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Original poster

To enjoy a wee joint every night to unwind?

155 replies

ganga · 15/10/2010 14:13

Alcohol makes me feel like crap, but having a small joint helps me relax and sleep. I don't smoke cigs, do coke, e's, crack etc and generally lead a healthy lifestyle. Work p/t, have 2 DC.

Think I would have grown out of it, gave it up easily when TTC, pregnant and when breastfeeding x 2, but still enjoy the feeling it brings! AIBU?

OP posts:
Thingumy · 15/10/2010 16:13

Yes,I know a few with very successful businesses.

RockBat · 15/10/2010 16:13

So come back when you well rounded, gifted, most intelligent little girl starts smoking it at 11, 12, 13. Then we'll see how you view it.

I've never smoked it (or cigs, or drink), but the odd joint, can't really see the harm. But every night because you can't relax or sleep without it? Yep, entirely normal Hmm

GoreRenewed · 15/10/2010 16:14

I know several, including one top flight barrister. Smoking dope regularly and moderately is not an instant ticket to hippy heaven, in the same way that enjoying a regular glass of red does not mean you are heading for the gutter with a bottle of cheap sherry.

RockBat · 15/10/2010 16:14

That was to TorcherQueenie btw.

FindingMyMojo · 15/10/2010 16:15

purplebuns using a vaporizer is a very grown up way of using pot - no tobacco, no smoke etc, cuts out much of the crap.

Not sure how 'cool' I am these days (or ever were really) - but at least I'm not snappish, ignorant & judgey!

I'm another who's life has been very adversely affected by people abusing alcohol - yet I've got nothing bad to say about those who enjoy a glass of wine or two at all - except most of the time, I'd prefer a little weed instead thanks.

There is a huge difference between use & abuse whether its alcohol, tobacco, weed or cake. Shame so many people are too blinkered & unaccepting to see that.

WillYouDoTheDamnFanjo · 15/10/2010 16:18

I would have said YANBU to the OP apart from the "every night" bit.

If it's every night, you have become reliant on something and YABU.

Hate the stuff myself, but don't think it's any worse than alcohol.

Naetha · 15/10/2010 16:20

Personally I don't see the difference between having a joint and a bottle of wine.

If you NEED a bottle of wine every evening, then you know it's too much. TBH if you have children, then I think a joint a night is way too much. Maybe a couple of puffs to help you relax, OR a joint on the weekend, but sounds like you're doing too much, too often.

And I speak as someone who smokes a bit of weed (through a pipe - can't stand tobacco) about once a fortnight. Me and DH bought an eighth six months ago, and we're not even half way through it.

I don't think moderate (and I consider my usage to be light to moderate) cannabis consumption is any worse than moderate alcohol consumption. You just need to know where the boundaries are.

Original poster
ganga · 15/10/2010 16:20

Brilliant read! thanks for all your thoughts and comments everyone. No idea what I was trying to achieve though as I'm not seeking approval in any way! Just wondering what familes feel about this subject maybe!?

I've been smoking since I was in Uni, I do it in moderation and not during the daytime!I believe Paul McCartney smokes a joint every night, his ex wife with one leg loathed that.. I'm sure others do it too but just don't make it public!

I know parents who regularly do lines of coke, middle class, educated professional people!! then there's the prescription drugs valium etc conversation and then AD's... all mood altering, but legal!! anyway a joint is hardly the same as the latters taken when chilling out, but I can understand those pp who are anti-drugs (did it make you sick when you tried it many moons agoGrin??) so with respect your fears and comments thank you very much! I'm in no way trying to set up a "pot club" .. very funny but feel free to start an "anti pot club"!

Anyway, each to their own, don't really want to defend myself as I don't think I am BU, my children are not exposed to it (unlike regular smokers or drinkers or prescription drug poppers and I don't drop bits of weed on the floor for the kiddies to mistake for smarties!) and like someone else posted earlier, I too can sober up quite quickly on it when needed compared to being in a drunken stuper! I don't suffer from hangovers because I don't abuse alcohol and touch wood I won't ever need a liver transplant from the NHS or long term subsidised prescription drugs yadayadayada!

