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AIBU?

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Original poster

to tell my DH to stop?

111 replies

Flossie69 · 08/10/2010 20:54

or am I just being too precious about it?

Please be gentle with me, as this is my first foray into AIBU.

The story is this:-
My DD is 4.5 months, no where near ready weaning, obviously. My DH thinks its funny to give her tiny tastes of chocolate mousse from his spoon when he is eating it. She doesn't seem to object, and hasn't been ill as a result. I have asked him to stop, but he doesn't see the harm.

So, AIBU to tell him no, or am I being too precious, and no harm will come to her? I am worried that she will become a chocolate monster!

Please could you help us settle this?

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BooBooGlass · 08/10/2010 20:55

yab a tad unreasonable I think

Summerbird73 · 08/10/2010 20:56

DS was practically fully weaned by that point! Grin

MerryMarigold · 08/10/2010 20:56

YABU and precious!

Sorry. I think deep down you do know it. It's wonderful for them to bond and have fun! I gave my kids little 'tastes' of lots of things eg. licks of cucumber, tiny bits of mash, licks of yoghurt, whatever I was eating. It was great. At 6 months they were ready to eat my food!

Chill out about it all and enjoy them having fun with each other!

PS. All my kids are chocolate monsters, but so am I Grin - it's genetic.

AnyFucker · 08/10/2010 20:57

stop buying chocolate mousse

nikki1978 · 08/10/2010 20:58

She'll be fine. Don't worry about it. Unless it happens 10 times a day and then she might get addicted Grin

SecretNutellaFix · 08/10/2010 20:59

I don't think YABU- he's doing it despite you asking him to stop- that is very rude. If you have both agreed to wait till she's around 6 months then yes, i would be upset as well.

Added to that he's giving her that sort of stuff?

NBU.

Original poster
Flossie69 · 08/10/2010 20:59

AnyFucker DH does the shopping Grin

But I am getting the message, ladies....

This really is the place to get a quick answer, isn't it.......

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FakePlasticTrees · 08/10/2010 21:00

oh, I thought tastes of things were bad as the guts aren't ready until closer to 6 months to cope with anything other than milk. (and someone on here told me it could trigger allergies if they are exposed to food too early, but that could be bobbins)

Alternatively, you could say that you want to teach her about savory foods, and that if you start with chocolate, veg isn't going to seem appealling, and you'll be blaming him everytime she rejects anything savory for the next 4 years.

bethjeff · 08/10/2010 21:01

I cracked up at my DP doing this but have since relented. I think teeny wee bits here and there is fine.

A mars bar a day is not.

(I swear to god in the newsagents the other day that is what the girl in front of me bought her 5 or 6 months old dd. I feel better about everything now!)

lostinafrica · 08/10/2010 21:01

I was sure with my first child that I wasn't going to give her sugary things till she was a year old - her birthday cake would be the first taste. Then we went to Italy when she was 8mo and she was fed chocolate icecream by the cafe owner.

I thought, well if the child-loving, good-food-loving Italians think it's all right... Grin

angelberry · 08/10/2010 21:01

Secretnutellafix, he's her dad! How is it rude if he doesn't do as his wife says? Confused

petisa · 08/10/2010 21:01

I wouldn't like it but I'm definitely too precious. Grin

notsocrates · 08/10/2010 21:02

YANBU

Um, depends if it is home made....commercial chocolate mousse should not contain uncooked egg white but home made does and could harm a small baby if it is infected with salmonella which is not a vanishingly small risk by any means.

In any case, feeding a baby products containing sucrose seems unwise when there is no need.

Also, doing anything with a baby just because it is "funny" seems dodgy to me, even though it is pretty harmless on the scale of things.

FakePlasticTrees · 08/10/2010 21:02

also, open fridge, take chocolate mousses, place in bin. Repeat every time he buys them. He'll learn.

SecretNutellaFix · 08/10/2010 21:02

It's rude to continue doing something annoying if it's upsetting another person. Surely?

greaseistheword · 08/10/2010 21:03

i started weaning both my dds at 4 months dd1 is now 9 dd2 3 and they have no alergies and are perfectly fine.

lostinafrica · 08/10/2010 21:04

DD1's childminder looked after a boy who had a KING-SIZE mars bar every DAY!

And oh the constipation stories she had to tell...

AnyFucker · 08/10/2010 21:04

hey, if you are worried about her getting a sweet tooth, just tell your DH to give her little tastes of Walker's salt'n'vinegar instead...

Hedgeblunder · 08/10/2010 21:06

Yabu sorry, it's only little licks. I know dp would do silly things like this too.

Or you could just start saving for the gastric band now?

Original poster
Flossie69 · 08/10/2010 21:06

Good idea AnyFucker - as long as its not cheese and onion - I wouldn't go near her if her breath smelt of that!

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Hedgeblunder · 08/10/2010 21:07

Anyfucker makes an excellent point

lostinafrica · 08/10/2010 21:07

Forgot to mention he was 18mo. Rather less shocking if he was 8...

angelberry · 08/10/2010 21:08

Secretnuttelafix...
Well..no. My son was eating a sandwich earlier, and I hated the smell. Should I have made him put it in the bin?

PhishFoodAddiction · 08/10/2010 21:09

FakePlasticTrees -nooooo you cannot put chocolate mousse in the bin! OP should eat it all herself, thus not leaving any for the baby to taste.

YAB a teeny bit U if it's only the odd taste.

JoanHolloway · 08/10/2010 21:09

YANBU, there's no need.

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