To ask how many people you have slept with?

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I just wanted to ask, sorry if its a bit rude, How many people you have slept with and how many you would say is normal?

3 - am 35 and was 20 when Dh and I got together.
Like someone else said earlier I do feel I've missed out a bit, especially lately (mid life crisis emoticon )

1 (DH) and I'm 36. This thread is definitely making me feel less weird as everyone else I know has slept with loads (including DH who after 10 years still hasnt' actually told me how many and I suspect he doesn't actually know as he went through a really wild time in his mid 20s). I had quite a few boyfriends before him but just never actually did the full deed as it didn't feel right with anyone else.

This thread reminds me of the Monthy Python luxury thread. Everyone trying to beat each other. And the 11 year old cherry popper? Oh Purleeeeeeeeeeeeeese .

6, and I'm 30

Going back to the idea of why people think people should sleep around.

I think one of the reason why women get into bad relationships is because they marry the first boy who kisses them (I'm not saying that all the people who marry the first have bad relationships, far from it). I speak a little from experience where I see someone I know who married their first, and they're unhappy, but I don't think they have the confidence to leave to find someone else.

I just feel quite happy to have had six partners to get a bit of a picture of how people are in relationships. I didn't feel I needed 50 to gauge that, but 6 was nice.

Still, there are no rules and if the first is a keeper, good luck.

15 men, I'm mid twenties.

4 have been long term partners.
4 have been close male friends/fuck buddies.
7 of them I barely remember their names. They are defined by the night out/hangover that ensued (e.g 'freshers-week-boy', 'New-Years-Eve-2007-boy', 'Vomited-on-his-shoes-boy' etc etc)

I do think that sometimes women who marry the first bloke they shag do miss out, because that bloke is lazy and rubbish at sex and not interested in learning any ways to improve. Women who do this are the ones who end up telling everyone else who unimportant sex is in a Proper Relationship and companionship is so much more worthwhile. Until the day they crack and run off with the postmam.
Being good at sex is a skill you have to learn - you have to overcome clumsiness and (if heterosexual) the sheer unfamiliarity with the other person's anatomy. Some people never manage to learn this - though some do manage to learn it happily with their first or nearly first sexual partner; these are the ones whose relatinships tend to last.

1 in the last 12 years (husband). I'm 36.
Before that, over 20 maybe,I honestly can't remember. I had a bloody good time though. Hope they did too

about 50. I am 40. First boyfriend at 16, out of the 50 about 10 were boyfriends between 16-21, one husband. most action was between 22-25, when i was single. married till 2005. Since then only slept with 2.

1. Met DH at 18 and I'm 33 now.

3 and I'm 28. Met DH at 18, one before him and one during a 3 month break before we got married.

I have no idea tbh, quite a few

8 or 9 (I'm sure there's one more but I forget ). I'm 31 but was with Ex for over 11 years and ex-ex before him for 3. So I had a brief but slutty singledom

And no doubt will again.....

Your opinion that women with only one sexual partner miss out is a load of shit SGB.

It's stupid to generalise. The person who's had 50 guys might have had really shitty sex every single time.

Who knows?

Oh about 25 if we're counting all the way. Add a few more who weren't. I'm 36.

Tums, I can't speak for SGB, but she only said "sometimes" women miss out. She didn't generalise

SGB - lots of first timers learn their skills together
Not all first timers are totally uneducated in matters sexual, lacking in curiosity, and too shy to ever say boo to a sex toy.

[looks at the ceiling, whistles a happy tune, knows nothing...]

9 and i'm 33

3 were long term relationships (still in 1)
1 was a 1 night stand when i was 16!
1 was a long standing FB
1 was an affair that lasted 6 months or so
the other 3 were sexually flings that lasted a few weeks

and i must say the only really good sex was/is with the man I'm with now, having sex with someone you really love and who really loves you makes all the difference

Just worked it out and it's 25 (I'm 30).

I'm pretty happy with that number, I've had some lovely times with some very nice people, (and almost a decade with one very horrible person but that's a whole other thread!).

I would comment not that multiple sexual partners is necessarily a good thing, but multiple boyfriends is possibly what's more important. The idea being that women learn how different men treat women, and what's important.

To take an example, some men are good in a crisis, some aren't, and I found it useful to see how a few boyfriends behaved over time.

Still agree, number 1 might be perfect

1. I'm 30. I've never asked but I'm fairly certain DH's number is quite a bit higher.

Just DH

2, which is 1 too many.

Just DH - we met when I was 19, am now 30. I genuinely don;'t feel I've missed out at all, I think he's brilliant and that we've grown up together in lots of ways.

Like someone else said, this thread makes me feel a lot less weird though. Really interesting to see how people think about it.

1. But the same one for the last 25 years.

One