I am a ML.

[MerrilyDefective]

Mil's aren't always horrid.
Mil's love their daughters and their sons.
Mils also love their Dils and their Sils,
Mils love their grandchildren.

One day we will ALL be Mils.
Let's hope our DIls/SILs,will accept us as we would accept them.
Just remember that it will be YOU one day.

Merry Lady?

Monster Lunatic?

Menopausal Linda?

That's that solved then

Right ho. Feeling a tad defensive? Awful DIL/SIL?

Me neither, My DD hates all children and DS is probably going to be a Lib-Dem candidate, so clearly he's never going to have sex (with a woman).

dont think i'll be a good mil, both of mine have been crap lol

I had typed a serious answer out, but thesecondcomings is better

YABU and YANBU, lots of MILs are great, some mediocre, others a fucking nightmare, I've got a mediocre one and thank my lucky stars when I read about the nightmare ones on here.

true, they aren't always horrid.

Sometimes they are though.

I guess more people are going to post about the awful ones than the lovely ones and that might make it look like mumsnetters all dislike MILs but lots of people do like their inlaws. There are just as many posts about mothers and sisters and all other relations.

I don't care if my mythical DIL/SIL doesn't accept me. One less present to buy at Christmas, so it's win win, really.

I can't wait to be a MIL, I am going to put the fear into my future son-in-law. He'll HATE me

Thank you all for reminding me why I love MN

I wish I'd had a chance to meet the woman who would have been my MiL, had she lived. I suspect she would have been formidable, but hopefully she'd have been an ally.

It does make me wonder how so many crazy MILs as described on here managed to raise such loveable sons.

I am a MIL (married DD)... and my son-in-law is lovely AND rather likes me and DH.

If my DS marries I really hope we get on with our (potential) daughter-in-law. We are easy-going and non-confrontational so want to be sure prospective partners are comfortable in our company.

We adopted a hands-off approach to DCs personal lives but made partners very welcome in our house. It's all about not interfering (unless there is something really out of order).

I have a difficult MIL so there is no way I want to be like that with my DCs partners.

I love my MIL :)

Gosh,in a few tears time you'll all be crying on here.
I don't have a Dil or Sil yet,but i like my sons Gf.

If I am anything like my mother, both my sons wives will have a horrid MIL.

Fingers crossed I'm not.

My MIL is a nice lady with moments of unhinged behaviour and she can make my life difficult when she wants to. It is very gratifying to be able to whinge about it on here and it makes me all the sweeter when I see her next as I am not bottling up resentment.

How would you feel if your sons GFs were particularly awkward towards you Merrily?

Like stopping you from seeing your GC, or trying to tell you the way you're cooking is wrong, or telling your sons how they should be with you ie not to consider your feelings in anything?

But if I am a nice MIL (I like tsc have a small slightly chubby baldy but instead of orphan annie hair we have a halo effect of male patterned badness!) my dil won't be able to come on mumsnet and complain copiously about how shit I am and therefore find out if she is bu or I am. I wouldn't want to deprive the poor girl of an institution!

AnyFuleKno.....do you think she whinges about you on here?

Surely mil's should mind their own business and let their kids get on with it.