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AIBU?

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Original poster

to tell my DH to stop?

111 replies

Flossie69 · 08/10/2010 20:54

or am I just being too precious about it?

Please be gentle with me, as this is my first foray into AIBU.

The story is this:-
My DD is 4.5 months, no where near ready weaning, obviously. My DH thinks its funny to give her tiny tastes of chocolate mousse from his spoon when he is eating it. She doesn't seem to object, and hasn't been ill as a result. I have asked him to stop, but he doesn't see the harm.

So, AIBU to tell him no, or am I being too precious, and no harm will come to her? I am worried that she will become a chocolate monster!

Please could you help us settle this?

OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 08/10/2010 21:36

YABU.
But then I freaked when my sister gave DS1 a sip of tap water when he was four months. How could she be so recklessas to give my PFB something which hadn't been sterilised?

As long as it's organic chocolate mouse your DD will be fine. [win] And lets face it, how many children don't like chocolate mouse?

angelberry · 08/10/2010 21:37

Why are people assuming that only mothers get a say? It's really making me cross. A child has two equal parents. Angry

Mishy1234 · 08/10/2010 21:37

Interestingly about the gut thing...I saw it suggested somewhere (not Mumsnet I don't think), that something like Calpol would have an adverse affect too.

DS2 has viral meningitis at 10 days so had to have Calpol in hospital then, so if that is true the whole virgin gut thing was shot pretty early on for him.

StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2010 21:38

I can't believe everyone thinks this is OK! Babies at 4.5 months need milk (bm or ff) only. If they are weaned surely they shouldn't be getting chocolate???
has MN gone mad?

TrinityRhino · 08/10/2010 21:39

I'm sorry

I shouold have said they need nothing but milk till they are six months. end of

I said bm automatically as that is the only way I would feed my babies

sorry

Original poster
Flossie69 · 08/10/2010 21:40

Thank-you all for your comments. The ones which resonate with me most are about DD and DH bonding, and trusting my DH with her.

It has been only the slightest licks, so I think no harm done, but I shall try to make sure that chocolate mousse doesn't make it on the next shopping list Wink

OP posts:
RudeEnglishLady · 08/10/2010 21:40

nnnnn....not sure

I'd be fuming but then I am very precious and unreasonable about baby feeding!

No doubt I'll be feeding subsequent babies blue ice-pops and hot-dogs Wink....

Gibbon · 08/10/2010 21:40

lol @ this becoming FF/BF bunfight

All depends on the mousse in question

AnyFucker · 08/10/2010 21:41

trin, no problem

sorry to jump on you

StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2010 21:41

i knew what you meant TR
But be warned there'll be a thread popping up in AIBU about it Hmm

Gibbon · 08/10/2010 21:41

if it's a poor quality one, that doesn't even really taste like chocolate than I think your husband is being very unreasonable

StealthPolarBear · 08/10/2010 21:41

that wasn't aimed at you AF!

AnyFucker · 08/10/2010 21:42

cheesey wotsits are the way to go, I think

LynetteScavo · 08/10/2010 21:43

But I'm sure Gibbon would approve if it's a Gu mouse.

Longtalljosie · 08/10/2010 21:47

YANBU - I'd be very pissed off. If the DH had reasons for disagreeing with waiting until 6 months to wean, he should discuss it with the OP. Not go "ha ha ha, look at me, you want to wait but look I'm giving her chocolate mousse and you can't do anything about it" Hmm

Gibbon · 08/10/2010 21:47

ooohh yes Gu one is good choice, as are their little cheesecakes....[drool]

MerryMarigold · 09/10/2010 13:03

Oh, FGS. The dh is NOT weaning the child!!!

Some people are a leeeeeetle too controlling methinks.

diddl · 09/10/2010 14:05

Exactly-he´s not weaning as baby isn´t being weaned yet.

So, surely he should be giving nothing?

Morloth · 09/10/2010 14:16

I think a lick here and there is fine, I do it from about 4 months so obviously I am OK with it.

If it is really important to you then you need to tell him why etc, however he is her parent as much as you are so gets to make his own decision about it.

LynetteScavo · 09/10/2010 15:04

Actually, I think this is cruel. The poor baby is only getting a taste, when she would probably love to gobble down a whole pot.

Mumcentreplus · 09/10/2010 15:21

Ahhh...tis fine for her to have a little lick..Smile

wheredidyoulastseeit · 09/10/2010 15:26

I fed my baby on nothing but BF for six months when I weaned him the poor thing practically inhaled the special weaning food I gave him (mixed with BF of course). he was starving I feel so guilty by following that weaning advice.

I really wish I had'nt followed others peoples weaning advice so slavishly. I think giving licks and tastes of different foods sounds great and give more if DS wants it. by the way my DS now is really fussy about food even sweets I wish I had been more laid back and given adult food instead of specially made (by me) baby food.

Gooftroop · 09/10/2010 15:51

YANBU.

It's not 'fine' for a baby to have chocolate mousse at 4.5 months. I wouldn't have allowed it till well after first birthday - and probably not even then. There is so much in there that they could be allergic to.

No way.

And your husband is being obnoxious for doing it, by the way.

CheeseandGherkins · 09/10/2010 15:57

YANBU AT ALL, imho. There are good reasons for not weaning babies until 6 months and just because some people drag the same old line out "it never did me, my mum, some bloke's kid I knew at school, etc etc" does not mean it is OK. Babies go through growth spurts that makes them appear hungrier, but that hunger isn't for chocolate mousse or a lick, or taste of real food; they need the milk for the calories. Food at that age is pretty much empty calories as they wouldn't eat nearly enough to compensate for the lack of milk and would just end up eating more milk later on to make up for it.

Even after 6 months milk is still more important than food. I really don't know why some parents have such a rush to stuff their baby with nasty, mushed up crap by 4 months of age, it's like some sort of weird competition of who can shovel food down their baby the earliest. That's not even going into the risk of allergy, but don't let science get in the way of anecdotes to fit your circumstances....

niceday · 09/10/2010 16:16

Oh relax, it's only a taste!! she's not eating it!

Next time he's having a drink, it's ok for her to taste it. She'll develop a taste for a (good, only good though) wine, whisky, cognac.. Great bonding with dad!

As for you, you can introduce coffee, but only when she's a bit sleepy, not pm

yanbu

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