to not want DH to pay MIL to clean our house

[AmandaCooper]

Am I? DH thinks so, so I said I would ask you guys.

Just have to share with you the final (hopefully) part of the saga.

DH has just left for a meeting. On his way out the door he goes "So shall I tell her not to come today then?"

She was going to start today!!!

It sounds like it's been sorted, but for future use, tell him: "I don't feel comfortable with this in my home " is a perfectly logical reason not to have something happen.

Am quite annoyed on your behalf that you had to justify your feelings!

O oh be on the look though as she may not have 'got the message' so to speak.
Put the deadlock on in case she has a key.

OP-how about he tells her not to come ever

I'd say no way.

Privacy issues, plus it would just be a bit weird to be paying a parent to work for you.

Mamas I know! I've had to go out after manically cleaning for two hours. What's the betting she'll come anyway! If she tells DH she's cancelled other plans or something he'll roll over like a puppy. Damn my slatternly ways!

Diddl that's a bit OTT! I do like my MIL and she's more than welcome at our house. I just don't want to employ her as our cleaner!

No-damn your husband!

Why does she even have keys?

Why don´t you phone her & say that there has been a mistake & you don´t need/want a cleaner?

The thought of this makes me shiver.
She has keys?

Ha ha. No she doesn't have keys and we've got those electronic fobs to get in and out, so you can't just cut a new one. The plan, apparently, was (still is?) for DH to ferry her between her house and ours on each occasion.

Sorry, I only meant as regards to cleaning

Thank goodness you seem to have nipped it in the bud. He'd have got fed up with ferrying her over and there'd have inevitably been the moment when he gave her a key - just this time. Then before you know it she'd have been in and out whenever she happened to be passing. Happened to us - at least dh hadn't given MIL a cleaning job, but he did give her a key. OMG my soul wasn't my own. The only way she was stopped was by our moving!

Definitely no. But you need an 'out' preferably find another cleaner and explain to MIL that DH didn't check with you first, but that you already hired her on a trial basis.

When MIL came around to clean, it was more work than it was worth. She needed 'help' all the time, so effectively she was ordering me around . She also didn't clean very well, and used a lot of Febreeze...

I'm a bit primitive and cavewoman, so I don't explain what I'm up to, I simply employ, pay and choose anyone working in our household. It's not a role that's up for grabs.

milou 'it's not a role that's up for grabs'

Amanda - this is not yet over... he said 'today' he thinks he can 'win you over' over the weekend. Stand firm my friend, stand firm. If all else fails... 'The day she comes into clean is the day you find your smalls packed & waiting out the front for you'... should do the job!