that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

[PosieParker]

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

Kaloki made her dress, too, because she didn't want strapless. If you visit an Asian sari or fabric shop, they might be able to tell you where to find a seamstress who will make one for you from a vintage pattern and it won't cost the Earth.

www.latterdaybride.com/modest-wedding-dresses.php typed in Bridal wear with sleeves and it came up with modest wedding dresses!!!

Thank goodness, I thought it was just my bug bear. Why o why o why is this the prevailing trend in bridlewear when only about 1% of the population looks good in it? In the (now vanishingly unlikely) event of my ever getting married, I would have to be drunk or bribed a six figure sum to reveal my upper arms.

What do winter brides do? Wear a little furry cape?

YANBU

Nikki and kveta you both look beautiful I agree that some people go for this style without thinking it through.
My bf had a strapless dress and it was stunning because it perfectly suited her lovely figure. However I can think of at least three brides who should have been saved from themselves Two of those three were exceptionally thin women. The worst one was the dress which was a beautiful line and fabric, had obviously cost an arm and a leg....and made the bride's small boobs TOTALLY vanish.

(oh and two of those dresses had sleeevs - it wasn't the sleeves that were the problem!)

I don't think strapless is the most flattering for everyone. I've never been a fan of the naked look for myself but I do realise that some people can look good in it. It's not just about being fat - I was a size 14/16 when I got married and I'm sadly a bit bigger than that atm - but very few podgy white people can carry the look well.

I don't understand why people blindly follow fashion rather than find something that suits them. That goes for all clothing though, not just wedding dresses!

I had one slim friend who lost so much weight in the run up to her wedding (a nervous non eater rather than a planned diet) that her boobs could hardly hold the thing up. Fortunately her mum casually passed her a beautiful wrap for the photos so the bones didn't show!

YANBU

Not everyone can pull the look off - they are either a bit on the large side with that roll of plump under their armpit spilling over onto the dress, or a skinny bird with stick arms, whose rib cage can be seen through the dress

Otoh, it does seem very difficult to buy anything else, judging by what you see in shop windows . Thank god I'm not getting married nowadays, I'd be dooooooomed.

Bunny, I looked at Claire Pettibone dresses when I was looking for my wedding. Do you know how much they cost? (answer: lots)

Posie, those are mormon wedding dresses - specifically designed to hide the special underthings they wear.

My parents and DH's are all mormon and they never under any circumstances bare their shoulders. Out of respect for our families I wanted something with a bit more coverage and had a hell of a time finding it. (dress on profile, ended up paying 700 for it at a sample sale, but then, it wasn't available in ANY other size and in retrospect I definitely needed better structural undergarments as it was, in effect strapless).

Honestly, before I found that dress I was ready to wear a white suit just to be able to cover my shoulders. Everything was either strapless or trying to bring the sexy back in other ways.

I had a halterneck dress when I got married in May.

Strapless dresses looked hideous on me.

YANBU

I have a wedding dress I had made in china but never wore, it's an 8-10 and has thick straps... I really should sell it.

Well I am ready for a flaming but my wedding is next June, have just added pic of me in my dress when I tried it on. i personally love it

bearing in mind I had no shoes on either

One of my closest friends was fairly large when she got married, in particular she had v large arms.

However, she wore a strapless dress and looked beautiful, who knew a wedding dress could be so flattering!!!

I think YABU.

Maren - I wanted something like that...

I've uploaded a picture of my 'solution' to my profile. Still look scrawny round the chest area mind you.

The entire ensemble is for sale, if anyone wants it.

marenmj - I haven't looked and don't care. I have to have it!! You look beautiful in your pic. So chic and pretty and elegant.

TLE I don't think anyone will flame you. Your dress is not to my taste but as you say you love it and that's what matters at the end of the day.

MissMarjorie - love your 'solution'. You look stunning. And also you look very much like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=www.hollywoodoutbreak.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/julie-benz.jpg&imgrefurl=www.hollywoodoutbreak.com/2009/11/05/boondocks-virgin-julie-benz-knows-it-all-happens-in-the-editing-room/&usg=__45FzxLY3H1uZy1u5MxbaqHNv3NA=&h=324&w=216&sz=21&hl=en&start=0&zoom=1&tbnid=9apn1Rjwm5AQHM:&tbnh=140&tbnw=93&prev=/images%3Fq%3Djulie%2Bbenz%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26biw%3D1680%26bih%3D905%26tbs%3Disch:1&um=1&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=253&vpy=226&dur=9&hovh=259&hovw=172&tx=81&ty=123&ei=s1yzTOqVHMLsOd7llcEF&oei=s1yzTOqVHMLsOd7llcEF&esq=1&page=1&ndsp=58&ved=1t:429,r:12,s:0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">her off of Dexter.

TLE....you have no arm issues!! Lovely, get the right underwear though(www.max cleavage do loads of solution stuff).

MMB....stunning.

I think brides should wear what you want.

personally though i adore sleeves on dresses and despite being a fairly skinny size 12 I HATE wearing strapless dresses! I think it may be because I'm nearly 6 foot with not enough boobs for my height...dunno, but don't like. Actually I don't even love them on others, love pretty sleeves!

Go on then if we're swapping pictures :)

MissMarjorie I love your bolero !

YANBU, but that's true of any outfit that doesn't flatter you.

I think perhaps brides think they have to wear one of those identikit dresses?

see my profile for my SIL and friend - both had sleeves - SIl's dark green dress was amazing but doesn't show well in the photo. My friends was very well fitting- i think this is part of the problem with people buying off-the-peg dresses - if you re going to wear sleeveless it needs to fit!

DD had a cute dress too.

I wore an off the shoulder bodice dress - but can't find piccie. Mine wasburgundy - i think white is a problem colour for most peope to wear as it can be very forgiving and make things look larger than they are. My sleeveless dress looked good though (i had basically stopped eating afer DD was born in order for it to fit).

My mum always says that years ago, a vicar wouldn't have married a bride wearing a dress that exposed so much flesh!! Bridal gown fashions change like everything else - it'll be all lace and full-length sleeves in 10-20yrs time

Posie - i had no bra on in that pic I opened dress and put it on to see what it looked like. So yes the right underwear is definatly needed.

I am a size 16 so it goes to show.

I think it can look nice and voluptuos... her groom obviously finds her attractive which is teh main thing!!!!!

I find it very annoying that all wedding dresses are strapless. Not because I dislike strapless but because I (think I) look good in strapless, but if I were to get married anytime soon it would just look as if I was mindlessly following the trend - oh look anohter strapless dress.