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For not wanting to pay for this woman to come to DC's birthday activity?

142 replies

Rosieeo · 30/10/2010 09:04

DD's birthday is coming up, and we decided that we'd take her plus friends to a local theme park for the day. They're all in reception class. We planned on there being two adults/two cars/eight children.

Got an email last night from one parent saying that is was very generous of me to pay for everyone to have a day out. I was a bit Confused and replied saying that it was only ten tickets and it would be significantly cheaper than having a party.

I got another email this morning saying that there was no way that she would let her DS go there 'on his own' for the day, but that she and her DH would meet us there with her DS. She finished by saying that she hoped I didn't mind and that it was 'only another two tickets after all' !?!

Now, I don't believe for one moment that I should have to pay for her and her DH, although I am interested in what you think of it! But am I being unreasonable to ask parents to let their 4/5 year old go on a 30 minute car journey to a theme park for the day without their parents?

OP posts:
textpest · 31/10/2010 00:40

On a school trip one adult to four children is the norm for under fives - I think the the legal ratio is 1:5

piscesmoon · 31/10/2010 08:09

I think that a school trip is different-I wouldn't be happy with more than 2 per adult, at that age, in a party situation.
I think that your experince was a case of PFB Kristina and no interest in others!

Hulababy · 31/10/2010 08:39

I assume 4/5y means first year reception.

30 minutes in a car really wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I would ensure car seat was available though.

1 adult for 4 children at this age and Sundown (have been) is big and sprawling, although pretty secure is too few adults. I would saw that you need to go for 1 adlt per 2 children.

There is now way I would expect the host to pay for lots of other adults though, but would say maybe a couple of others.

RunawayPumpkin · 31/10/2010 08:58

I would tell her that it is a shame her child will miss the party then, bloody cheek of the woman. And why does she feel that both she and her DH need come.

If they meet you there give them the child's ticket and go inside telling them you will meet them in there when they have brought their tickets!!!!!!!

themeparkspy · 06/08/2011 17:51

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TittyBojangles · 06/08/2011 17:55

This is a very old thread, I'd suggest starting a new one themepark

pigletmania · 06/08/2011 17:59

No I would not let my 4/5 year old go to a theme park where there were only 2 adults. They are still quite young and need a lot of supervision. I still accompany dd 4.5 to parties. YANBU to not pay for these womans tickets. You should text her saying that if she wants to come that she will have to pay. Or you will have to pay for 16 or so extra tickets for parents who want to supervise their child.

pigletmania · 06/08/2011 17:59

Why the hell do people bring up old threads that should be consigned to the bin Angry. Nothing better to do me thinks.

empirestateofmind · 06/08/2011 18:39

This is the third old thread I have seen re-started by themeparkspy.

I think he/she is just searching for any threads that mention theme parks.

Very tedious.

flyingspaghettimonster · 06/08/2011 18:54

definitely yanbu, but she is also nbu to think it is too little supervision for such young kids. I wouldn't let my 4 year old go.

chicletteeth · 06/08/2011 19:28

Only read your one first post.

YANBU.

Say that you will not paying for them but that if they wish to join your group, they can pay for the two tickets after you've paid for everybody else.

Freeloaders IMO.

Even if they were worried, both of them don't have to go.

susiedaisy · 06/08/2011 19:34

Wouldn't let either of my kids to a theme park when they were only 4 you are either brave or mad it will be a long day!!

storminabuttercup · 06/08/2011 19:40

I havent read the whole post but I think yanbu to not pay for these people!

I also think that you maybe need another adult, but said 'theme park' (IMHO its not a theme park) is half an hour ish from me too and the local schools take the little ones there all the time, Its nowhere near as big as a proper theme park!

storminabuttercup · 06/08/2011 19:41

Oh shit, that's what I get for not reading!

Get a new hobby themepark!

youarekidding · 06/08/2011 19:57

yes I asked another post I posted on another of themeparks revival threads to be deleted. Great work by MNHQ as they deleted it PDQ. Grin

LineRunner · 06/08/2011 20:01

Yes themeparkspy got a post deleted today on 'Theam Park' thread.

Bloody boring.

LDNmummy · 06/08/2011 20:06

I'm confused, is Themeparkspy the other parent from the OP's story? Confused

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