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To ask how many people you have slept with?

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redflag · 26/10/2010 21:31

I just wanted to ask, sorry if its a bit rude, How many people you have slept with and how many you would say is normal?

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scouserabroad · 26/10/2010 23:11

Sometimes I think it would be nice to have the kind of relationship where you could be together, but you could go off and shag other people have fun elsewhere sometimes, just to see what it was like.

ThickFucker · 26/10/2010 23:12

swc...so name change

or tell your husband to stop reading MN, the nosy fucker

SlightlyUndead · 26/10/2010 23:12

N N N N Nineteen (for those of you who remember the ridiculous Paul Hardcastle song)

So yes, 19. I'm 39. Been with my DH for 18 years, so crammed in loads during my late teeans, early twenties - the slutty experimental years Blush

And agree with all those who say quality not quantity!

PinkIceQueen · 26/10/2010 23:15

I have that on 7" vinyl lol. Hated it even though it's message was a good one.

izzywizzywoowooo · 26/10/2010 23:15
smallwhitecat · 26/10/2010 23:16

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SlightlyUndead · 26/10/2010 23:19

Go SWC - see that there Mr SmallWhiteCat, that'll learn you to be nosey!

SkeletonFlowers · 26/10/2010 23:23

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Jellykat · 26/10/2010 23:24

Yeah! that'll learn ya Mister!Grin

NoahAndTheWhale · 26/10/2010 23:27

Just DH. Am 35

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MumBarTheDoorZombiesAreComing · 26/10/2010 23:33

11, and I'm 30 yo.

Aways wanted to wait for the one.

Forced into it at 19 (I was drunk too Sad)

Slept with a few more to convince myself it wasn't bad, quite liked it so slept with a few more. ( 2 were 1 night stands Blush)

Met ex-p had it lots Wink, had DS and split 5yrs ago - ironically due to his adultery.

Not had it for 5 years and a born again virgin Grin

Jellykat · 26/10/2010 23:34

Aaah just tell him they were all insignificantly "before you came along"... Sweeeeet usually works!

TheOriginalNutcracker · 26/10/2010 23:36

3, and I am 32

smellmycheese · 26/10/2010 23:39

40-something, I am 30.

I was single from the age of 21 - 26, and had a fun few years!

Jellykat · 26/10/2010 23:41

(Sorry TONc did they survive with a knickname like that??)

altinkum · 26/10/2010 23:41

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Rocklover · 26/10/2010 23:44

I am 36 and have had 7 sexual partners. 6 of those happened after splitting up with my exh when I was 32.

PartialToACupOfMilo · 26/10/2010 23:49

I remember having this conversation with dh when we first got together and it was 7. But I can only actually remember 5 now (including dh)

Obviously a couple weren't worth remembering Hmm

MardyBra · 27/10/2010 00:43

Eight. Mid 40s.

DooinMeCleanin · 27/10/2010 00:45

I've never totted it up and I have no real interest in doing so.

Normal, imo, is the amount you are comfortable with, be it one or one million.

expatinscotland · 27/10/2010 00:52

Lots

Odelay · 27/10/2010 01:35

3 that matter. Some others that don't

sam84uk · 27/10/2010 02:04

2 and I'm 26. Was with the ExH for 7 years (from 17) and had 2 DCs and have been with my lovely DP for a year and a half.

I don't feel like I've missed out. I think when you're in a long term relationship you're more comfortable with each other so 'do' more then you would otherwise lol. At least that's the conclusion I've come to after discussing this with friends who've had more partners.

musicmadness · 27/10/2010 02:40

About 10 (Do you count threesomes where only 2 people were involved in the actual sex but all three involved in forplay as 1 or 2?) and I'm 20. 8 women, 2 men. Only one of those actually meant something however (at the time anyway).
Its fun and protection is always used [hgrin].

Normal is however many you are comfortable with. I have friends who are saving themselves for one person and others who sleep with different people every week. Both are perfectly fine IMO. The only "rule" I have is once in a relationship with someone no sleeping with anyone else unless your partner is fully aware and OK with it.