To expect DD's teacher to use the name we gave her?

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DD has a double barreled surname...hyphenated. She began in year2 of her school this year and then another child with the same first name joined the class....so her teacher began Calling them Anna B and Anna M....my daughter being Anna M...now...technically my DD is Anna M-S....should I say something or not? Anna M appears on lists, and charts and everything...and DD does not seem to mind but not sure how DH would feel.

Here's the thing...we are going away for a year and returning to the same school for year three...so should I just leave it for now? Or say something?

I don't feel quite comfortable with the teacher doing this...I guess it's to make things easier but it seems a bit rude to me...tell me ....what do you think and is it worth mentioning or should I just indicate to her new teacher next year that we prefer her full surname used?

I am bad at approaching things like this...I always come over as hysterical and anxious...

People who haven't been teachers don't realise how hard it is to remember specific details relating to 30 different children. If the OP did go in and say this it would only have the effect of getting the teacher's back up because he/she would feel that the parent was ridiculously concerned with trivial matters. Given that some children come into school not fed or with bruises, worrying about an extra initial is just pointless and not worth the teacher's time. It would be quite possible that the teacher would feel watched and attacked given that such a minute, insignificant detail was picked up on. The teacher would probably think "I spend hours planning lessons, marking work and setting homework and this is what this mother has noticed??? Why do I even bother?"

Hear hear writer.

God get a grip woman!

ANd if it is not a private school I would be suprised f they will keep your place open for a whole year during the year you want to take her out.

What writer so eloquently said :D

If OP made that fuss I would be inclined to give both Annas a bag of plastic letters and let them pick one out and whatever they got the could put next to Anna.

actually I think YANBU

DS has a doubled barrelled surname the sencond part being mine and I raise him while his father swans about 2000 miles away it is impoartant

Especially as he has always used both surnames and school made me change it by deed pool before they would.

He has everything labelled DS N when I always write DS N-B.

Mindyou DS teacher keeps spelling his first name wrong so I am just picking my battles. (which is neither as I'm a wuss)

As a teacher, it would be no big deal to me to put M-S at the end of the name if that's how the child recognised it. I'd note the request and that's all, hardly the stuff of staffroom gossip, unless the parent was OTT about it.

Have had requests by parents to put the correct emphasis on their child's names i.e. "It's Tarn-yar, not Tan-yah, that's common" - although it rather backfired as we all sounded like bad Craig Revel Horwood impersonators.

A teacher I once met was called Laurence Of Mar, always wondered how he would be addressed and listed.

I think I will give up reading! It has nothing to do with names-it is quick, easily recognised , differentiation-nothing more. On the register he is with the N's mumbar.

Oh yes I know that.

Thing with my 'issue' is (I'm not that bothered tbh) is that there are 2 boys in DS class with the same name so she uses surname to differentiate, but she spells DS first name wrong a lot

Like I said for those of us who are raising DC's alone when its the estranged father bit that gets recognised and the mother bit is discarded as it doesn't affect the alphebetic sorting it's just hard.

I would never say anything as it is not important enough to mention but I agree with the OP, and if she wants to say something then she should.

Spelling the name wrong would annoy me. Perhaps when people double barrel it they should take into account that the first one is the initial that counts-officially.

Piscies I do have an AIBU thread at the mo with regards to school, its called 'I am but I'm sad'.

Even with big events like this I'm often not sure whether to say something. I'd appreciate your advice if you have time - your clearly more rational than I am

Cheers.

To the OP, take more water with your whisky.

I will take a look. WriterofDreams said it all on here.

I don't think yabu - my dc's have a double-barrelled name and it is easy for people without a db name to say yabu, but If you haven't got this kind of surname it is hard to understand the importance of it. If it matters to you, say something and don't feel bad about it. If the teacher thinks you are being funny that's her problem!

YANBU teacher is writing her name incorrectly, its her identity. We have a double barrel surname and it is wrong to mess about with it at will.

i wouldn't go in especially to correct the teacher though, could you just mention it at a parents evening? Or a note ?

I have a double barelled surname and I still totally struggle to understand the importance of this. Sorry.

Writer I think the teacher would be unprofessional to have that attitude, its not all about them, they are there to do a job, not to wonder why they bother. Can't they just be corrected for getting a pupil's name wrong? What example does that set for the kids? Can't be arsed to get names right, too busy. I'm too busy and important to worry about minor details like that.

Good cory-I haven't got one so I was beginning to think that perhaps I just wasn't understanding. To my mind when the teacher says everyone whose surname starts with M 'go and wash their hands' then Anna would go because in the register she is under M. I even looked in the telephone directory earlier to check that I was right. Alphabetically they come under the first letter of the first name.

YABB (bonkers)
don't mention this to teacher or she will realise you are bonkers

This exact situation has arisen with my daughter (our surname is double barelled) who gets noted on written stuff as child K to distinguish her from child L.

She should by your logic be child K-M but this has never crossed my mind. Please, don't worry about the small stuff

If the kids got the teacher's name wrong, they would be corrected soon enough. Kids get treated like like second rate people because they are young. I think we should treat them with the same respect as we would an adult.

The teacher hasn't got the name wrong! They can spell it correctly when they need to-they are finding a quick way to differentiate the Annas. I know teachers, with difficult names who are quite happy to be called Mrs S.

teacher has NOT got the name wrong.!

At the doctors your DCs records are filed under K-isthisanEA.

I think my suggestion of getting them both to pick a random letter out of a bag is the best and stops the fuss! I will leave you all to it-goodnight!