to be on the verge of a breakdown after 3 days of single-parenting...

[Odysseus]

DH has been working long shifts for the last 3 days and as such, has not seen DS at all. I am KNACKERED.

I would like to take my hat off to single parents who do this day in day out. UTTER RESPECT.

Pass me the wine.

Fermina - feel free to ask me any advice on how to cope with 'single parenting' - I won't snap your head off because you have your DP 2 nights a week.

I agree being a LP has been alot easier since deiscovering MN. I remember starting a thread about it not long after I joined.

Then you get threads like these where someone is saying 'I take my hat off to you' and people manage to find word word in an entire OP to pick holes ion instead of saying Thanks or whatever.

I'll take any praise going frankly. In fact if you complimented me for fabtastic facial hair I'd take it

this is a free country

why dont you feck off you middle clarrrs twat

I did say thanks actually mumbar

And I haven't snapped anyones head off, simply pointed out the difference between looking after children on your own until DP gets home from work, and being a single parent.

Golly - it normally takes people much longer to call me a middle class twat.

No, i am only messing about!!

off to the odd sock thread

OUTRAGEOUS!!

Actually all single parents are lazy feckless dole-bludgers I have no sympathy for them and they all have really easy lives.

My life is much harder and I deserve all the sympathy instead.

I am also better looking, cleverer and more fashionable.

In short I am a better person, and single mums are lazy scum.

(Is this better?)

sobs

i have been a single parent for a grand total of 4190 day!!! yes, i just sat and worked that out
single parenting definitely is not the same as your partner being away! i shoulder all the burdens, if i cock up the finances, there is no other money; i don't share DS's sick days; i figure out all the parenting decisions alone, and feel very out of my depth at times!
for these 4190 (!!!) days i have not had financial support, and if i had it would not be a reliable enough source of income to be able to count on it, therefore it would barely reduce the pressure i am under financially (the incessant worry is the biggest problem). also DS' father has refused to be a parent, so any time out has been arranged, and pleaded for by me
and if us single parents come across as defensive to say the least, it's because we have often learned to be. it can be a cruel and isolating world, and people can treat you very differently when you are a woman on your own.

Single parents = heroes.

goes off to count days, ( self confessed /list maker and organiser-and that was with ex dh here too!!)

"I would like to take my hat off to who do this day in day out."

I fail to see how X can get pissed off about this.

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To those objecting to the title, this is AIBU, it got your attention didn't it?

To the pedants - I used the verb "single-parenting", not the noun which would imply I was one, or was seeing myself on a par with "an actual SP".

I'm afraid I haven't seen any previous SP threads, so did not realise I was going to get roasted. Sorry!! But I still maintain....
UTTER RESPECT!!! And I hope that the SP's reading this can take it in the spirit it was intended. And if it makes some of you feel better, I may have a husband (yes thank-you, you knows for how long, I know!!!), but it doesn't mean my life is a bed of roses!!!!

coalition - I didn't get pissed off about that, have you not read the thread?

Odysseus - apologies, Didn't mean to turn this into a battle over definitions of single parenting/who has it the hardest etc.

I don't take back anything I've previously said, because I meant it. However, I am sorry if I've come across as putting you down for feeling knackered after a hard day. I'm sure you actually did a great job, and deserve that glass of wine.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow

2170

I was a 'duel parent'. for 390 days

I would probably have to admit that the 2170 have been easier in some ways - but not necessarily for the right reasons and I still thank Odysseus and think she's getting an unecesssary roasting

OP has not had anymore of a roasting than I have! And I have apologised now on several occasions!

Fair enough but I've not posted to you at all or mentioned you but you've taken my comments as directed at you

I'm taking the compliments as I don't get many !

Actually Odysseus if you were a single parent you would get into a routine and be more organized. Only because you'd have to.

I don't get any financial support, I work full time and have to cover all sick days and holidays myself. My ex has just started seeing the boys again after neark 2 years so no weekends off either.

But it's still better than being married to Fuckwit

4745 days single parent here

Lol at Dollytwat

No maintenace here either for 2190 days. I've had to work full time since the twat left.

But I'm with you, better than being married to Fuckwit.

OP - I don't think you deserve the roasting your getting, but you really haven't been single parenting, it's nothing like, but thanks for the compliment anyway .

Oh, and I hope he gives you a bit of help when he gets back, and a pressie.

Oh Monty I've had 2170 days single parenting - also no maintenence or contact from the Ex-p. But I never actually married the fuckwit . Although we were engaged.

Mumbar - Phew!
Wish I could say the same about contact. The twat lives faaaarrrr too near.

Oh and you're in my last post.

Seeing as I have 3 kids am I allowed to treble my days?

If you like lady

I actually never realised the comparison before this thread - it was an eye opener to me to relise how long I've been a LP