to take out my dc who has the pox?

[sleeplessinseatle]

Obviously not to playgroups etc, but I've got a baby at home and don't think I can cope otherwise. Is there anywhere we can safely go where there won't be lots of kids/pregnant women?

Oh for heaven's sake. I don't know what to think at all.

I think you'll find her posting style DID change across threads

I think you'll find her posting style DID change across threads

I agree with Arses - removing a support thread is punishing many people for the alleged crimes of one. Even if (and again, I don't believe it) she turned out to be a troll, so what? If the thread she started has been of help to so many other posters, then why take it away.

if she really was a troll this would have to be not just trolling but a major hoax.
do MN think she set up her house to look like she had had a daughter?

but if they wanted rid of her they didn't have to say she was a troll, they could have just banned her for the blogpost attacking Avril.

I have just posted this on what was up until today our very special thread for bereaved mummies but in my view has now been seriously tainted ..... I think it's impt i also post this here as i know many of you will not see it in bereavement....
I WAS GOING TO EMAIL MNHQ BUT I HAVE DECIDED TO AIR MY VIEWS HERE INSTEAD - SINCE I KNOW HQ WILL SEE IT - AND I WANT OTHERS TO KNOW WHAT I'VE WRITTEN... I FIND IT DEEPLY DISRESPECTFUL DELETING ALL SASSY'S POSTS ESPECIALLY ON THIS THREAD, I HAVE MET HER SEVERAL TIMES, WE'VE BEEN TO EACH OTHERS HOUSES, SHE'S SHARED MY DEAD SON'S SPECIAL PLACES, I'VE BEEN TO HER DAUGHTER'S GRAVE AND LIT A CANDLE IN HER MEMORY, SHE'S A FRIEND OF A FRIEND OF MINE, ETC ETC...

SHOW US YOUR EVIDENCE - QUITE FRANKLY I'VE HAD JUST ABOUT ENOUGH OF THIS.

Dippydemi, Jesus! If I lost my child five months ago I'd be seven different type of people just trying to get through the day! Haven't people got any fucking appreciation of what grief does to someone? Up, down, in, out..

Dee, I'm glad the thread didn't go exactly but as you say, it is a violation of the thread really. Especially that description of the garden etc, which I know motivated others to join you this week.. even those of us who don't really have a "right" to be there.

Deemented :(

It must feel like such a violation.

MNHQ -- I can understand you have a policy of what to do regarding trolls and I am not going to pretend I know better about that; but surely, surely the alterations to the safe haven thread could have been handled with an extra effort to be sensitive? Because it must have been obvious to you that many people who rely heavily on it would be very upset by that.

Is there any chance of another thread being started specifically to sum up and explain/answer queries on the situation and the reasons you had to take action?

So, come on MNHQ - now you've dropped this little bombshell in our laps.

GIVE US THE EVIDENCE YOU SAY YOU HAVE!

This is the definition on MN for a troll

"For those who don't know, a troll is someone who poses as someone else in order to stir up trouble, fulfil their own perverted agenda, or just for the hell of it."

I wonder if the ban was as a result of outing another poster in RL?

Would this not be a reason for banning her?

But it's their use of the word troll that's troubling (thanks for the 'official' definition). They must have reason to think it versus people like ppm who have met her in RL. They're not saying she's had a ban for outing another poster.

They seriously need to clarify this asap.

We don't know because Mumsnet aren't saying.
To drive a bulldozer through a section where bereaved parents find comfort and understanding is beyond insensitive.
Without explanation or apology?
You really are a business aren't you?

I am utterly shocked by this - I cannot believe that SassySusan is a troll. No way.

I also don't believe that MNHQ would ban a member at the behest of a regular, wellknown member (because 'Certain posters on MN have a hell of a lot of clout when crossed, haven't they?') - is it possible that someone has fabricated evidence and convinced MNHQ?

I hope that this can be sorted out and the Safe Haven thread restored.

Ohhh... huzzah, i'm being deleted now!!

Go for it, MNHQ...

eh, dee? where?

I just had a conversation with Sassy on the phone. I am now more convinced than ever that she is genuine. I am now so angry - so very angry. MNHQ we need to know the exact details of the TROLL theory.

To change our thread title is a total and utter disgrace - like Dee said its as if someone has been into our special meeting place and vandalised it - I hope you are proud of yourselves.

See... they can delte all the fuck they like... but they aren't fastcoming with eveidence that Sassy is a troll, are they??

Oh and in case no one has noticed, i am beyond fucking incensed.

This is like the Twilight Zone.

Deemented - would imagine that I will be following you very soon - thats it 'gag the bereaved mums for daring to talk about their lost precious children'

Yes so a troll in this case would indicate that she is posing as someone else?????

(Rather than just being banned for breaching privacy of another poster).

Sorry but the 'outed' person used her real name on an open forum so how exactly was she 'outed' by Sassy?.

Also agree that MNHQ should give more information.

As people know Susan IRL it would be unfair for the comment by MNHQ to stand unchallenged as it may remove some of Susan's RL support.

Suppose she logged in under another name to post a comment that bumped the thread? That would count as trolling yet is not heinous behaviour, neither does it mean that her story isn't true.

Shit, I really wish her story wasn't true.