Got to go, get dinner on for the kiddies! Have a great weekend and thanks again for the posts! keep em coming! there will always be 2 camps!

OP posts:
proudnscary · 15/10/2010 16:20

I enjoy a wee every night

Olifin · 15/10/2010 16:24

ROckbat I think it's a valid point- a lot of the stuff available these days is extremely strong and those who start smoking it regularly as teenagers can end up in a bit of a pickle with it. I know two young men (mid-late 20s) who smoked a lot during their teens (one at a boarding school) who are now both confined to their bedrooms in their parents' houses; unable/unwilling to work or study; unable to have social lives. One of them has been diagnosed with schizophrenia; the other is undiagnosed but is also under the care of MH services.

The other regular pot smokers I know (about 8 altogether) mostly started when they were at University. Every single one of them has a job. One is the aforementioned high-flying IT person, another has a great career as Head of Press at a big organisation and travels the world for her work.

It's not black and white; just as alcohol use/abuse isn't.

Olifin · 15/10/2010 16:26

You might need a lung transplant instead of a liver transplant ganga!

EdgarAllInPink · 15/10/2010 16:26

i enjoy a wee several times a night. am i dependant?

EdgarAllInPink · 15/10/2010 16:28

the research is that Weed acts as a mild preventative of lung cancer, contrary to what you'd think...

WillYouDoTheDamnFanjo · 15/10/2010 16:28

I think cannabis gives people an exclamation mark issue.

Olifin · 15/10/2010 16:30

WYDTDF I bloody love your username.

Edgar That is amazing. Where did you read it?

Lotster · 15/10/2010 16:31

Proud/Edgar, please, stop and think about what you're doing.

Next you'll be weeing outdoors, or just wherever you happen to be sitting - this could lead to losing your job if you wee on the office chair. Just stop now before your life loses all meaning.

WillYouDoTheDamnFanjo · 15/10/2010 16:33

Listen, I only wee after the kids are in bed.

HalfTermHero · 15/10/2010 16:35

And remember, Weeing is defo a gateway thing. Before you know where you are you'll be liberally shitting yourself all over the place. You have to break the chain and get out now.

Thingumy · 15/10/2010 16:36

HalfTermHero you do make me laugh Grin

daftpunk · 15/10/2010 16:43

Anyone who starts a thread boasting about their drug habit is a bit sad imo.

Plus I doubt you'd know a joint from a Jaffa cake.

YABU

WillYouDoTheDamnFanjo · 15/10/2010 16:46

HalfTermHero I resent that. I have been safely weeing since 1997 and only have a poo at Christmas.

Creamlegbar · 15/10/2010 16:50

There is a drug, called Sativex, which was licensed here this July, which is cannabis with the 'high' removed. It has been developed for people who suffer from MS. Someone on mn tried it, (and raved about it), for her pain relief). There must be something good about it.

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 16:52

a joint from a jaffa cake Grin

Lotster · 15/10/2010 16:57

I just tried to light a jaffa cake. It did not go well.

wetnoodle · 15/10/2010 16:58

YANBU so long as it's in moderation and your kids aren't present.

I know plenty of successful and responsible adults, my own parents included, that enjoy a smoke.

For example, my dad is a teetotal doctor who smokes a joint (sans tobacco) most weekends. He doesn't drink coffee, eats very healthy and exercises regularly.

Another example is my DH. He is a lovely man but very highly strung and has a high stress job in the city. He's not into drugs and doesn't get drunk, although he does drink alcohol.

I recommended that he start smoking occasionally and he gave it a go. It has made a HUGE positive difference in his personality.

Whereas before he was a 10 on the control freak scale, he is now a nice manageable 7.5. His parents regularly tell me that they have noticed how mellow he's become and that he's a more pleasant person to be around. My relationship with him has improved to no end.

Although not for everyone, used in moderation by responsible adults it is a great great substance.