To bloody well send them to a hotel?

[Tinalovestuna]

In laws arrived 1/2 hour ago for planned weeks stay. Unbeknown to me or dh, fil has norovirus. He said he has been vomiting and has diarrhoea since 3am.

We have a 7 week old baby who has a cold.

I am so fucking livid at how stupid they are. Me and dh have just had a massive row in the bedroom because I think they should go and stay in a hotel, I don't want my baby infected.

Dh said I am being totally unfair as they have driven down to see the baby.

I said I would pay for a hotel.

Hope she is ok.

If they've driven to see the baby, then clearly they have had a wasted journey, because you ain't going to let them anywhere near your baby!!

Idiots, why did they come? Must have been a horrid journey for FIL and what were they thinking about going to a family with a new born??? How selfish.

Even my mother (who is a complete hypochondriac and utterly mad) has the sense to postpone/cancel when she has one of her many "ailments".

tinalovestuna I am , you have permission from all of us to say what ever you like about your inlaws forever and we will never tell you YABU.

What horrible people.

Oh dear very thoughtless of them :( When my DD2 was 9 weeks old, my sister came to visit with her big stupid menstruating pooing dog, at one stage it stood on top of DD2
The same day she developed D+V, and within 24 hrs she was in ITU, dehydrated and with septicaemia, she almost needed to be ventilated. She almost died and we were in hospital for a week on IV antibiotics.

These things are nasty in adults but very dangerous in littlies, even if it is "just a bug" and not noro. You did the right thing by leaving, I thing they have been very thoughtless at the least.

Hope you all escape ok

Hope you are okay.

If these were my Ils, I wouldn't see them ever again. The cheek of having to leave your own house because the stupid fucks brought infection into it and have refused to leave.

Like others have said,I would be absolutely furious with my DH and would not return home until this is gone and house has been thoroughly cleaned (by DH and ILs once they are better). Your DH is missing out on those very precious early weeks with his new baby because his parents are fucking selfish and he hasn't insisted that they go.

unbelievable!

stay away until your dh is completely better, as he is bound to have it now, and has bleached and steam cleaned the entire house.

whats twats you are unfortunatly related to.

Norovirus in a small baby can have devastating consequences.

Your dh is as bad as the ils IMO. I would have zero respect for such man.

I am a nurse as well and am appalled on your behalf. ANYONE with D&V (whatever the cause) who deliberately risks infecting a small baby is an idiot. I hope your PILs and your husband are ashamed of their selfishness and that you are your baby are okay.

Hope you are OK OP. I am totally gobsmacked that your PILS (and DP) are being such arses!

When I was in hospital having DD all my family (including 11 month old DS) caught and vomiting and diarroeah bug. Everyone did the sensible thing and stayed away until they were better (even though it was hard not being able to see DS for a few days...I was in hospital as I'd had a C-section). So your ILs are not as thoughtful.

Blimey, hope you and baby are OK Tuna. Sounds like your DH is going to have some hard work ahead of him to disinfect the house before you return - perhaps that will teach him to stick up for you next time.

As for the PILs, well, my first - no, make that two s, one each.

Scumbags. Utter utter scum of the earth. How dare they force you to leave your own home in the middle of the night with a newborn.

Show them this thread

I read all these posts hoping this was going to turn out to be a wind up but no!

Hope the OP is ok.

I hope you and baby are okay, Tuna.

I've already ranted about the PIL but something else has been gnawing at me since reading the OP, which is that if I were Tuna I would make it clear that the PIL were never going to come near me, my child/ren or my house again. EVER.

And if my husband didn't like that I'd be telling him that given his gross lack of common sense, intelligence, respect and loyalty to his wife and child he could bugger off and not come back too.

I used to be fairly easy going about catching nasty bugs until the time back in 2004 when my SIL asked me to do a favor for her. I had a 3 mth old DS and because of this she knew i was not working. She wanted me to go round to her house and pick something up and drop it of for her at her workplace. Her DS (my nephew) was ill with D&V at home and when i went round there with my DS 4yrs he desperatly wanted to stay so i left him there for half an hour while i did the favour. 24 hrs later my DS was soooo ill. I had to sleep on his bedroom floor that night although i got practically no sleep.24 hours later i had it and 24 hrs after that DH had it. I learned from that how contagious D&V is so now i run a mile from anyone who is ill and you should do the same. Your in laws are idiots.

Tuna - I am incensed beyond belief that you have been put through this.

Do NOT return to your house until your DH has paid to have it professionally cleaned, preferably fumigated, and not for at least 4 days anyway.

Presumably your moronic PILs will leave now the point of their visit has disappeared - but perhaps not. As your DH is almost certain to get it, if it is norovirus, or possibly even any other D&V virus - I'd wait until he has got over it and is clear of it for at least 48h.

If he refuses to have the house cleaned professionally, refuse to return. Your baby is worth much more than his feelings at this stage - he has already demonstrated astounding lack of care for your child (although not quite as little as his own mother & father).

I am sorry to say it but I really do hope they all get it and have a fucking miserable weekend together - and that you and the baby are safe and do not catch it at all. I hope you didn't kiss DH goodbye...

God, arent you lot a bit insane? Fumigated?

It is d&v, not the plague.

A good bleach down of the toilets, sinks, floor of the bathroom, and everywhere he will have touched, a general tidy up and vacuuming and mopping of the floors, and pils bedroom should do. Wash the linen, and mop the floor. Do the bathroom last, and throw the mop away.

All I could think about last night was Tuna saying the bathroom now smelt of pork.... [heave] (d)H will need to dettol the whole place - banisters, handles - the lot. Hope you are being looked after at your mums and they are knee deep in shit and sweetcorn x

I'm thinking along the "overkill" lines here, QoS - might stop him being so fucking stupid next time.

Hope you are ok OP? Just wondering, I can't imagine that your FIL would have wanted to make this journey under the circumstances is your MIL, a little overbearing by any chance?

I remember when ds was born, my SIL rang while we were still in hospital and said she wasn't going to visit as she had a bad cold/poss flu, she sounded awful. 2 hours later she arrives with MIL and FIL to visit us. Persuaded by MIL that all would be fine. So important was it for MIL to get her big family moment that she just didn't care that SIL might pass her bug onto my one day old baby.

I am still even now when I think about that.

hope you are ok OP. and you dont get ill.

Gobsmacked that they would come and visit when they're this ill.

What is DH doing? if he's with them this means he shouldn't come anywhere near you or the baby either as he could have caught it!

That was my thought too shimmery, I can't imagine anyone with bad D&V wanting to even get in the car, let alone go out and visting/stay at someone elses willingly :( Unless he felt so bad he was in shut down and just doing as he was told. Either way, MIL as a mother and the healthy one of the two needs a bloody good kick up the arse for either forcing him to visit or not stopping him. Probably totally UR to blame her but I'm going to as he was the ill one and possibly not capable of making a rational decision/standing up to her.

Stupid, stupid feckers, I hope they get to read this thread

Hope you and the small are OK OP and not squitty . Stay in the hotel and insist on contract cleaners .

I agree that MIL talked it up as noro until it backfired on her. But regardless, you don't visit a newborn in that state. Silly woman.

i think the point of professional cleaners doing it is that if DH and PILs are jsut getting over the D&V they are hardly likely to do a thorough job. i mean, i am totally healthy and the thought of bleaching teh entire house and washing all that bedlinen exhausts me. i think to be on teh safe side i would have it done professionally and i would have PIL pay for it. i don't see why OP's should lose money over their selfishness and i presume her and DH share their money so if he paid for it, she would in effect be paying for it too.