to think that this is compleatly unfair....

[honeybeetree]

Recently I crashed my car someone was on my side of the road and I made a split second decition to crash into the headge as I knew I would not stop the driver of the car after checking I was ok drove away.... The farmer's wife just rang me demading money for the hedge... Am slightly peed off by her saying:
What will you do about it?
How will you fix it?
It will cost lots and you need to pay...

it was about a foot of hedge I damaged slightly... I have pictures...

[amothersplaceisinthewrong]

Of course you should pay for any damage. If someone damaged your property surely you would expect them to pay??

[honeybeetree]

local small community wouldn't take a lot.. perhaps should have contacted the farmer but just didn't think at the time as I did no think there was damage.. I could not see any (only minamal) in the photos....

[honeybeetree]

Yes I would but I would do it in a nice way and do it in a way ... I would ask for their insurance etc to do it I wouldn't be shouty and nasty...

[WhyHavePets]

Well then you are obviously a better person than her.

Doesn't change anything though does it?

toughas, the title is about it being unfair and the op says she is peed off at the woman demanding money so I think the op is about the payment/cost and not about the tone although the thread seems to have developed that way now that no-one is agreeing with her.

[BerylStreep]

Sorry, I am confused. Who took the photos and when?

I agree, if there is damage, then it is your responsibility to sort it. If you decide to do it through your insurance, then so be it. NB: The farmer has no obligation to provide his insurance details to you. It's not his problem, it's yours. Asking for his insurance details will only put his back up.

I can understand her being annoyed if you didn't contact her (although equally understand that if you didn't think there was any damage, why you didn't).

Is there any possibility that she is trying it on in terms of the amount of damage caused? Has she quoted a figure for how much it will cost? Perhaps calling round to look at the damage along with the farmer will provide a bit more clarity. You could also take the opportunity to apologise for not contacting them, and explain that you genuinely hadn't realised there was any damage.

If the damage is as minor as you say, I'm not sure what exactly could be done.

[sixpercenttruejedi]

pay a small token amount of money, you damaged her property. I may be biased as near me there is a poor old soul who lives on a bend in the road and the minute he fixes the damage of one driver, another smashes up his repairs. Don't go overboard, but you do owe some reparation.

[sixpercenttruejedi]

that'll teach me to refresh before I post, there was only two posts when I hit post

[sixpercenttruejedi]

having read the thead, buy her a plant that'll cover the hole, if it's only a field that's for growing and not keeping livestock in, I think that would be very reasonable.

[WhyHavePets]

sixcentre, if someone gives you a black eye would you be happy with a band aid?

Honestly, what a silly suggestion! buy a plant this is a working farm not a pretty front garden!

[Gotabookaboutit]

Erh here's a basil plant that should fix it ? Its not reasonable at all - you hit something with a car you or your insurance put it back the way it was. Simples

[Gotabookaboutit]

Whyhavepets beat me 2 it lol I too snorted ;)

[honeybeetree]

wasn't peed off about paying more of her tone and demanding and rude nature...should have made mysef clearer at the start...... she can have my insurance details and will carry on from there

[WhyHavePets]

So why is the title about it being unfair then?

GABAI

[Gotabookaboutit]

Demanding and rude because she had to ring you to get you to fix it ? snorts again

[elphabadefiesgravity]

Whilst I can understand her wanting the damage paid for I would have thought that she would have understood that you crashing into her hedge was a much better option than a head on crash which potentially could have been fatal and she could have been a bit nicer about it.

So YANBU.

[BerylStreep]

I'll ask again.

Who took the photos and when?
Has she quoted a figure for how much it will cost?

[WhyHavePets]

The op took the photos at eh time of the accident.

[honeybeetree]

I just felt it was unfair the way and the tone in which she spoke to me .. maybe I should have rang perhaps it could have been handled better... anyways thanks for making me think .... goodnight all

[dearprudence]

If someone damaged my property and didn't contact me, I'd probably be shirty about it when I had to contact them.

[WhyHavePets]

Ah I see.

Anyway, hope you get it all sorted. Shame you can't chase the other driver really as they should be the one getting the flack and paying out!

[honeybeetree]

no she has not I will wait to see... I took the pitures just in case ...

[hairytriangle]

YABU. Did you report the incident to your insurance company? Why should the woman pay for the damage you caused?

[sixpercenttruejedi]

WhyHavePets ; she said it was only a little damge, it's possible to buy a plant (hedge type plant for those with such little imagination] to replace the damage. Having livestock myself I'm quite aware of what a hedge is and what would be reasonable to offer as recompense. Nevermind, if that response made you feel happy and pleased with yourself, carry on.

[sixpercenttruejedi]

why am I even bothering with people who can't read, who's sixCENTRE btw?