to not want to not want to live in a house where someone has died?

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Ok, we live in a street that we love but our house is just too small and garden doesn't get the sun. That would be our reasons for ever moving. But the house across the road has an extra bedroom, extra living space (oh to have a playroom), a conservatory and a drive! We have a lovely old lady neighbour in this house, really lovely.

Anyway, DP and I always say that we want her house and DP (who has a sick sense of humour) always say well Mrs xxx won't be around forever so we could get her house. This will never happen, she has 9 kids and a gazillion grandkids and great grandkids.

But I've always sais the only way she'll leave that house is in a box. And I refuse to buy a house knowing someone has died in it. DP thinks this is ridiculous as it is possible someone died in our current house, but I don't know that.

Would you live in a house knowing someone had died in it?

Disclaimer: Both DP and I think Mrs xxx is fantastic and wish her a long and happy life!

You are entitled to your opinion, and you are entitled to your experiences. For what it's worth, one of the reasons that we bought the house that we now live in was that it "felt like a friendly house".

But I'm also entitled to my opinion, and there are an awful lot of people with no experience of depression or suicide who do get very silly and teenage about them. It's all very salicious and fake-horrified and forgetting that this was a real person who died. Someone who had a Mum and a Dad, and siblings, and who was loved as much as any of our children. And someone who loved back.

I've encountered you before on these boards, and we've agreed on a lot of things. You don't strike me as someone who would be like that. But surely you can't deny that it exists? And exists on this thread. :(

That has not been my feeling on this thread, MrsTittle, that people are being silly or teenage about depression and suicide or that people have been derogatory about or denegrated people who have died in such ways in the home.

Your perception is different.

That's why it's AIBU.

I have not seen that on this thread.

A lot of people don't mind a bit.

Others do.

In some native American cultures, it's such a deeply-rooted part of their spirituality that some US states have disclosure laws, whereby a seller has to disclose if there has been any unnatural death on the property, in order to recognise this part of the culture or the sale can be rendered null and void.

I would not wish to live in such a place because of my own personal spirituality.

I'm sorry if some find this upsetting, but this is part of who I am.