To bloody well send them to a hotel?

[Tinalovestuna]

In laws arrived 1/2 hour ago for planned weeks stay. Unbeknown to me or dh, fil has norovirus. He said he has been vomiting and has diarrhoea since 3am.

We have a 7 week old baby who has a cold.

I am so fucking livid at how stupid they are. Me and dh have just had a massive row in the bedroom because I think they should go and stay in a hotel, I don't want my baby infected.

Dh said I am being totally unfair as they have driven down to see the baby.

I said I would pay for a hotel.

OMG, I'm speechless!

I sincerely hope your DH scrubs the bathroom until absolutely spotless and disinfected long before you get home. Make sure you don't come back until you're certain he's not about to come down with it.

Even if it is not norovirus, that doesn't mean it is definitely food poisoning - there are other bugs that can cause gastroenteritis/diarrhoea and vomiting, and none of them would be good for a little baby or for a mother who is breastfeeding and adjusting to life with a baby.

And just as tuna's MIL can't say for sure that it is norovirus, nor can she say for sure that it is food poisoning.

Frankly, if you have diarrhoea and vomiting, it is far more sensible and responsible to treat it as if it definitely IS infectious, and take precautions such as staying at home whilst you are ill and not seeing vulnerable people such as little babies.

Brolly - tuna's dh needs to disinfect anything the PIL might have touched - bedroom, bathroom, door handles, bedlinen and towels(though I agree with those who say make the PIL cough up for new), cutlery and crockery etc. Better to clean too much than too little.

brolly the whole house will need to have been done, anything at all that they touch while ill and teh bedlinens and towels will have to be binned. it will actually cost alot to get rid of this infection. i hope OPs PILs have been saving.

Yeah, it sounds to me like the self-absorbed bitch of a MIL has changed her mind that it's food poisoning only when asked to leave the house. Who knows what the truth is, but either way, poor tuna and her DD did the right thing in leaving, no question. Selfish asshole PIL aside, it's safer for them to be out of the house than in it. I have a feeling that FIL may have been ordered about by MIL to make him go because she wanted to see the baby, which could be part of the reason she refused to leave the house. Not that that makes her at all reasonable, she's horrid for what she's done and if she was my MIL it would be a very long time before she was welcomed back again.

Still that they wouldn't leave. I can't believe you would go to someone else's house with D&V. It's just beyond belief. I don't think I've ever been so angry and shocked about a thread on MN as I am with this one now.

Even if it turns out to be food poisoning tuna, please don't go back to that house with those morons still in it. They need to be told how disgusting their behaviour is and you won't show them that if you just go back. Bless your mum and brother, and I hope you and your DD get a good night's sleep tonight.

I really can't believe how stupid these people have been. It doesn't matter what caused it, you start to shit, you turn round and go home. You don't fucking walk into a house where there's a 7 week old. Ffs, this is making me angry.

Op, take care, I really feel for you, especially as I have a little 7 week old too. I really hope neither of you get the bug, especially your new wee baby.

Sorry but i think your dh /dp is just as gulity for not booting his mother out full stop ! He`s supposed to look after you two he should have insisted .

Cannot believe this thread. I hope you have gone now Tuna (and have left the PC on with this thread in full view) - what ignorant people. I can't believe your MIL refused to go.

Detox do a good spray that is good for things like taps when you get back.

Haven't seen an AIBU thread this conclusive since the one about letting your DC take super-soakers to another child's birthday party!

OP's DH must be forced to read this and hang his head in shame. PIL too. When they GO HOME.

Good god, that's appalling. Boot them out NOW.

What selfish fuckers!

And as for not leaving YOUR house, the fucking cheek!

No wonder you left, you did the right thing, tell your DH to grow a pair and back you up not stick up for selfish mummy and daddy!

I am angry for you as the rest of MN are!

If your MIL refused to leave, your DH didn't make it clear that it wasn't optional. Good on you for protecting yourself and baby.

i'm speechless

super-soakers? care to elaborate kingthistle?

Wow, I am astounded they actually said no when asked to go to a hotel.
Perhaps he feels too ill to move is all I can think of,(still should go) but they were very stupid and inconsiderate to show up at anybody's home when ill. Your dh better pack their stuff and get them out tomorrow.
Selfish. Even without a newborn, it is selflish.

Well, your DH is going to have a jolly time managing on his own when he comes down with it.

Don't go home until he's well and truly over it.

And I think you need a grovelling apology from your ILs and DH when this is all over. At this point, if I were you, I would be thinking that PILs would never see my child again.

7 pages and nothing further from OP. Hope she is ok and not suffering D&V.

Jax, i was just thinking that too!
hope you are ok tuna
IL's are beyond words

OP is probably still asleep, or ranting at her brother. Well done for leaving, but sadly your OH has shown that he's not as protective of you and his newborn as he should be.
I hope that changes.

OP - i do hope you & baby have managed to avoid it (whatever it is) and are safely at your brothers/on way to mums.

Just wanted to add - don't know how you are feeding, but if it's bf - watch out for you feeling sick. I had Norovirus (as did my whole family, over Christmas, nice) when DS1 was 7mo & i was still bf, my supply dropped dramatically, his sleeping went haywire, i even tried some FF but he wouldn't touch it, it messed up feeding for a good while.

So if you start feeling ill, keep your fluids up as much as poss, keep feeding, even if you feel nothing's working, get help/advice from BF counsellors, etc.

Good luck!

Crikey. Unbelievable. So unbelievably stupid of the PILs.

maybe the OP's parents don't have internet connection?

OP INBU, but does everyong really throw out all their bedding and towels after D&V? I'm guessing the norovirus was self-diagnosed, otherwise it would have involved stool samples etc.

Bloody hell! I thought my ILs were bad.

Even if FIL has food poisoning as opposed to norovirus or similar, it could still be passed on to tuna or her baby. For example, salmonella and campylobacter can be passed from an infected person on to another person via faecal matter/poor hygiene etc (e.g. via a contaminated door handle of hands not washed properly).

I wouldn't throw bedding or towels out but I would wash them on a very hot wash with the Milton liquid suitable for fabrics.

How are things today Tuna?

Have you rung home yet?

Been thinking of you & hoping you are both ok.

jax the op went to her db's house for the night and is going to her mums later on today, she didnt leave for her db's untill 22.30 (well that was her last post) so i assume that she arrived and went to bed.