I am a ML.

[MerrilyDefective]

Mil's aren't always horrid.
Mil's love their daughters and their sons.
Mils also love their Dils and their Sils,
Mils love their grandchildren.

One day we will ALL be Mils.
Let's hope our DIls/SILs,will accept us as we would accept them.
Just remember that it will be YOU one day.

I wouldn't blame her if she did tbh. We don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. I know she discusses me with her friends and I am happy with that, rather she bends their ears than mine. I can imagine her now:

"She's a fat little thing, never stops eating, she FINISHES her meals you know, and says yes if you offer her a piece of cake. Do you know she used to breast feed with her breasts! Disgusting (etc)"

I'd be really sad if they didn't like me AgentZigzag,....
I've always tried to be nice and get on with GF.
I think she likes us as we like her.
Hope i'm not wrong.

Merrilly Defective - I had children so late that I am always a bit scared I will not live long enough to see them married, but thanks for your crystal ball gazing, maybe I will become a MIL. If so I really hope I won't be a PITA.

Just by the law of probability Merrily, lots of the MILs on the other side of the threads on here must truely believe they are trying their hardest to be nice to their DILs.

What I'm trying to say is that some things are really hard to swallow when it involves a DC you love enormously, and GC you feel the same about, which may lead to some MILs saying and doing things they'd never have thought they'd do when the DILs were GFs.

Hey StayFrosty, i agree,just don't push in.
Girls want their Mums and Grandmas/MILS are a drag.

I'm with Frosty!

Didn't anyone like the John Mayer song?

I did.

Yeeew,i used to breast feed with my breasts aswell......
I hope my DIL does aswell.
But if she doesn't then it really is up to her.

stayfrosty

i for one am going to insist on the date of the wedding to suit me call dil awkward cos she won't do what i want and complain to ds that her plans are just not good enough for our family.i will qyibble over every detail of the wedding, from present list ot food to location. also insist on inviting some random reli 3x removed cos i can for the sake of the family, my family may have a strop you see if some random partner we have not been told about wasn't invited. then i will wonder why my dil is not keen to visit with the dgcs.

What?

Thing is,MD, we know that most girls have nice MILs they can get on with. But if we are unfortunate enough to get the other sort, we reserve the right to moan about it on MN.

I have four sons. I plan on emigrating when they are grown up.

Nah,bet you wont
You'll want to see your lovely GCs.

I love my MIL in fact at times i prefer her to my own mum. However my SIL is so anxious about this she gets in the way every time my MIL visits so consequently I back off to leave them to it. I'd love to tell her how important she is to me but I don't feel I can which is a shame. Ah well maybe I'll tell her one day xx. :(

I love my MIL in fact at times i prefer her to my own mum. However my SIL is so anxious about this she gets in the way every time my MIL visits so consequently I back off to leave them to it. I'd love to tell her how important she is to me but I don't feel I can which is a shame. Ah well maybe I'll tell her one day xx. :(

Mine's an exMIL.

I gave her my best shot, really I did.

My friend has a silver bullet in her house. I gave it to her to use on me if I ever act like my not so lovely MIL.

My friend has a silver bullet in her house. I gave it to her to use on me if I ever act like my MIL.

My MIL isn't interested. She sends the obligatory parcels for birthdays and Christmas ( usually late) and although I accept she lives a few hours away so isn't going to be a regular visitor never makes any attempt to contact the kids even by phone. Has visited us once ( in 7 years) as she expects us to go there and to be honest never invites us we always have to suggest it. Up until last year I would suggest to DH that we go and try and arrange it all for a half term or something but didn't bother this year and sure enough we haven't seen her.

I used to think it was sad that my boys were growing up without really knowing half their family ( FIL is just as bad and he only lives down the road) but you can't force it and if they are not interested they are not.

It must be lovely to have the support of a nice MIL.

I love my mil she is brilliant, she is welcome here anytime for however long she wants to stay as is fil. They as so hands on with my two little ones. We have a great relationship - which is just as well as they are all the family I have apart from my ver lovely sis and bil.

I've always got on well with my MIL but early in our marriage it used to piss me off when she would come round and clean up and iron etc. I took it to mean that what I was doing was not good enough for her son.
Now I have 2 DCs I embrace it to the full - I am no longer offended by it but appreciate it.

It's my own mum who drives me barmy now. My poor, poor DH. In fact as the years go by I have noticed that I have some of my mum's traits and conciously have to reign myself in - god forbid I turn into the MIL from hell!!!

Thesecondcoming "my children are both funny looking"

I thought you had 3 children?