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Original poster

To not reprt afriend for benefit fraud even tho she has told me she is livin with her partner but pretending she doesn't?

162 replies

burgerandchipswithredsauce · 08/09/2010 00:54

My friend has told me that her partner is living with her but pretending he ives with his mother so that friend can claim benefits for herself and her 3 children whilst her partner works fulltime to earn money to enable them to afford luxuries that most working families can only dream of.

AIBU not to report them because I am afraid of losing her friendship even though I do not agree with her lifestyle.

BTW myself and OH work all the hours God sends to provide ourselves and our children with basic essentials. We have no money left at the end of the week for an evening out as we cannot afford a babysitter. We have to pay our rent in full - no HB for us as we are a working family. We also have to pay full costs for childminding as we are not a single parent family. Our council tax costs per month push us over the edge.

Also our children have to have a packed lunch every day for school because we cannot afford to pay for hot school dinners. My friends children, however, get their hot school dinners free.

Friend has been awarded over £500 for a laptop for her eldest to have access to the internet so that he is not made to feel different from his peers - even though friend already has 3 PC's at her home. We have a secondhand PC which is well past its sell by date but cannot afford a laptop as we make sure our bills are paid on time as our priority.

Friend has informed us that she is going to try for another baby because that will enable her to obtain a larger house for her family. We live in a (very) modest two up, two down terraced house and would love to have another child but cannot afford to move to a larger house to make this possible. As the law states the ages of my children it would be against the law for different sexes over the age of 8 to share a bedroom. Because of this law the LA go all out to house families on benefits accordingly.

Am I jealous? Yes in monetary value I suppose I am, but overall I think I would prefer my children to know they have a mother and a father who is always there for them and will always put them first.

OP posts:
tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:11

Is it now?

Original poster
burgerandchipswithredsauce · 09/09/2010 23:14

Oooh you are so witty - NOT! Scummy yes but not witty!

Can't be arsed with this thread anymore the intelligence is draining - YAWN!.

I have done what I had to do and now I am going back to a forum where people show some intelligence.

I hope it is not too long before you have the police at your door - In fact I know it won't be too long!

See you in Court haha!

OP posts:
tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:15

Why on earth would I have the police at my door?

tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:15

How about now?

tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:15

Have I been burgled?

tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:16

Did you hear that, usual? I'm scummy. Beat that.

BeerTricksPotter · 09/09/2010 23:16

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tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:17

How about now?

sheepgomeep · 09/09/2010 23:20

you sound absolutely charming burger and chips Hmm

tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:23

She's not that bad. She's taking me to court... admittedly an odd place for a first date, but she said she'd see me there. What else could she mean?

tethersend · 09/09/2010 23:26

Is it now?

Dione · 09/09/2010 23:28

Not another "I'm jealous of my friend and so am going to squeal on her to the authorities so that they can spend as much if not more investigating, prosecuting and punishing my friend as they will save and fuck her kids" thread.

Giddyup · 09/09/2010 23:38

Surely the lovely burgers isn't a real human being? and is Burgers also Finn54 and Justusfive? Surely not more than one person per threads entire persona can just be shit quotes from the online forum of a provincial free newspaper?

fin54 · 09/09/2010 23:39

Why should working people pay tax to keep scum on the dole ????? I for one agree with shopping them, why should I work to keep them in the comforts I have to pay for by working my butt off

Dione · 09/09/2010 23:42

fin, why don't you go on the dole then? After all, you'll get all those luxuries without the hassle of working, so please tell me: Why are you still working?

fin54 · 09/09/2010 23:48

because I wouldnt'get the dole as easy as people who have never worked, and by the way I would have thought that seen you know everything about claiming money from the goverment, I would be banned from getting anything for 6mths by leaving my job.
Oh and I also have my self respect by working and earing money.

Dione · 09/09/2010 23:53

Then be happy with yourself and the decisions you have made and stop doing your own head in moaning about everyone else.

lookatthetime · 09/09/2010 23:55

To the people who agree with benefit fraud I can only say why don't you go and find yourselves a job and pay tax to keep other people and their kids and their grandchildren and their kids etc etc etc and then learn that most of them are comitting benefit fraud?

Maybe then you will realise why the British Taxpayer is sooo pissed off with benefit claimants and fraudsters.

To the last few posters I say that if you can't find a job maybe you could go to college and gain an education.

lookatthetime · 09/09/2010 23:57

But then again the last few posters are obviously the same person. There cannot be that many ignorant buffoons on one thread surely??

Giddyup · 09/09/2010 23:59

I keep missing posts I think, which posters on this thread agree with benefit fraud?

fin54 · 10/09/2010 00:02

Ye try living legally and watching every other moron around you spending your tax money and see how you feel about it

JockTamsonsBairns · 10/09/2010 00:03

Want2BSupermum - you have loads of friends around England who have each found a house available and worth buying from the council? really? Where?

OP -
Roffling at you thinking that taxes will be reduced if more and more 'benefit cheats' are dobbed in.

Roffling even more at you finding out just today that your benefit fraudster friend has booked a cruise Grin. Come off it, you are making this up now!

Dione · 10/09/2010 00:04

Look, I am at college (2nd year). However it is not as easy as you make out. My college had their funding cut by 1/3 this year. The course that I am on had over 150 applications for just over 30 places and that is with the tutors taking larger classes than in previous years. Yes indeed the government are really arsing this up, cutting jobs, cutting college places and then moaning about rise in claimants.

Perhaps you could write to them about this instead of encouraging people to steal jobs from those people who are paid to combat benefit fraud.

Dione · 10/09/2010 00:05

Fin, I do live legally. I am a pillar of society.

lookatthetime · 10/09/2010 00:05

Well there's you and your other pseudo personas!