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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that this is compleatly unfair....

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honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:15

Recently I crashed my car someone was on my side of the road and I made a split second decition to crash into the headge as I knew I would not stop the driver of the car after checking I was ok drove away.... The farmer's wife just rang me demading money for the hedge... Am slightly peed off by her saying:
What will you do about it?
How will you fix it?
It will cost lots and you need to pay...

it was about a foot of hedge I damaged slightly... I have pictures...

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vintageteacups · 23/11/2010 21:16

I'm sure that your insurance company would pay, no?

mumcanihavearabbit · 23/11/2010 21:18

Sorry,I cant really understand what you mean. Someone driving a car was on your side of the road? Or a pedestrian?

mollymax · 23/11/2010 21:18

Sounds like you need to contact the insurance.
Have you got the details from the other driver?

WhyHavePets · 23/11/2010 21:21

weeeell Why should they have to pay for the hedge?

Seriously though, they are right to want something done and it should be the other persons insurance so you need to go to your insurance company and let them handle it from here.

Original poster
honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:21

A car was on my side.. no I do not they drove off .. if they send a bill will send to the insurance but it was her manner that got my back up !

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honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:23

she was very bitchy with me ... it was a tiny tiny part of the headge

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 23/11/2010 21:24

Thing is, hedges are there for a reason, and that reason often has to do with keeping animals away from the road. So if there's a hole in the hedge, they can't use that field until it's fixed. Sorry you'll have to take the hit. :(

GypsyMoth · 23/11/2010 21:25

farmers hedge?? probably needed to keep expensive farm animals enclosed?

mumcanihavearabbit · 23/11/2010 21:26

Did you report it to the Police? When was it?

mumcanihavearabbit · 23/11/2010 21:27

And how did the Farmer get your number?

WhyHavePets · 23/11/2010 21:28

The thing is, if it were my property that had been damaged, then i would have expected you to contact me and tell me what was going to happen to rectify the problem so, in this case, I would have expected "Hi, sorry about the hedge, I have contacted my/his insurance company and will keep you posted" and, if I didn't get that, I would have been pretty pissed off and, possibly, quite cross/bitchy when I had to contact you to find out what was going to be done.

I am sure she should have been nicer but, tbh, I can understand her being a bit peeved!

Original poster
honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:29

yes I live in a farming community but this field is used for growing things in...

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Toughasoldboots · 23/11/2010 21:30

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mumcanihavearabbit · 23/11/2010 21:31

Doesnt matter what the field is used for, it isnt yours, and you damaged it.

WhyHavePets · 23/11/2010 21:33

So the hedge is to stop people/animals getting in then?

Either way it is someones property that you damaged even if it was not your fault. It has to be fixed and it has to be you to do it if you did not get the other persons details. Frustrating I am sure but not really something that can be denied!

Desiderata · 23/11/2010 21:33

Can I offer anyone a full stop?

AfternoonsandCoffeespoons · 23/11/2010 21:37

Grin Desiderata.

jinnyandshantih · 23/11/2010 21:38

Just because it is a field why shouldn't they claim for damage. You would not think twice about your insurance paying out if you had damaged a wall or fence in a village.

What the field is used for is irrelevant - we are farmers and try to keep our farm looking nice, which is not easy when people drive through hedges!

Original poster
honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:39

the phonebook I guess... I have an unusual name... at the time looking at the hedge I couldn't see damage so didn't think to phone.could have just to let her know.. Have just looked at the pictures and there is no hole in it ....

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AfternoonsandCoffeespoons · 23/11/2010 21:39

FTR I think YABU.

Possibly the farmers wife was also U in the way she spoke to you but it kind of is your responsibilty to get the hedge repaired, in as much as it isn't hers IYSWIM.

mumcanihavearabbit · 23/11/2010 21:40

How would she know it was you though, where did she get your name?

wannaBe · 23/11/2010 21:41

you damaged the hedge - therefore you are liable.

What exactly is unfair about that?

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honeybeetree · 23/11/2010 21:42

I will pass it on to the insurance then it is out of my hands...

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WhyHavePets · 23/11/2010 21:42

But there is damage - which is why you took the photo Hmm

Put simply, you broke it, you fix it. It may seem unfair but there it is.

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MrsNonSmoker · 23/11/2010 21:43

Just let the insurers deal with it, try not to take it too personally, hard I know,but that's what insurance is for. She can easily claim on her insurance, they will contact yours and deal with it like that (I bet she is hoping you just hand over the cash!)