Hello all,
well said @Saultanpepper.
Im a freemason and again will happily answer any questions.
The big worry people seem to have is the secrecy aspect.
It's only recently started to change and so hasn't filtered into the wider public fully yet.
The secrecy element (passwords/ritual etc)is based on the fact that before recognised and registered qualifications were in place and with many of the populace being illiterate, skills were taught by example. Only when you had achieved a certain expertise, would you be able to progress to the next lesson. This has just been dramatised for use in a social setting and saves us getting our suits dirty.
Secondly and more relevant to todays society- during WW2, the nazi party executed masons along with any other group they felt promoted ideas differing from their own (acceptance of all, regardless of faith, ethnicity, social background or sexuality). Soldiers were told to keep membership a secret and was even included in the official secrets act due to such a high number of soldiers being members.
This is a big reason for it 'going underground'.
Before the war freemasonry was very public. It was a social club involved in community events and members would parade in full regalia.
Also, we're not really meant to ask anyone to join. I have brought in several new brothers without asking them to join. I can talk freely about anything I want but they have to show an interest and ask me. Never wait to be asked to join since it generally doesn't happen that way.
My wife knows my ritual better than i do!!! when im trying to learn my lines, she's the one i rehearse with :)
I hope that has helped and answered some questions.