that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

[PosieParker]

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

I also found that most of the wedding dress styles were strapless when I was dress searching a couple of years ago. So I found a dress that I liked but was strapless and had straps added, not shoestring ones - about 2 inches thick.

Strapless is such a hard look to pull off. I would look like I'd just come out of the bath in my towel

Suncottage - "Chose what suits you and not what is in fashion" - spot on.
The strapless wedding dress is to the noughties as mountains of lace was to the 80s.

I last wore a strapless gown when I was 18, a UK size 6 and a ballet dancer.

I pulled it off.

It's like jeggings. An 18-year-old size 6 or 6-foot-tall under 25 are about the only ones who can pull it off.

Hire someone to make another design. It doesn't cost that much.

OP - YANBU.

People can wear whatever they like - live and let live and all that. But you can't stop people from thinking however much you might want to!

Thank you! Bunny, when I was looking they were about 3K

I had to source mine at the last minute, less than two months before the day in a town where I knew no one, because we had moved overseas. I would have loved to have the time for the shop to make adjustments, but as it was I paid a bit to another seamstress to take up the hem, put on my best slip, and prayed . I even made all my jewelry/veil because I was frustrated at looking for what I wanted.

Too bad really, the lacy dresses that she does are gorgeous. Jenny Packham also does lovely dresses that are unusual, but again, unless you can get the sample sale and happen to fit the sizes they have on the rack they are very pricey and IMO not worth it.

YANBU,

so boring and identikit these days. Apart from me every wedding I've been it's been strapless, hair up, a few tendrils, fake tan. I went for straps, long loose hair and pale and interesting .

And it really doesn't suit most people which is a shame. I've seen a few brides who don't look that great tbh, they would have been better off wearing a different style.

I know I don't suit strapless, my neck's too long (giraffe effect) and my shoulders are bread for my frame, and my boobs are too big. i wouldn't have wanted to look like a triangle.

To me it beggars belief tht so many women want sleeves and so few designers give them to us! I ended up buying a wedding dress I didn't love and and it was FIVE sizes too big and needed taking in massively. This was because it was the only one with sleeves that I came across.

Can't designers and manufacturers stop wanking out princess strapless type dresses that often look the bloody same and start giving woman what they want? Dresses with sleeves will fly off the shelves. Why can't they get it?

(By the way. no offence to you brides who got married in strapless dresses, I'm sure you all looked lovely).

For something a little bit different I loved Circa Vintage Brides.

Beautiful, unusual and very classy....

Holly Those dresses are swoonsome.

Particularly love Marilyn and Martha. I'm a very 50's kinda gal .

I LOVE Bianca! would def have gone for that

I had that problem too. I didn't have the arms for it and I wanted to be covered up. I opted for one that came with a bolero to cover my arms as there is precious little choice other than strapless these days.

Also I don't think people realise that when you sit behind a table after the wedding, you look as if you're wearing a white bath towel. It's very boring.

Bianca is fab! As long as you have beestings.

I'm a size 14 but with bloody enormous arms, strapless looks awful on me, as do spaghetti straps. When I was getting married I searched bloody everywhere for a dress and was tearing my hair out - I also had the 'not in your size' shite.

Finally found a dress in a back street type shop, and bloody hell it was perfect, square neckline, chiffon sleeves and cut under the bust. This was a tiny little shop, no big names, run by a single lady on her own. I cried when I first put it on, mum cried at the final fitting and DH cried as I walked down the aisle!

More brides should have that chance, and it's a bloody shame there isn't more available.

The problem with availability of different styles could be solved if more people just decided not to wear white or cream.

I got married in a pale colour, because I knew I looked bloody awful in white or cream. Marvellous decision aesthetically, and can be great on costs, as well: everything with the W word on it costs a tonne more!

I was looking at strapless gowns in a Bridal magazine when planning my marriage, and my dh- to- be said he didn't like them. I was surprised, but he said a bridal gown should be modest. It was a side of him I did not realize existed. I was very slim back then,(2 sizes ago) and could have carried it off, other than feeling self conscious about my lack of chest. We ended up doing a registry office wedding and I didn't wear a gown, but a suit.

I do think curvy woman can look attractive in a strapless gown if it is a well fitted gown, and not really scanty. If it is tight and emphasized rolls, and the breasts are the first thing(s) you see, then it probably isn't a good choice.
My mum had her gown custom made, it was a simple satin ivory sheath and beautiful. Her figure was all it needed to make it look nice, think Audrey Hepburn.

I also do not think strapless looks good on a really voluptuous woman, too sexy looking, save that for the honey moon clothing and wedding night lingerie.
Dh has worn off on me :)

I think the trouble with strapless is, to feel "safe" in it it´s either pushing everything out the top or flattening & pulling everything down to the waist.

My wedding dress had sleeves. Got married in 2007 but had bought the dress in 1994 (when sleeves were still fashionable). I do not have the figure for strapless dresses - no waist and small boobs so they don't look great on me. I can do spaghetti straps but I need a big skirt to give me a waist - any kind of shift dress is a no no.

Anyway - the dress I had bought in 1994 was perfect for me then (even though I never got to wear it then) and perfect for me in 2007 as well (although I needed it let out a bit to accommodate my 4m bump!)

Mine was strapless, but empire waisted, so not identikit a line style, more slutty pride & prejudice style

Looked fab & only £100 from monsoon.

wow you lot are just jealous, anyone can wear strapless! just accessorize right!

YANBU - this is why I'm only friends with slim and attractive women.

Yes agree. Strapless bridal gowns look like modified bath towels with frills.

merry - was about to be rude to you til I clicked on your link!

As long as you are happy in your dress then that is the most important thing. However, it seems that the strapless dress is becoming a uniform almost. It is the only dress out there.