deliberately forced out, and announced with pride, or whether it's an accident.

I wouldn't do anything in the latter case, but in the former, I would say quite firmly that it was not acceptable, and to try and do them in private. What's wrong with that?

Moogster
Don't be silly
I don't live on a house where people randomly fart at each other either. But that is because the youngest here is 8.
You are talking about a five year old . Which is very different.

What's your stance on nose picking op? Little boys love a good pick don't they,do you think that deserves punishment?

If my child told me that his childminder had punished him for passing wind, and that you had told him nobody would like him if he passed wind, I would

a) sack you instantly
b) report you to ofsted for abusive and unreasonable behavior and expectations.

nowt wrong we sprouts yummy

Re-reading your op I would sack you on the spot if you treated one of my children like that. I can't believe you told a 5 year old he'd be unpopular for farting. Beggars belief. Nasty.