I am a ML.

[MerrilyDefective]

Mil's aren't always horrid.
Mil's love their daughters and their sons.
Mils also love their Dils and their Sils,
Mils love their grandchildren.

One day we will ALL be Mils.
Let's hope our DIls/SILs,will accept us as we would accept them.
Just remember that it will be YOU one day.

fyi both outfit ideas blatantly stolen from the wedding disaster thread from a few months ago, actually worn by mothers of the groom. So I guess it could be worse?

Amazing. Do you have a link to that thread?

My MIL is very, very sweet and bought us a house with the money her DPs left her. She lives 3 hours drive away and we see her for a couple of days most months. She never makes Christmas demands.

tsc he does indeed have a very lovely name although I confess to a certain penchant for Valentine too

cheerful Couldn't possibly. Have totally risen above it. Oh ok then...

We decided to double-barrell our surnames as I didn't want to give mine up and I wanted our DCs to have the same name as me. Apparently, this decision had hurt and angered MIL; if we were going to do it we should have put my surname followed by DH's so when one got dropped in future, it would be mine not his ; she wouldn't use it on letters; blah blah blah ad infinitum.

To this day, if she writes to any of us, she uses first name only on the envelope - she has never used our surname.

God love her, she's a gem.

I LOVE my MIL she is so wonderful :)
I prefer her to my own mother !

merrily, i am sure you are a lovely mil. also sure that most mils are lovely too. mine was lovely til we got engaged... then had opinions about the wedding and caused so much stress and hurt that i am still not over it yet. Probably made worse cos dh would agree things then backtrack every time he spoke to my mil.

we get on, are polite but the relationship will never be the same. they were so bothered about not upsetting other family members that they forgot that it was not a great move to upset dil, future mother of their dgcs.

dh makes it worse going on about respecting his parents (as it should be) but sometimes i feel that my needs rarely get put first which is not mils fault as far as i know.

AnyFuleKnow "My MIL is a nice lady with moments of unhinged behaviour" - ditto. She rocks, 99% of the time.

I imagine the best that I can hope for is that my future DiLs will describe me as "an unhinged lady with moments of nice behaviour" :o

DiLs? Jesus, where did that come from? I only have one DS. Perhaps he will be a Mormon.

CakeandRoses, your DH's last name is presumably not even hers, but her husband's (hers by adoption only upon marriage).

Through the process of annulment I have had the great fortune to find out exactly what my exMIL really thought of me all those years -- [MN needs a few more emoticons]

Exactly, mathanxiety (always wondered about the meaning of your nickname, used to 'see' you a lot on baby name threads i think)

And that's reminded me, her other form of emotional blackmail persuasion was to say they'd lose the name altogether as her dd2 had just got married and changed her name, as did dd1 years before.

oh ok, then, OP so everyone who has an objectionable MIL should just shut up and get on with it, eh? [rolleyes]

My MIL is causing lots of trouble at the moment. To her daughter.

When there are posts on here moaning about MILs does it not occur to people that it's usually a case of coping with a difficult person- they are an interfering MIL but also an interfering sister, daughter, friend and mother.

I am with you MD :)

Not a bit of it hairytriangle.
Just saying that not ALL MILs are horrid.

And even if you don't get on with your MIL,the day will/may come when you're the MIL that your DIL doesn't like.

As it happens,we don't even have contact with my ILs(OLs).

My MIL is now so demented that she doesn't know who any of us are. While it's very sad, I'm ashamed to say she is a darn sight easier to deal with.

My MIL is my best friend. She's fun, generous, kind and considerate. I would never be without her.

It saddens me that some people have horrible relationships with their PIL.