to tell my DH to stop?

[Flossie69]

or am I just being too precious about it?

Please be gentle with me, as this is my first foray into AIBU.

The story is this:-
My DD is 4.5 months, no where near ready weaning, obviously. My DH thinks its funny to give her tiny tastes of chocolate mousse from his spoon when he is eating it. She doesn't seem to object, and hasn't been ill as a result. I have asked him to stop, but he doesn't see the harm.

So, AIBU to tell him no, or am I being too precious, and no harm will come to her? I am worried that she will become a chocolate monster!

Please could you help us settle this?

a cheesey wotsit or two won't do any harm...

That's not the same angelberry. His action- eating- wasn't upsetting, even though the stuff being eaten might have been. In this case it's the action which is in question- feeding a 4 1/2 month old against the wishes of the person responsible for the (assumed) majority of her care at the moment.

If she's fine with it count yourself lucky and stop worrying (says the one with the egg AND chocolate intolerant 6 mo).

Bitter, moi?

I am now confused as I keep reading that children should not be given anything other than milk, preferably BM for the first 6 months. Surely if it is ok for them to have tastes of foods it is ok to give a bottle of formula? I thought it was about the developing gut. OP, I would have said you were BU a couple of years ago but with all the contradictory advice now, you sound like you just want reassurance.

I woud be very pissed off, its pointless and you have asked him not ot and he is still doing it

when my babies weren't 6 months everyione knew not to feed them stuff

they need nothing but bm
end of

YANBU it is about respecting each other and he is not respocting your opinion.

the current advice is to leave weaning until 6 months and franjly I dont think it is ok to say " my child was fine" we know better now I was driven around in the car with no seatbelt I wouldnt allowed my children to do so "but I was fine" Doesnt mean that you should do so

^they need nothing but bm
end of^

ah, now trin

nowhere has the OP said that this baby is exclusively breastfed

Let the baby's dad be involved, FGS. It's not going to harm her, and it's really important for them both...not that he's shouted down for doing something he (and probably she) finds amusing.

Otherwise the next AIBU is 'dh never wants to do anything with dd. I'd just like to be able to leave them together to get some time on my own, but he really doesn't feel confident.'

'feeding a 4 1/2 month old against the wishes of the person responsible for the (assumed) majority of her care at the moment.'

That's a big assumption. My DH is the main carer for my 5 month old. And that doesn't make me any less her parent, either. We discuss things, no one dictates to the other.

I think the guidelines on weaning are not talking about tiny tastes of things. I'm sure she's still 'living' off milk (bm or not)

FWIW, I have 3 kids who survived on bm till 6 months (other than a few tastes here and there), but they did spit out baby rice and I was quite glad (disgusting stuff) - so it was onto 'proper' food sharpish.

He hasn't done it often (yet), but he has changed a nappy even less often.....

And AnyFucker is eagle-eyed - my DD is bottle-fed - have explained why in another thread, so won't be justifying here

I think licking something is different to eating it isn't it?

flossie, I wasn't questioning what milk you were feeding your baby, not in the slightest

but I was a bit why someone would assume that bm is the "only" thing a baby should need

because this thread ain't about that, so it ain't even a consideration, tbh

there is nothing wrong with bottlefeeding babies.

Let the child's dad be involved - if you start dictating how your DH/DP acts towards his OWN child you will only have yourself to blame if he doesn't pull his weight as a parent in the future - there are plenty of threads on here complaining that dads don't do enough - it seems to me that too many mums are controlling what their child's father can/can't do. You trusted this man enough to have a child with him - surely a bit of chocolate mousse is neither here nor there in the grand scheme of things.

grease, this isn't a BF versus FF thread

Respect works both ways

He is not harming the baby ... they are bonding

Agree with greaseistheword, though I suspect that comment might kick things off a little!

yes i know that.i was just saying cause others were saying all babies before 6 months needed was breastmilk.

YANBU.

I wouldn't like it either, but that is only my opinion. If I had decided to wait 6 months, I wouldn't expect DH (or anyone else for that matter) to give my baby anything else ('licks' or not).

Not to get into a debate about FF vs BF, if she is having enough to swallow it, is that not bad for her gut? (Or whatever we are told weaning too early is bad for) I thought the ideal was BM for 6 months, if not then FF for 6 months, no food at all. I was made to feel bad about FF my baby from a few months but she could have been eating chocolate mousse? I am fairly relaxed about these things and did start weaning at under 6 months but am baffled by the differences of opinion.

I think YANBU.

When she´s being weaned he can feed her then.

no, don't go there

my comment was about whether babies up to 6 months should have any milk exclusively, or whether they should have the odd hula-hoop or two

i didny say it was you.

OK, backtracking then, are the guidelines that babies should have only milk for 6 months for a good reason? If so, is eating any food, enough to get into the stomach, a bad idea? I though it was.