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that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

321 replies

PosieParker · 11/10/2010 17:44

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

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thesecondcoming · 12/10/2010 09:24

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FindingMyMojo · 12/10/2010 09:42

YANBU however it does seem whenever I've looked that 95% of wedding dresses out there are strapless.

MintyMoo · 12/10/2010 09:51

I want to blind my guests with bright colours as I look awful in white, now just got to convince DP that not wearing white is ok and that his Granny won't think I'm loose morally :D

www.uptight-clothing.co.uk/indexFrameset.htm

(expensive, will never have £2k plus to have one custom made but at least you can design your own and have straps, or a jacket/cloak)

PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker · 12/10/2010 09:54

I had mine made in China, always worth looking on ebay for a tailor!!

VivClicquot · 12/10/2010 09:57

Mine was strapless and quite meringue-y and if I do say so myself, I looked fucking ace. Grin

(And to be fair, when I tried on dresses with sleeves or straps, they made me look more broad so )

TheLadyEvilStar · 12/10/2010 10:07

posie thats where mine came from as well Grin

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PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker · 12/10/2010 10:18

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maighdlin · 12/10/2010 11:59

im a large lady and got a strapless dress for my wedding day, although i did get the dress maker to put in halterneck straps to break up my shoulders and she had done it that i didn't need a bra. I am G cup so thats impressive work. She also made a jacket bolero thing but i couldn't wear it on the day cos it was roasting. I felt gorgeous but looking at the photos all i can see is my bingo wings. I wish there had of been more than one dress with sleeves in the shops. (that one dress was lovely and quite edwardian but just not me)

BaggedandTagged · 12/10/2010 12:08

Strapless can work on a fuller/ bustier figure, but the problem is that many of them sit too low- they need to be under your armpits basically so that you avoid boob overspill and the squishing of fat between boob and armpit

Good underwear also vital- ideally a hip length corset so that the support for boobs comes from underneath- much more effective than a strapless bra

Toned arms/ shoulders also a consideration. Commit to the press up Grin

expatinscotland · 12/10/2010 12:11

Strapless doesn't work on fuller figures/bustier ones because of the bingo wings/cooked ham arms.

Sorry.

I speak as one who wouldn't wear strapless because, well, my arms.

It looked naked. Every time. Looks like the bride forgot her top.

I think styles in Europe are different because a lot of churches there don't allow bare shoulders.

An excellent policy, IMO.

bambinobambino · 12/10/2010 12:13

Maybe, maybe not.

I was a size 14 when I got married and, depsite rigorous personal training, was still ample of upper arm.

I couldn't find a dress with sleeves (and it was a winter wedding)

I had a strapless dress and then got a second mortgage to have a jacket to go over the top (it was a beautiful 60's style backwards fastening one). It was the favourite part of my wedding outfit.

I took the jacket off for the dinner and evening though, hopefully by that point everyone was so pissed they didn't notive my arms Grin

But she obviously feels beautiful on her wedding day and you are being more than a bitch to imply that she didn't.

Also, she's getting married to a man who loves her, and presumably her arms too! They are hardly likely to come as a shock!

expatinscotland · 12/10/2010 12:15

straplessandgoodtastedontgotogether

GetOrfMoiLand · 12/10/2010 12:21

What a FANTASTIC OP.

I said something very similar on another thread a couple of weeks ago.

VERY few people suit strapless dresses. It is because everyone in the land has a pouchy bit of armpit fat which gathers in attractive skin folds and is visible in every photograph. So yes wear strapless dresses to a party, but not to your own wedding where your unsighlty skin folds will be visible to all those who look at your wedding album in future (and to prevent bastards like me from smirking slightly at the sight of it).

I am 6 foot and have really nice shoulders and arms, but I would never wear a straples dress for this reason. And a pashiman doesbn't help, it just makes you look like a 90s throwback.

Buy a dress with SLEEVES fgs.

Judgemental, much.

diddl · 12/10/2010 12:23

I agree with expat.

BalloonSlayer · 12/10/2010 12:48

I would normally agree that strapless on a larger lady with tats looks awful but I think
the lady with the turqouise/black dress and little top hat looks fab. You have to scroll down a bit as I can't link directly to her. She's the one in the snow.

bunkers · 12/10/2010 12:51

Couldn't agree more OP. My wedding was perfect except for my choice of dress, which I now deeply regret. Not only was it strapless, but also had a sweetheart neckline. I was a 12/14 at the time and had a lot of extra flesh. The photos of us cutting the cake and my heaving boobs all squashed together.... eughh. It looked like a Carry On film!

NerdyFace · 12/10/2010 13:01

My sister and all her bridesmaids at her wedding, had on these Ghastly like Claret Red Velvet dresses on.

The worst thing were all the tattoo's over their backs which just made everything look so cheap.

There is also the fact she kept interupting the Vicar and making jokes which made her wedding a fucking state..My problems with my sister are for another thread mind you..

diddl · 12/10/2010 13:01

I think that that "Uptight" site shows how strapless doesn´t really suit anyone.

TheLadyEvilStar · 12/10/2010 13:01

i love this

grapeandlemon · 12/10/2010 13:03

Haven't read every post but I have to agree with OP expat here.

It seems like EVERY bride I see wears strapless and they are only suited to a very small number of Women. You don't only have to be very slim in the arm and upper body but have to have very narrow shoulders to pull this look off. It is for the delicate framed only.

Boy some dressmakers/ shop assistants have not been honest to some brides out there because there are so many fuller figured Women out there who look squashed half naked and too exposed in these wedding gowns.

I think that they show far too much flesh for a bride and the boobs pushed up and exposed decollete is totally inappropriate. It looks too...hmmm victorian prostitute? I chose a high bateau neck gown with a little back exposed under my veil. People go on for ages about my dress and how classic it was and how lovely it looked to see a more modest look for a bride.

diddl · 12/10/2010 13:09

There are a few strapless dresses here & tbh I don´t think that any of them look very nice.

grapeandlemon · 12/10/2010 13:19

How beautiful does Isabella Orsini look in that link you posted diddl. wow - classic, no flesh or cleavage popping out all over the place, radiant, delicate and just exactly like a bride should look imo.

diddl · 12/10/2010 13:23

I love this

How much better it looks (imo) than the strapless ones.

I think strapless looks unfinished.