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To expect my wife to return to work?

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Christhebear · 04/10/2010 21:14

My wife and I have been married for 8 years. Our son was born in January this year. We waited a while before conceiving as we wanted to travel and basically have a good time before we had children.

My wife is an accountant and I am a senior partner in a large company. We both have extremely stressful and demanding jobs. My wife announced to me that she wants to resign as she finds her job extremely stressful and wants to stay at home to look after our son.

This is causing massive arguments because to continue the lifestyle we have we need two incomes. My wife is basically not the person I thought she was. She spends most of the day either shouting at me or crying, never does any cleaning, rarely cooks and basically devotes all her attention to our son. I have found a very good nursery for him but every time I bring it up she melts down and starts crying. She says that she doesn't need things anymore and is quite happy to just be a mother. I am not happy with this as I enjoy the finer things in life which I work bloody hard for and I am entitled to.

I don't know what to do anymore and I am contemplating an affair as our sex life is non existent. She is also breastfeeding which I think is impacting on her mental health as our son seems to be always on the breast.

Any advice from the female aspect would be appreciated.

Thank you.

OP posts:
LittleMissHissyFit · 04/10/2010 22:53

no one is compelled to answer posts.

back at ya sm...

Or did some idiot make you forum monitor?

Rollmops · 04/10/2010 22:53

It's official. Collective IQ of the members of these hallowed halls is sinking faster than FTSE...
Oooeerrr, Missus, it's simply too 'cringey' to read all these well meaning posts in response to a rather dull piss-take that this thread is...

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 22:55

chris, I believe you are for real

I want to help you out here

I believe that you are entitled to fuck around while your baby is using up all your wife's attention

I can assist you

pm me your number and we can take it from there

oh, and I am gagging for it, I love a real man

< blows kiss >

MadAboutQuavers · 04/10/2010 22:55

I'm 35 weeks pg

However, I judge this to be a VIRTUAL campari and soda

Thanks cupcakes my sweet! Smile

scottishmummy · 04/10/2010 22:56

hissyfit i think all the ejits are preoccupied trollhunting,thought youd be with them.y'all so similar

cupcakesandbunting · 04/10/2010 22:57

Grin AnyFucker.

Interesting to note that most of us doubt the OP's authenticity but have decided to proffer help regardless, in the interests of "benefit of the doubt". Itchy beard, you're all harlots and you're sniffing around because it's a bloke.

MadAboutQuavers · 04/10/2010 22:57

AnyFucker, you are utterly priceless Grin

Appletrees · 04/10/2010 22:58

oh it's not a troll

are you really whinging about feeling helpless?

well obviously you're not helpless just utterly self-centred and throwing your hands up, you just feel helpless because you can't fix things so that YOU get what YOU want

you're not helpless as far as she is concerned but you just don't want to see that

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 22:58

do put a sock in it, scottishmummy

I am on a fucking promise here and you are going to ruin it

Rollmops · 04/10/2010 22:59

Scottishmum..., take a wee drum of something and settle down. Now, that's a good girl. All in spirit of cooperation and universal happines. Skool!

cupcakesandbunting · 04/10/2010 22:59

Eh? I'm not an eejit.

Troll-hunting is a bit of an over-reaction. We're not baying for his blood with pithforks and torches. We've had a chuckle at the incredibly suspect OP. Nothing more.

Benefit of the doubt; I hope that Abbey enjoyed her bath. I'm sure that there will be a follow-up post tomorrow about how she got out of the bath and put on some Kenny G/La Perla and sucked him dry. Looking forward to it.

LadyBiscuit · 04/10/2010 23:00

After my experience with that Irish column of meat I am never going to tell anyone I'm up for it again.

scottishmummy · 04/10/2010 23:00

and miss a chance to poke troll patrol eejits.unlikely!

you gals are priceless.top turkey

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 23:01

Grin at sucked him dry

I was hoping to do that

the night is yet young...

< checks inbox at 30 sec intervals >

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 23:02

LB..you loved it, you ikkle liar Grin

Rollmops · 04/10/2010 23:02

Aha - Op IS scottichmum...! I iz a genius, no! Grin

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 23:03

sexism

it's the new romance, dontcha know

it wets my whistle, that is for sure

cupcakesandbunting · 04/10/2010 23:03

Nwh. OP doesn't type like Rab C Nesbitt Wink

expatinscotland · 04/10/2010 23:03

I don't think he's a troll. Although, Chris, just so you know, a serious and very damaging troll was just uncovered here a few nights ago so it's all a bit crazy here just now.

I am very grateful for my husband when I read posts like yours, though, for all he was only 24 when our first was born, he was way, way, way more mature than you are now.

You've received some good advice here.

When you have a baby, your old life is gone. It just is. Even if you have millions in the bank and can afford to outsource everything, it's still not the same.

That's how it is.

I'm surprised you two didn't discuss this before she gave birth, but now your child is here, he has to be no. 1 for now.

Because he relies on your both for everything.

scottishmummy · 04/10/2010 23:03

genius.fuck me all that watching diagnosis murder.who'd have thunk you so priddy and clever sitting there on mn

Tiredmumno1 · 04/10/2010 23:07

AF - pmsl you never fail to make me smile

Rollmops · 04/10/2010 23:08

[twirls hair] Pweetty, how'd you know? And clever, now that's of course, obvious. Hmm
However, I do like trolls but they absolutely must be clever. Wasting bandwidth in such dull manner is against the law.
Goodnight.

Mumcentreplus · 04/10/2010 23:08

lol@ sucked dry..

AnyFucker · 04/10/2010 23:08

I am deadly serious, TM

you don't understand, I thought I was getting a new boyfriend

I must be losing my touch

or my mind, one or the other Grin

LadyBiscuit · 04/10/2010 23:10

I do love a big bit of Irish Sirloin you're right

I should just bend over and oblige. Oh no, look, all these other women already doing it Hmm