In wondering what's wrong with reins?

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Who uses them?
Who doesn't?

I do and I often get patted on the back for it by passing old ladies who "don't understand why they ever went out of fashion"
My mum used them on all of us. If I didn't use one my little one would be all over the shop and I am guessing holding my hand for any period of time would be quite uncomfortable for her. (she is only small)

i don't use them, along with saftey gates (apart from the top saftey gate) ect i would prefer to teach them no from the word go

There is nothing wrong with reigns in my opinion. They keep a child safe when you really need them to be close to you, like when walking close to a road or in very busy areas. I would much rather put up with the 'tut tuts' of the Judgers than to have my little toddler run into the middle of the road whilst I'm struggling with a pushchair, bag and everything else.

I don't have safety gates either but we live in a flat. I see your point and my daughter does understand no but it is still too young to gaurantee she will not run into the road or in front of something. (she is getting around quickly now) 13 months old.

They don't work. That's the problem.

DD doesn't feel the need to walk nicely just because we're attached sadly.

I had a thing that went around DD's wrist. It kept her safe so I couldn't care less if people were tutting at me.

I lost DD (now 18) in a shopping centre. One minute she was there and the next she was gone :( I found hera after about 10 minutes - i nearly fainted with stress and anxiety and after that used reins always. I have a DS who is 21 months and will use them on him too when he spends more time walking than in his pushchair.

They worked with ds. I got people barking at me (literally barking) and commenting that I was treating my son like a dog. Kept him safe so I didn't care about the stupids.

it been a slow process when i first started it was take dd in her buggy to a quiet safe place and slowly build the walk up

reins are ok if you have multiple children and a sledge to sit in.

reins are for dogs. not human beings

Really Mollie? :( what sort of age were they?

Rosie , a similar thing happened to my sister and it scared her stiff, she now uses them.

I don't see what's wrong with them.
'I prefer to teach them no from the word go' nah I can't be arsed with that

yeuch. But people who use them feel passionately in their favour.

but then I won't use a buggy

I am weird

They stop kids walking into traffic. Simple.

I think they should be mandatory till about 16ish.

What do you do lady? I mean to keep attached or in control of them?

I have noticed though that I never ever see them where I used to live in Lonond. Only outside of central London.

I got the wrist thing for the same reasons as everyone else it seems. We were living in Bangkok and it is really crowded there.

i don't care either way despite my glib commetn below, but i don't see the need for them and i had twins and an older child. my kids wore those wrist straps - i strapped the other end to the buggy ( usually cos i had shopping in the buggy)

just don't see the need

I hold her hand or carry her in the sling. She is two now.

I travel everywhere on public transport before you accuse me of being a car driver

I would say to the dog comment - My dog wears a lead to keep him safe, my child is even more precious!

I think whatever the parents want or need is ok. All children have their own personalities and it is the parents who should make judgements over what is best - NOT a stranger.

Having said all that the wrist ties do scare me a little as a parents natural reaction is to pull up if a child falls and that would the childs protecting hand from under them.

why not, the reins have to come off one day, and you'll have to teach the dangers and not to go near roads ect the same thing i am doing now.

They are great when you have a child who wants to walk but too young/too short to hold hands.

We used them on dd1 and she is 3 now and we have never had a problem with roads.

Yeah, I'll teach her now and when she knows I'll take them off.

I made them hold my hand. and i walked lots with them everywhere. the more experience they had walking, the better the kids are at road saftey ime

Yes but surely a child of 12/13 months cant understand that auntie - she can't even talk yet! There is just no way I would be so trusting of such a young child.