To expect DD's teacher to use the name we gave her?

[MumblingClothDoll]

DD has a double barreled surname...hyphenated. She began in year2 of her school this year and then another child with the same first name joined the class....so her teacher began Calling them Anna B and Anna M....my daughter being Anna M...now...technically my DD is Anna M-S....should I say something or not? Anna M appears on lists, and charts and everything...and DD does not seem to mind but not sure how DH would feel.

Here's the thing...we are going away for a year and returning to the same school for year three...so should I just leave it for now? Or say something?

I don't feel quite comfortable with the teacher doing this...I guess it's to make things easier but it seems a bit rude to me...tell me ....what do you think and is it worth mentioning or should I just indicate to her new teacher next year that we prefer her full surname used?

I am bad at approaching things like this...I always come over as hysterical and anxious...

yellowflowers
The problem is there is no way on god's green earth for anyone to tell a teacher to refer to their child as Anna M-S instead of Anna M without sounding like a pretentious twit fusspot.

You are being mad tbh. Leave it alone.

As a side I have a group of 12 teenagers in one of my sessions and 3 of them have the same first name and surname and they are all mates!! Now that gets complicated! (E.g 3x John Smiths) in another group I have 4 who have very similar first names eg Kas, Kasser, Kassie. Kassier and a similar sounding surname. Now that does my head in!!

I would just leave it, TBH. From the thread title I thought you meant that the teacher was calling your DD a nick name instead of her first name eg. Sam instead of Samantha, which I must admit would annoy me if I had a DD called Samantha who was only known as Samantha.

I think that you have to pick your battles and seeing as your DD will be leaving the school and returning to (I assume) a different teacher you shouldn't say anything, unless it's still really bothering you next year.

Gooftroop - there is if you give a reason. eg if you say 'sorry to be a pain but we had loads of discussion about what surname to give dd and eventually agreed to double barrel so it would be really helpful to us if you could refer to her as Anna M-S on classlists etc to keep the peace at home.'

But it shouldn't be M-S anyway, the initial is M, the hyphon makes it one word, so the S is irrelevant

I think YANBU actually, and I'm a teacher. If that's what you want your child's name to be written as, then fair enough. Mention it to the teacher and I'm sure it will be sorted without them batting an eyelid. Believe me, staffroom gossip is a whole lot more interesting than this!