to expect a 5 yr old not to fart in front of me

[moogster1a]

my 5 year old mindee has taken to doing truly revolting farts. I keep telling him to leave the room if he needs to do one and keep reminding him that someone who smells of poo won't be popular.
Accordng to him and his sister their dad does it all the time at home and they seem nonplussed that I don't want to sit in a shitty smelling fug in my own home.
Should a 5 year old be able to restrain himself ( bearing in mind he seems to have been able to for the last 4 and a half years ).
There's been no change of diet by the way, i think he's just changing into a mini version of farting dad.

I bet OP's cats bum mouth makes it all the more funny :o

tethers

You cannot NOT fart - you would explode! You - and everybody, this child included, are unable to always control said farts. Small children find farting intriguing. As a childcare professional (allegedly) - you should be able to deal with that without telling the child he is disgusting you.

Is that clear enough for you?

No cherrybea. If you do a catsbum mouth, you use your nose even more, so it would smell even worse

Would like to add to northerns post that some adults find farting intriguing and hilarious

where did I say I told him he disgusts me??

You're clearly ignoring what people are sagging if your reaction is to ask in wonder whether we all honestly fart in front of each other. As others have said, no, most people don't do that, but FIVE IS TOO YOUNG TO BE RUDELY TOLD OFF FOR FARTING.

Did you get that?

You did, after all, ask in your op whether five was too young to be expected to restrain oneself. People are saying yes, it is. Older is fine. Five is very young.

YABU. And you sound like a fairly unpleasant person. If you cannot ignore as you oughtto then you could at least explain in a friendly way that it's not a good idea because it doesn't smell very nice, or similar reasonable wording. Not 'you will be unpopular if you smell of poo', fgs.

And frankly if Loonies is your biggest ally, I'd worry.

SAYING fgs not sagging

although I am also sagging

I think 5 is old enough to explain some things are inppropriate in some situations. If you say it's ok at home but not at yours I think they can understand. Had a similar conversation with a 3 or 4 year old who took to saying 'oh my god'. I explained that some people don't mind, but some might be upset by it, so it was best to say xyz instead. Therefore not making her feel bad about it if acceptable at home, but making her aware of how others might see it. She hasn't said it in my hearing since btw. Similar to you saying ok, leave the room if you really need to fart! Same as if a 5 year old was producing loud burps etc, a gentle explanation that some things aren't appropriate in some places. Not sure why some people think op is so unreasonable?

Jade80 a five year old can control what they say, so it is fine to expect them not to say certain things in certain situations.

It is also fine to let them know that farting is not particularly pleasant and best not to be done in front of others. Where it becomes unreasonable is to expect them to be able to control their farts at this age, or to tell them that they will be unpopular if they fart.

Teach them what is acceptable, but be realistic- saying 'excuse me' at that age is enough.

I think she is unreasonable because she is BEING UNREASONABLE

I have decided that I quite enjoy shouty caps this evening.

jade - for being so disgusted by a five year old breaking wind and seemingly not understanding how little children think, which is worrying for a childminder, don't you think?

I actually agree with her that children should be taught to not let rip freely!

However, it is the apparent lack of any sort of understanding of how children think and that farting is actually rather amusing to them!

And then assuming that we all fart freely when we try to point out the above.

We think that you don't understand children = we like to pin you down and fart on your head.

Shhhhhhhh all of you. Pull my finger.

YABU. You can teach him manners (eg saying excuse me/pardon me) or totally ignore him if he's doing it for attention, but telling him that no-one will like him because he smells of poo is horrible.

Op you need to get a grip, how flipping precious that you don't let your charges fart in front of you! Its a fart, a natural bodily function ffs, and those that don't even do it front of their partners, that's just odd, what do you think that they don't know you do it? Sheesh

YABVU

He is 5 for god sake, don't be ridiculous woman. You are also being nasty to a small child telling him he will be unpopular and that he smells of poo.

I would not let someone mind my child with this attitude.

oh dear god woman, what ARE you eating?!

Oh I agree pozzled. I was answering the question about what age was ok to start teaching it. Sort of agree you don't want to push the unpopular thing, perhaps rephrase as 'some people get upset/feel sad if you do this' which is why I gave the example I did of what I said to the child I mentioned.

Hec, I perhaps didn't read it in the same way you did, I just thought the op sounded a bit frustrated. I wouldn't imagine she is quite so blunt about it to the 5 year old, but is just venting on here?

OP,I really want to come and fart in your house now, just to see how wound up you get. I'm sure the 5 year old feels similarly. You have made it an issue.

I bet you have some sort of special Glade plug in for your farts? Have you opted for a seasonal fragrance may I ask?

Marty what a rude thing to say about I think you need to learn some manners. Shall I sign you up for some sessions with Moogie, she has the right idea.

Jadey I think that you are right. It is reasonable to explain to 5 year olds that some things are not acceptable in some situations

I thought I had heard it all on MN..obviously not ...YABU

Hmm. I don't like the fact you told him he will have no friends. But if a child I worked with deliberately farted or burped at me - for reaction, not by accident - then I wouldn't be happy. And I guess I'd tell them to leave the room if they couldn't be polite.
So I can see your point OP but I don't think you handled it well then or worded it well here tbh.

I'm sure she is just venting.

But that doesn't change the fact that there is a total lack of understanding of the mentality of a five year old child!

You have to understand children if you are to work with them. You have to know why they do the things they do if you are to teach them how to behave in a socially acceptable way. To be so disgusted with a five year old for farting that you tell them nobody will like them because they'll smell of poo is clearly not someone who's thinking on a child's level.

Mostly Haribo this week, to be fair Hec

Can't be pleasant for you. I do apologise.