to want labiaplasty

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This isn't a joke. Since having 3 huge babies,(last one was nearly 11 lbs), my inner fanjo lips have turned a hideous grey/brown colour and hang down about 2 inches outside the outer ones. I just think they look vile. I have only just realised that you can have an op to have them "trimmed". On the same day that I read about this, I read a description in the novel I was reading of a woman's bits, describing "the dark red bud enclosed by the pink petals". It was such a contrast with the way mine look. It's not as though I go about flashing my fanjo at everyone but I have to see it in the shower, going to the loo etc and I hate it. I mentioned the possibility of getting it "fixed" to a friend who plans to have surgery done to everything - boobs, face, tummy etc and she gave me this lecture about how it's totally misogynistic etc. I find this really hypocritical. What's the difference between a boob job and a fanjo job? I probably won't ever actually go through with it but just wondered what people thought.

It's your body so you have to do what you think is right. But to bo honest nobody's vagina / vulva is particularly attractive, whether they've had children or not.

I'm sure it will be extremely painful to recover from and you risk a post-op infection as they're common place these days.

Where on earth did fanjo come from? We're adults now: it's a vagina!

It's getting alot of press at the mo too- because it's illegal to mutilate genitals for cosmetic purposes, you have to state that it is causing you physical discomfort

it's something i reeeally wanted done for years, had even booked a consultation with angelica kavounis who specializes in that field. but that was because of the pain/discomfort issue rather than appearance. sorry for the overshare but if you have longer labia lips than average i think it causes quite a bit more discomfort if you have thrush (which i had recurrent bouts of due to taking antibiotics).

A1...that is not strictly true

a vagina is the birth canal, and we are not talking about that

Hedgeblunder, sorry but you are totally wrong. You may have to plead physical discomfort if you want the op on the NHS but if you go private then it's no different from having any other kind of cosmetic surgery, you're paying for a service.

It's not 'mutilation' why on earth would you call it that? And it's certainly not illegal!

I think if it isn't actually causing physical discomfort then it is probably easier and less painful to get your head sorted out.

Mine look OK, they are fully functional so I have to admit I don't actually think about it at all.

I think porn has a lot to answer for. It's normal for the inner labia to hang down but because images of NORMAL fanjos are hard to come by (maybe someone should start a website called normalfanjos.com ), it perpetuates this idea that larger labia are abnormal/disgusting/whatever.

I think plastic surgeons who charge thousands of pounds to mutilate women are crooks, actually. Honestly, unless you're in discomfort or they're hanging down at your knees, it's completely unnecessary. It is really worth having the procedure, when only you and your partner (and the occasional nurse doing a cervical smear) will [i]ever[/i] see? I think it's much easier - and cheaper - to instead get a little bit of perspective/self esteem and think, you know what? It doesn't actually matter.

There did used to be a website that consisted of just pictures of fanjos. Not that sort of website. An educational one, consisting of just photos of fanjos, without any other part of the woman visible.

I wish I'd kept the address. The variety of colour and shape was amazing.

Also, the very few men I've discussed this with have said that finding out the shape of their new lover's fanjo was an important and intimate part of the process of sexual discovery. None of them cared about the actual shape.

"I haven't even had children yet and mine is not a rosebud enclosed in a cunt or whatever the euphemism was.

Think the abbatoir comment will probably apply when I do..."

Coffee all over keyboard.

I have to say mine is quite tidy, I think, even after four kids born the old fashioned way. I need some repair work done further up, but your labia is your labia and unless there's a medical problem, you'd be daft to fret about what it looks like. I agree, I think porn has a lot to answer for.

i had this done after my 2nd daughter, during birth of my dd1 she managed to come out and stretch the one lip completely down, they reckoned it'd go back but it didn't and my dh made upteen jokes about it being his little friend... i had mine trimmed and a bit of reconstruction because apart from anything else it chaffed a bit i felt like i had to fold myself into my knickers!

its a bit painful afterwards but i'm fine now and my confidence if back altho i don't go flashing it at the old dears in sainsburys!

Go for it!

I went to GP and she gasped when she saw it, she was a young'un no kids so think i put the fear of god into her!

U would say that was medical, yawning, given the chafing issue.

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I think my fanjo is ok actually, 3rd degree tear down the perineum so my actual fanjo lips were unscathed. My boobs however are bloody awful, always have been, developed wrong during puberty. If I could get them sorted on the NHS I would in a heartbeat. The only thing that stops me going to ask is that I want more DCs and a boob job would probably scupper even my measley pathetic supply of breast milk.

Op - I used to have a staunch feminist line on such matters but have mellowed in my old age. I still have a hardline on most cosmetic surgery and procedures but there are some things that just make us feel crap.

Well, I have just googled some "before & after" images.

And it had never occurred to me that there might be anything at all wrong with the way my labia look-until now!

I am very excited by this thread because I am now going to show off.

When I went for 6 week check up with DS2 the Ob/Gyn asked me if I had had a labiaplasty because I have such neat flaps (not sure that "neat flaps" was his exact wording, but you get the idea). I had never even heard of such a procedure until he mentioned it but then I became very intrigued and did some research amongst my embarrassed friends and family (by asking, not looking) and discovered that it must be a genetic thing because my sister, niece and I have all got tidy flaps whereas most other people (including my mum) are a bit, well, flappy.

On balance, I think that I would much prefer to have been blessed with a high IQ (or even a flat stomach). Never mind, can't have perfect everything.

I feel a name change coming on ... Queen of Flaps?

I sometimes accidently trap my flaps in tampon applicators. That's not normal, is it?

However, they were long and flappy before I had children, so I think it's just the way I'm meant to be.

I've never had any complaints.

Oh, that´s OK then, less than neat flaps are perhaps the norm post birth.

Queen-wonder where you got your neat flaps gene from if not your Mum

Maybe men carry a neat flaps gene too? After all, essentially all a ball bag is is labia that have grown and then fused together

I have messy flaps but a lovely, neat little cervix

At my last smear test, the nurse was training someone, and as I don't mind being gawked at/practiced on, she said "have a look at this perfect example of a healthy cervix..."

"More kebab than rosebud here"

pmsl

Let's face it, nobody's is pretty. Even if you have neat inner labia, it's still a pretty odd collection of flesh. (As are men's bits).

I don't have anything ideological against getting it operated on, but I think you should be aware that there is a huge variety out there, it's not like everyone else has a rosebud and you have an elephant's ear.

This was a site someone linked to when this was discussed before.

I think you'll agree it shows a wide variety.

Warning: contains plaster casts of flaps.

To be honest I have never really thought about this we should have a poll on chat labia discriptions.

In all seriousness though I hate my breasts so I understand not sure I would have a breast reduction though but I can understand why someone would.

Mine resembles the remains of a Sunday roast thrown onto a plate

However, i'm too old to go worrying about it now.

Never had any complaints in all my years either.

Minipie, good point Mine is a neat inner flaps and pink but it still looks really ugly to be honest.