that some brides should not choose strapless dresses.....

[PosieParker]

Just saw another collection of pictures with a bride getting married in a dress where humongous breasts are nearly falling out and arms are huge. Now I've seen a few curvy girls look lovely like this and so it's not a size thing, but more of a suitability thing. I am not large but my arms are not small and so I wouldn't wear this. Why do some folk not know their own shape?

MissMarjori - That's very similar to what I spent ages looking for. I went for the strapless in the end because whilst I did fall in love with the dress, there really wasn't any other option but strapless.

I think I looked nice, though I remember feeling quite exposed when I first put it on, on the day.

haven't read to the end of the thread but i got married at the weekend and this is exactly why i didn't wear a 'bridal' dress - i had an old fashioned 1940s dress, suited me, not some industrries 'ideal' bride.

YANBU - some brides should not choose strapless wedding dresses because it won't wuit them (not necessaarily a direct correlation with size).

I also didn't have a bra. I left it too late to get one, and couldn't afford it
I don't think anyone noticed though.

They'd notice if I pulled the same trick now [saggy post-child boobs emoticon]

I wore a strapless dress for my wedding - made for me by my sister. It was beautiful and properly fitted - I chose that syle because it suited me.

I do agree that strapless dresses are not for everyone, just like other styles don't suit everyone. I don't suit halternecks for example - my shoulders look huge!

There isn't a lot of choice out there though - not many with sleeves or straps. A couple of friends have found lovely vintage dresses which have sleeves.

My SIL has such a thing about strapless dresses she literally hates them. She told me that strapless dresses are 'common and horrible'. This was just after I got married in one. However, she is very flat chested and that style really wouldn't suit her. Still not sure why she has such a thing against them though!

Now that I think about it, it is true that strapless dresses predominate at the moment in bridal wear and it's a difficult look to carry off so I don't think YABU.

From my point of view, I had a very traditional wedding in a Catholic church so strapless wasn't a look I wanted to go for. Especially since my two uncles were the priests celebrating the Mass and one of them would rival Ratzinger for his hardline celibate theologian-type views. Unfortunately the dress I liked best after trying on many was ... strapless! But I asked the woman who owned the shop to alter it by adding sort of 'capped' sleeves that were just enough to cover my shoulders. She made them from the same organza material to match the skirt of the dress so it all worked. I do think if you are choosing to get married in a traditional ceremony you should try to look more 'traditional', not like you wandered in straight from your hen party. Obviously if you're having a more relaxed wedding and don't have religious loons in your family like me, then strapless might be a more viable option...

fluffles As a vintage fan that sounds lovely. Have you any pics?

Bunny - thankyou, but I am nowhere near that pretty!

WRT the bolero, I was talking to the alterations lady bemoaning the lack of dresses with sleeves and she just said casually that if I fancied lace to cover my arms, she'd make me something. And she made that.

What I ought to upload is a picture of me at a tarts and vicars party wearing everything but the dress.

no pics today. sorry. wedding was only two days ago!

I got married nearly ten years ago and the strapless thing was starting then. Now there seems to be nothing but. I particularly hate those corsets with the actual underwire around the boob so you basically look like you forgot to put your top on.

I desperately wanted a wedding dress like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=3.bp.blogspot.com/_e9OLDZlTqHI/TBWRlKQDcgI/AAAAAAAAAb0/54G79r0AlZI/s1600/2010-05-06--WeddingDressFront--KensingtonPalace.jpg&imgrefurl=orderofsplendor.blogspot.com/2010/06/top-10-best-royal-wedding-dresses-6-hrh.html&h=453&w=284&sz=16&tbnid=zaOJDP_S7ptU5M:&tbnh=284&tbnw=178&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dprincess%2Bmargaret%2Bwedding%2Bdress&zoom=1&q=princess+margaret+wedding+dress&hl=en&usg=__NnyXN09z1RrLmtz6R2mD5cGcqHE=&sa=X&ei=ZmGzTK-4DZ6g4QbPxKX1Bg&ved=0CB0Q9QEwAA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Princess Margaret's but could I afford one, Christ no. In the end I settled for a sleeveless job with a square neckline. It was like www.perfectbridal.com/showDesign.asp?imageFile=productImages/LadyRoiImage/8499.jpgthis

Well that didn't work, did it? Hmmph.

You can google Princess Margaret's wedding dress.

yanbu.

yanbu - my new sil had a strapless, corsetted dress, and I think she would have cried if she had seen her back view - overhang and a back cleavage.

I don't like me in strapless - and had a longsleeved dress for my wedding

TLE....I didn't notice whether you did or didn't, I'm not that outspoken!!!

And I really think some women don't have arm issues no matter what dress size they are!!

Fluffles.....we have a right to view said dress, far far too curious now!!!

I wore a long-sleeved dress too! It was absolutely beautiful with a low 50s neckline.

LOL Posie.

I look awful in halter neck dresses and sleeves as my shoulders are 18" wide...DS1 was only 17" at birth

I am quite little but have the arms of a 50 year old 20 stone woman!!

My SIL's both had a bodice style gown. One looked beautiful with lovely, shapely shoulders and great arms.

The other was spilling out on all sides and looked frumpy and it just did not work.

My friend got married for the first time at 42 and had to hire a dressmaker to make her gown because all she could find in the shops was a bodice/strapless/off the shoulder.

She chose a full length/full sleeved gown that the dressmaker designed for her and her shape.

Chose what suits you and not what is in fashion

All brides look beautiful..END

YANBU. My dad is a minister. He finds it difficult at some weddings because when the bride and groom are kneeling in front of him and she has a strapless dress but not much... filling, he doesn't know where to look! He tends to keep looking straight ahead, rather than straight down her bodice!

On the other hand, YABU if it's really all that's available at a reasonable cost these days. My mum made my dress with little sleeves. She's a star!

MumCentrePlus

You are right - all brides are beautiful!

As are all new born babies

I thought DS was beautiful when he was born. Now I think he looked like one of those troll dolls.

I was at a wedding recently where the bride did not, by any stretch of the imagination, look beautiful - she looked exactly like a beach ball squeezed into a corset and wearing too much fake tan would look like.

All my babies have been beautiful at the time , but dear god, some of the others on the wards - I'd have sent them back

I think very few women look nice in strapless dresses tbh.

Just spaghetti straps would look so much better imo.