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DS wants to be a princess

274 replies

MrsKitty · 01/12/2010 18:16

Nursery are having a 'superheros & princesses' themed dressing up day next week for charity.

DS (3.10) wants to be a princess. AIBU to agree that he can be? Grin.

I think it's rather sweet personally. DH not convinced.

OP posts:
thisisyesterday · 01/12/2010 18:53

letting your child wear what they want to wear is hardly a social experiment is it

Ephiny · 01/12/2010 18:53

Agree the theme is a silly idea, but the OPs little boy should be able to dress up as whatever he wants - boys might not grow up to be princesses, but they're pretty unlikely to ever be superheroes either, it's not supposed to be realistic!

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 18:54

And actually frgr who the fuck are you? I've been here 3 years and have never come across you. Do you have friends on here? Do you get PMs? Stick your troll accusations up your arse

usualsuspect · 01/12/2010 18:55

spikey is no troll ...a little rowdy sometimes [hgrin] but not a troll

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 18:55

And other posters did mention gay. Meaning they have straight away linked tutus to gay people.

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 18:56

Nice one US.

SuePurblybiltByElves · 01/12/2010 18:57

Spikeycow isn't a troll.

Kaloki · 01/12/2010 18:57

spikey the logic behind your "boys can't wear tutus" thing is flawed. So you say that as it is outside of the societal norm it should be stopped in case they get abuse? You also say you are bi? So were the first people to be open about being gay/bi wrong? It was against the societal norm after all, by your logic they should have just shut up in case someone hit them.

By your logic as well, it is the victim of aggression's fault for bringing it on themselves for standing out.

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 18:57

Now back to the OP. As it's a private nursery it should be fine. If it was a school one your child may have got some stick

thisisyesterday · 01/12/2010 18:58

i mentioned gay, because it's the most common reason for people objecting to boys wearing what they consider "girl" clothing

i was clearly saying the opposite of "gay people wear tutus"

thisisyesterday · 01/12/2010 18:59

you're really very aggressive and rude spikeycow. perhaps that is why people think you're a troll and take offence at your posts?

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 19:00

Nice one Sue.
Not debating anything. I'm not reasoning with insanity anymore on Mumsnet. It's just a competition to see who can be most liberal. In RL you wouldn't walk the talk. If you do, I'll talk to youse

TiggyD · 01/12/2010 19:04

Although a 10 year old should be able to wear a tutu in the street, you have to warn them of the consequences of possibly having the crap kicked out of them. Idealism has to be team with realism.

Kaloki · 01/12/2010 19:04

spikey isn't a troll, and can in fact be quite reasonable (Wink) just not on this.

Spikey in RL I do "walk the talk" and will with children. For my children seeing their dad in eyeliner and nail varnish will be totally normal, and would like to raise them in an environment where standing out from the crowd doesn't put them at risk of harm. The way to do this is not to enforce this daft idea that everyone must conform. Which, by saying boys can't wear tutus, you are doing.

Also, by saying that you are condoning (intentionally or not) violence against the people that do stand out. If we follow your reasoning through to it's logical conclusion then it is perfectly acceptable for someone to hit a 10 year old boy for wearing a tutu. It is, after all, asking for trouble. Hmm

jenniferturkington · 01/12/2010 19:05

PMSL at the image of loads of gay people regularly wearing their tutus Grin

My DS is 3.6 and has free choice (no theme) fancy dress at pre-school tomorrow. He has already planned to wear his Snow White outfit. I don't care one bit, but tbh it has crossed my mind for the first time that other children might tell him 'it's for girls'. Hopefully not though, they are so little.

TiggyD · 01/12/2010 19:05

I walk the talk as well.

thisisyesterday · 01/12/2010 19:06

but spikeycow, you have NO idea what any of us do or don't do.

just because you wouldn't allow a 10 year old to wear a tutu does not mean that no-one would.
why assume we are lying?

should i pretend to be less liberal just to please you?

i can't get over how pig-headed some people on here are. if you don't understand it then you accuse people of lying. weird

Kaloki · 01/12/2010 19:08

spikey Come back and talk sensibly or I'll start bitching about tracksuits and chavs again. Wink

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 19:10

Where are all these boys in tutus then? Nowhere.
And it's not just this thread. People are out libbing each other all over Mumsnet. I don't see the point in it

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 19:10

Then I'll ask if you have permission for your rats you caaaa

ShanahansRevenge · 01/12/2010 19:11

It's fine...but some three year old boys WILL tease.

thisisyesterday · 01/12/2010 19:12

ahhh the good old "i haven't seen it, ergo it doesn't happen"

Kaloki · 01/12/2010 19:12

Get back to me when I finally have kids spikey, if I have a boy then I'm sure I can oblige.

Simple question here;

Is it acceptable for a boy to wear a tutu?

  • If yes, then surely it follows that said boy deserves to be in some way punished for doing something unacceptable? Do you agree?
Kaloki · 01/12/2010 19:12

Heheh, you love me really Grin

spikeycow · 01/12/2010 19:13

Look, I don't want a row over whether 10 year old boys can play out with their mates in a tutu. Everyone I know would agree with me, all my neighbours, everyone. So why have people tell me I'm wrong? It's just a hassle