AIBU to be upset at restaurant's manager who told us off because of kids eating messily?

[lilasimpson]

went for lunch today with friends and her kids...so with my two kids (9monts old and 5) there were 4 kids at this buffet restaurant...at the end of dinner, manager came up top me to say that it was ok this time bjt next time we have to be careful with the mess....the big kids were very good...just our little 2...my bb is blw so really messy....i did ask for a broom before he came up to me as i was planning to clear it...also got charged for 2 kids when they shouldnot pay as under 5 or 5...when asked he did say that it was also to pay for wastage....what do u think?

Why??? lamb to the slaughter???

No spoons cos they are the work of the devil. Cutlery is never introduced. Ever. We eat husks with our bare hands. As a treat my children get a petit filous they must eat with their toes.

ruddynorah i am not mocking just being humerous as through out time most of these consepts have been used but seems in our modern world things need to be labeled and conseptualised and i find that worth mocking. I am interested genuinly why no spoon and when is cutlery introduced.

Yes well I can't be arsed to explain it for the 50billionth time. Fear not though I'm quite sure at least a couple of unsuspecting mums will leap into the lion's den and give you an explanation to rip the shit out of. Enjoy!

nice attitude ruddynorah can tell you must have so much faith and enthusiasm for a concept that must be so important to you and your family

FFS - stop fighting please about bloody weaning!

No one cares but you two.

auntloretta - I am assuming the "lambs to the slaughter" comment was in relation to the fact that a lot of people are likely to taking offence at you using BLW as a jumping-off point to mock (and yes, that is what you are doing) people who parent in a baby-led manner.

Like you say in your later post, BLW is not a new concept - in the past it would have been just called "weaning". The only reason it has been given a label is to differentiate it from puree-based weaning which has become the norm in recent years. Cutlery is introduced when the baby has the dexterity to make an attempt at using it.

Oh well, I better go watch my non aulteristice (whatever that means) child feeding himself with a spoon in a "mickey mouse" manner while wondering where my sense of identity went. Or maybe I'll just get on with doing things in a completely normal, non-weird way, confident in the knowledge that not everyone feels the need to rubbish things just because they have never heard of them.

ruddynorah - I leapt. Oh well, 50 billion and 1 explanations and counting....

Thanks for explination. regarding BLW. and thanks for advice but im quite confident about what my humour was and my own intentions take it how you will but i will make no appologies

I didn't know what it was either auntloretta. Wouldn't worry about it.

I think the manager was out of order op. When ds was little I tried to go for lunch in a chinese restaurant that looked good. The manager rushed up to me shouting 'no,no, no, we have no high chairs, please leave I could see a child in a high chair but explained I was happy to wait, or return a bit later. He was having none of it. I realsied he thought I wouldn't spend much as it was just me and the baby. I was livid though. I rushed off to Argos and bought one of those portable, fabric seat boosters you tie on to a chair.

Went back and he was well miffed but I just sorted son in his chair and ordered a glass of red. We actually spent quite a bit as I chose from the A La Carte. I also tipped, and was terribly nice to him.

He hates me of course, but I was determined. It's hard enough being a mother without all this tension.

I think you should write to head office.

I always clean up the bulk of the mess when the dc's eat out. The staff are always telling me not to worry but I can't leave with noodles / spag bol flung on the floor.

Perfumed - why did you go back to this restaurant then spend so much then tip someone who was so rude? What a gargantuan waste of time!

I would not have tipped...

Yep, I'd have gone back with the cliphighchair too, just to be pedantic But def not tipped him.

Ooh yeah teach him a lesson - spend money in his restaurant

Hey.. if the food was good and I'd pissed him off.. does'nt mean I'd ever go back..

hahaha...

and this is why British service astounds visitors.

I agree good if people just take it on the chin..whisper discontent and leave a tip..fuck me nothing will change...I think people are afraid they might get something scary on their plate...I always complain if I'm unhappy..I nevershout or cuss..I just say I'm disappointed..it works..

It wasn't about trying to 'win'. I really wanted chinese food, this was the only one around, I had thyroid disorder and had to eat, and soon. The reason I tipped was the waiting staff were lovely, nothing was too much bother and they made a big fuss of my son. It wasn't their fault the manager was an arse.

It wasn't really buying furniture, it was a tenner, and well worth it. My brother uses it now.

I wanted something, he had it. I was not prepared to be shoved out because he hated children and small lunch receipts.

He closed down last year strangely enough

There's that Karma...

This makes me so glad I live overseas, where children are welcome and the hospitality industry is, y'know, hospitable.

We regularly eat out with our twin toddlers and I am dreading going back to England this summer.

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