that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

[PosieParker]

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

You're right about the bride bras!!

it is so generic

hair up
sleeveless, sausage skin dress
tango skin

dullerama

I hate those strapless wedding dresses.

They always look like underwear, like the bride needs to lay her dress over the top of them.

And sure, it's up to the person what they wear, but they just might wind up looking like shit. :o

must be hard to be perfect and critise others, does it really have anything to do with you!
what about live and let live!!

Well sure, live and let live. But don't expect everyone to think back fat, excess cleavage and bingo wings are an attractive site.

YADNBU Posie. Hate them.

Strapless wedding dresses are one of all time bugbears.

Only the very slim and petite of nork can carry them off (and imo would still look better in a non strapless dress).

At every wedding I've been to for the last 10 years the bride has worn strapless. The amount of cooked ham arms, dodgy tattoos on show and incessant and extremely ladylike hoiking that goes on is shocking.

Imo they are predictable, boring, unflattering and slightly tacky.

To me a wedding dress should be pure glamour and sophistication. Strapless dresses are not these things.

ooh my wedding dress is for sale - with sleeves, three quarter length dress and sleeves. Very modest - I wanted it to expose more cleavage but dressmaker said no!!

Size 12/14

cream

anyone interested Ill send them a photo

YANBU but if people are happy then that's all that matters.

I don't want a strapless dress, I want something with pretty little lace shoulder bits. I am a bit worried though that I will refuse to eat from the day I get engaged to my wedding day, I hate photos of myself now so something will need to be done. I'm an 8 but generally small and I seem to wear fat very badly :(

YANBU! I think it's the fact that they are so often not fitted correctly, nor paired with the proper undergarments. This is also possibly because some women try to insist they are a certain size, and couldn't possibly need a size larger than they usually wear (bridal shop dresses often run small).

I have seen many, many cases wear brides could have look 100% better if they had just worn some structuring undergarments. And I say this as someone who lives in jeans and really doesn't generally care about fashion. If you're going all out on a fancy dress, don't you want to look your best in it?

And yes, it's nice that the bride is happy, and yes it's "her day" and all that, but I personally would rather someone tell me that the style doesn't suit me, or whatever, than to have hundreds of photos of me looking lumpy in all the wrong places.

you all have me worried now about my dress!!!

I think about 95% of brides shouldn't wear strapelss. It's not the most flattering design.

It´s nearly impossible to find a wedding dress with sleeves, that doesn´t look prudish, covered all the way up to the neck.

A friend of mine size 22 was told in several sbridal shops, in the most rude fashion; "oh, we don´t do dresses in your size."

In the end she just had to settle for what she could find: a sleeveless, strapless bodicy number. Actually it didn't look too bad.

I spent ages trying to find the dress I wanted as I didn't want strapless. I would feel a bit naked in one to be honest. Some people look lovely in them and some don't but I think it is more people choosing something they like the look of rather than what suits them.

I did see one woman who had a strapless wedding dress with a greying white bra underneath - straps and all! That was pretty bad

My dress is on my profile.....

That's a nice dress, nikki.

Ah thank you

Funnily enough it was the cheapest one I found too. Since my mum was buying my dress I was very careful not to take the piss

I had an off the shoulder dress for my first wedding - i found it in a charity shop and thought it looked lovely - on hindsight i looked bloody awful because I have very wide shoulders lol.

I am getting married next year and have a strapless dress - I think it looks lovely.

I got married this year.

There is naff all out there that isn't strapless or shoestring straps these days - it seems to be the current fad style.

Wedding shops catering for anything about a size 14 are hard to find, wedding dresses generally size hideously small as well - so add a size on to your usual number.

I got married in one of those strapless things the OP is going on about - shocking huh? I also wore a wrap all day because I know my arms aren't my best feature - but hell... I know the twin bald headed ladies are one of my better features so hoik 'em up!

Because of the crap situation buying plus-size wedding stuff - I ended up wearing an evening dress from Debenhams which I altered myself to make sure it DID fit properly and I wore Cadbury purple... and actually, I don't particularly care what nasty ignorant people think about whether fat women should dare get married at all (which is basically where we're heading) because we had a cracking day and, considering I'm one of the world's most un-photogenic people as a general rule and hyper-critical of myself in photos, I acutally did look lovely! Not often I'll say that about photos of myself either.

my sis is getting married and is a larger size. she went to a shop that specialises in it and actually has samples she could try on and everything. Most of them were strapless and I disagree with a number of comments on here. Encasing flab in shiny white fabric does not hide it or make it look better. A well fitted sleeveless dress with appropriate underwear and a lovely necklace creates a better shape than short sleeves that stop on the widest part of the arm or skinny straps that cut into the flesh. Given that the majority if brides get married in summer and will be in warm inside venues if in winter I doubt there is much call for sleeved dresses that would be far too hot. My mum is obsessed with the idea that beautiful = slim and the point of every outfit is to be slimming. Its really sad and depressing how she lets it rule her life and how its the first comment she makes whenever clothes are the topic. Its not the be all and end all to look slim.

nikki your dress looks beautiful.

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That last one I bloody want as my wedding dress by the way.

This not a hot place.

Strapless always looks naked and like the bride is wearing a corset+petticoat.

It's just not a good look.

Sure, people can wear what they like, I'm not skinny myself, but they don't look good on larger people. People think they do, but they don't, IMO.

i didnt want to wear a strapless dress but it was really hard to find one with straps that wasnt frumpy etc. i settled for a halterneck which i liked (pics on profile) and im glad i did as it was so different from all the dresses my married friends had chosen

YABU though as it is personal choice and what would be good for you isnt necessarily suitable for another persons taste

Good for you emptyshell. That's all that matters really, that you feel good. I look back and dislike my strapless number but the day was so good that this can't spoil it atall.

I agree with the OP, but it really is hard to find much else. I'm a size 10, and when I tried strapless dresses I still got that little bit of unattractive armpit fat! And my arms are quite thin.

I was determind that I wanted a halterneck dress for my wedding last year, because I knew it would suit me and I knew my husband would like it. But It was sooo hard to find even a couple to choose from. In the end the only reason I got to try on more than one was because my Mum knew a lady in a bridal wear shop who agreed to order samples for me, but it costs them to do that so I did feel obliged to get one from her.

YANBU. I'd venture that it doesn't look great on most people, but everyone seems to think it's the style for them. Though the bridal industry does have a lot to answer for - there is so little choice in non-strapless dresses these days that I think some brides end up in it by default.